The saddest difference-poor children and rich children

When I first met the hit article "It is difficult for a poor family to produce a rich family", the difference in job opportunities between children from poor families and children from rich families, as far as I am concerned, only existed in the conscious world. Even, I don't particularly believe that the growth environment of the difference between the rich and the poor can make such a big difference in the shaping of a child.

I experienced this difference for myself recently. The biggest feeling is embarrassment.

I got a job as a contract temporary worker in a public institution through an interview. The specific job is to be an editor of zf.

There are three other people who entered the experimental work with me. Xiao Lin, the child of a cadre in this city, is a recent graduate of B-class undergraduate colleges. He has good professional quality and other abilities. He is an all-round talent, with relevant work experience, initiative and enthusiasm, and can get along with the leaders. Some leaders knew his father and even watched him grow up. I live in a villa and drive my father's car.

The second little friend is Xiao Jia. Xiao Jia's specific work is editing, layout design and so on. Xiao Jia, who was born as an art student and graduated from a B-class design major in an undergraduate college, has no doubt about his professional ability. Excellent foreign trade, good at dressing up, praised by leaders for their outstanding appearance many times. My family is in good condition. As a fresh graduate, I already have my own car, wear a brand-name necklace and use a brand-name bag.

The third is Xiaoyan. Xiaoyan is in charge of the work of reporters. Graduated from Chinese Department of A-level college. Have certain word processing ability, lack of professional political writing ability. A little introverted, a little shy, and simply dressed. Family conditions are average. She said that after working for more than a year, she would collect the fees for learning to drive and then sign up for a driver's license.

The fourth is me. Returnees who have worked in foreign companies for more than two years and "fled" from big cities mean that their hometown has developed well. They choose independently and go home to start over. I don't have the qualification of recruitment major, but I have similar work experience. The professional quality is not high, and people are more mature than recent graduates. Family conditions are average. The whole family expects me to find a job with a higher salary.

? It goes without saying that Xiao Lin and Xiao Jia belong to rich children, while Xiao Yan and I belong to poor children.

? The difference between us and them is really not as simple as being poor and rich.

Generally speaking, Xiao Lin and Xiao Jia are more relaxed. Xiao Yan's mentality is to seize this hard-won opportunity to work in a public institution, and I am calculating the difference between salary and expenditure.

Xiao Lin and Xiao Jia are not obsessed with the nature of the unit at all. They will show strong enthusiasm for understanding the work characteristics of the unit, but they don't see any regrets and worry that they won't stay after the trial work. Kobayashi tends to regard the failure of staying in school as a good experience. Xiao Jia, however, was full of confidence and told his family that he would definitely stay smoothly.

? It can be seen that Xiaoyan cherishes this job opportunity. In the graduation season, Xiaoyan must have gone through the job-hunting process for more than a year from her junior year, from a big city to her small county, from choosing her own company to choosing her own company. I experienced the hesitation in her heart. If I am also a fresh graduate now, I will, like Xiaoyan, completely grasp this straw and institution. Xiaoyan said the most: "If this company finally chooses me, I will definitely stay. I hope this unit can keep me. " ?

I think Xiaoyan has "blindly fallen in love" with this unit, but she has not objectively understood and evaluated whether this unit conforms to her own ability and long-term life planning.

Actually, neither have i. I have been counting money, and I want to know whether this work experience will have a positive impact on my future position in public institutions. I am more utilitarian. After working for two years, I gradually found that my personal hobbies must be based on money. Looking for a job depends on the salary first. The job content that you can accept is not necessarily the job that you loved since childhood.

There is no doubt about the professional ability of two rich children. Moreover, they can drive, use SLR cameras, use complicated electrical appliances, get expensive IELTS certificates and use difficult software. Apart from their academic performance, they may not be good in the traditional sense, because they just went to a B-type college.

Xiaoyan and I, two children from poor families, can go to colleges and universities above Class A, and we are the winners in the canoeing war. But our comprehensive ability is poor and our knowledge is not wide. In our daily work, we are often left out because we can't be here or there, and the opportunity falls on others.

My poor comprehensive ability has caused me a lot of losses, especially when I first came out to look for a job. Many people asked me if I could play the piano or dance, but I couldn't.

As for why we poor children are so different from rich children? The reason is simple: money. For the children of poor families and their families, the meaning of money is indescribable.

For me, since I was a child, my parents had no extra money for me to learn other skills except tuition. From an early age, I can only watch others take computer lessons, piano lessons, calligraphy lessons, dance lessons and so on. When I was in college, I tried to work part-time. In addition to a part-time job on campus, I often look for a part-time job outside school and worked as a Taobao for a while. I even skip classes sometimes to take a part-time job. I regret it very much now As a student, I should study hard, study the courses in school, and make good use of the time when I can control myself to learn a lot of other knowledge.

However, when I was in college, I only had one thought-making money early and supporting my family early. I regret very much now, and I can only regret it. Allow me to go back to the past, I can't change my mind at that time.

Let's talk about Xiaoyan again I know her past, mainly through her circle of friends and weekdays. Her college life is very similar to mine. She works part-time everywhere and often makes herself very tired. She is eager for something, nervous and stingy with money.

Looking at her is like looking at me. We are all trapped in the wheel of fate, unconsciously.

The time that should have been spent on study was spent on "shouldering the burden of family". We should have spent more money to get more learning resources, but we didn't. National compulsory education is a straw that we can seize to change our destiny. We studied hard and made progress every day, and finally we were admitted to an undergraduate school with a class above. We naively think that we have succeeded. However, in the face of a diversified society, our ability seems so unsuitable for social development.

I don't know whether it's personality or real experience. Xiaoyan and I are not as sociable as Xiao Lin and Xiao Jia. The two of them are generous. They often communicate with and help leaders, and their voices often appear. Xiaoyan and I are relatively silent, and we will not take the initiative to express our opinions or take the lead. At this point, I am deeply ashamed of my poor social skills. After all, I have been working for two years, probably because I hardly had to communicate with others in my last job. )

Xiao Jia is very sociable. Every time the leader comes, she immediately delivers tea. When clinking glasses with the leader, she knew that the edge of her cup was lower than that of the leader. She knows that the hand that makes tea for the leader should be put behind her back. In addition to being familiar with the leader, she has a good relationship with the person in charge of the office. For example, when you get off work, you say goodbye to the person in charge of the office. If you get off work at the same time, you will go the same way as the person in charge.

Xiao Lin, his strong social skills are mainly reflected in his good use of his personal resources. As mentioned above, many leaders in the system know Kobayashi and his father. Kobayashi often mentions him intentionally or unintentionally in his work. These people know him. In this way, leaders will pay more attention to Kobayashi.

PK mentality, PK ability, PK socialization, and rich children seem to have won. Dig into the reason, can you see that money is at work? A fatal shortcoming of children from poor families is occlusion. Locked in your own circle, you think you study hard, but it's a bit far from the world.

And it is fate that keeps the children of poor families in the circle. Awkward.

As a child of a poor family, I see this difference every day now, and I am looking for a breakthrough. Simply put, it is to make yourself no longer occluded. May I succeed.