Mom, are you really dead? I want a mother too

The National Day holiday is here, and there are people everywhere happily and busy returning to their hometowns.

In the kindergarten, parents hurriedly picked up their children and hugged them with quilts. The children ran and laughed happily like birds out of their cages. Shouting "It's holiday, I'm so happy!"

The path outside the kindergarten was full of laughter and laughter. The candied haws and marshmallow vendors at the door were very busy, with smiles on their faces.

At this time, a discordant voice sounded: "I don't know, you can eat whatever you want!" The shout was loud and angry. Everyone looked sideways, and the grandma was riding a bicycle with the child. Yes, the nagging and cursing all the way.

I don’t know where this grandma’s anger comes from. Every time she picks up her child, she yells and hates her every time she talks to her. The child is always timid, either speaking softly or speaking softly. No more talking.

A child is a child after all. Even though she is yelled at and scolded, she still cannot remember. She will still ask her grandma some things, and she will still want marshmallows and small toys, but grandma never buys them. Always angrily saying "I have no money!".

Three years ago, my child just entered kindergarten. She would act coquettishly and make trouble after school, and she would want her grandma to care and love her. However, this grandma never cared about the child, and often yelled and scolded the child. , even grandma would ride in front and say I don’t want you anymore, don’t follow me. The little girl cried and chased after him. Some parents say don’t let your child cry and hurry up and get the child into the car. But grandma didn’t listen and would still ride forward.

One time, the teacher happened to see her after get off work. He hugged her, wiped away her tears, and comforted her softly. The little girl cried and said: "Teacher, my grandma doesn't want me anymore. I... "

The teacher said: "Yi Nuo, don't cry anymore. How could grandma not want you? Come on, the teacher will take you to find grandma."

The teacher took the children to catch up. Grandma, said to grandma: "Auntie, don't let your children run behind you. There are a lot of cars and it's very dangerous." Grandma changed her smile and said, "The teacher is off work. She is disobedient and annoying." Bring it with you. The child is gone.

Nowadays, children rarely cry and are always quiet. Occasionally, a question will arouse grandma's dissatisfaction. Perhaps her happiest days were in kindergarten.

It’s a holiday. How will the children spend the seven days?

I don’t know why this grandma is so angry. Maybe as she gets older, she develops various physical discomforts, and she has to pick up and drop off her children every day, and take care of her children’s eating, drinking, and diarrhea. Trifles annoy her.

But wasn’t all this a predictable outcome for her?

Five years ago, Yinuo's parents divorced. Dad gave a very lame reason: Yinuo’s mother was too busy and didn’t want the couple to separate and get a divorce! As for their separation, they live in the same urban area, one in the east and the other in the west. The driving distance is only half an hour at most.

The child’s mother disagreed and tried to persuade her, but to no avail. In order to save the marriage, she proposed that if they divorced, she would want all the family property and not the children.

At that time, Yinuo was less than a year old, with big dark eyes like obsidian, fair skin, and wore fashionable high-top sandals and a white princess dress in summer. Grandma took her to play in the garden of the community, and sat in the pavilion in the park and talked, saying that her daughter-in-law was away from home every day and did not do housework. Her son said that she wanted a divorce, and that her daughter-in-law only wanted money and not children. She said that her son agreed, but she did not agree. , she said that she would tell her son to go to court and sue him, and whatever the verdict was, why should he give her all the family savings? Several houses in the family belong to the old couple, and the daughter-in-law can't separate them at all. Doesn't she want children? I will never let her see the child again.

At this time, Yinuo was ignorant and just learned to walk. He always looked at everyone laughing and looked at grandma laughing.

I saw how beautiful Yinuo was. She had no idea that she was going to be without a mother. She was really pitiful.

After grandma left, people in their village said that Yinuo’s father didn’t resent the separation. He was obviously in love with the hair-washing girl in his shop, and he took her home many times. You can tell by looking at it. Yinuo's mother is so beautiful and can still do it, but they are not satisfied.

Yinuo’s mother is from the Northeast. When she was in college, she often went to the barber shop near the school to get her hair done. At that time, Yinuo’s father was a shareholder and a master chef in this barber shop. Yinuo's father did not do well in studies after graduating from junior high school, so he learned the art of barbering and has been in the society for a few years.

Yinuo's mother is young, beautiful and has a lively personality. The two of them get along well after a while. Grandma Yinuo objected. How could I find a shaver after finally getting into university? But Yinuo's mother was so overwhelmed by love that she secretly lived with Yinuo's father.

After graduation, Yinuo’s mother did not look for a job related to her major. Instead, she followed the arrangement of Yinuo’s father and bought a store next to the barber shop. Yinuo’s mother opened a daily cosmetics and beauty shop. Yinuo's mother is beautiful herself, and she quickly mastered it after just a few months of learning.

Eyebrow shaping, massage, scraping, skin care, facial masks, and later I also learned eyebrow tattooing and lip bleaching. The business is getting better and better. Of course, her starting capital came from Yinuo’s father.

Because she is busy with her career, Yinuo’s mother rarely does housework, and she was not very good at it. I also grew up as a coquettish girl at home. Because she never wanted children, her grandma criticized Yinuo's mother.

The couple had a child five years after their marriage and their careers were stable. By this time, Yinuo's father had returned to Qiaoxi to open a store. This store is very large. It is a store that was renovated in their urban village. They own the property rights of their own home and are also allocated four houses. Yinuo's father's net worth has doubled. His family's conditions were good before, but now they are even better.

During the confinement period, Grandma Yinuo came to take care of her. The two places were thousands of miles apart, and their eating habits were different. Conflicts arose. The mother-in-law felt that her daughter-in-law was not good enough, and she turned to her own mother for everything. Take her mother-in-law seriously. Thus, the conflict began.

Yinuo’s mother went to the store again soon after giving birth. Since she had no milk, Yinuo gave it to her grandma. At first, grandma herself brought it up. Grandma felt upset when she saw Yinuo's mother doing nothing at home. Even though Yinuo's mother gave her a lot of money, she still couldn't bear to buy her clothes.

Yinuo’s mother went to work. At first, I went home every day. Later, one of the store clerks got married and resigned. Yinuo's mother became even busier, and Yinuo was almost one year old, so she didn't go back often.

The couple's relationship is suffering from the seven-year itch. Beauty shops are often open late, as are barbershops. Therefore, Yinuo's parents often didn't go home and always spent the night in the store. The two usually only see each other once every half month.

Yinuo’s father proposed to let Yinuo’s mother go home to look after the children, and the beauty shop was sold out. Yinuo's mother disagreed, and Yinuo's father said she would get a divorce if she disagreed. Yinuo's mother was confused and didn't believe that Yinuo's father really wanted a divorce. She didn't want to lose her career, nor did she want to give in. He said angrily that divorce is fine as long as the money is paid and no children.

Yinuo's father sued, and Yinuo's mother realized that she really wanted a divorce, and she realized that she wanted a child. However, there was a recording of her saying she didn't want the child, and the fact that she had never taken care of a child. There are also children who only look for their grandma and not their mother. All this made Yinuo's mother really give up on her child. Maybe she was still thinking about how they could get divorced after so many years of relationship. Even if they divorced, they would remarry.

I got divorced on such an impulse. When she looked back, she found that her husband had become someone else's husband, and she was not allowed to see her children. She made trouble several times. She had no relatives in this city, how could she make trouble with other locals.

Yinuo lived happily with her grandma. With the sudden death of grandpa, grandma began to become irritable.

Dad is married and has a little brother with his stepmother. Grandma gets annoyed when she sees Yinuo, who looks more and more like her mother. Grandma makes a promise every day, just like her dead mother.

When Yinuo grew up, she envied her younger brother and said she wanted to go home, but her parents didn't want her. Later, the children said that her mother was her younger brother's mother, not her mother, and her mother didn't want her anymore. Yinuo asked grandma: "Where is my mother?" "Dead!" Grandma replied rudely.

It was holiday, and Yinuo wanted to go to kindergarten to meet her teacher Zhang. But it's a holiday. Yinuo does his homework and helps his grandma choose vegetables.

Grandma would take her out to play in the park. Grandma would dance in the square, and Yinuo would play with the children nearby. Grandma took her to the vegetable market, and she helped her carry things. Her father's store is right at the entrance of the community. She sometimes goes to the store to play with her father. When her father is not busy, her younger brother always sits on his lap. Yinuo doesn't like it. My mother always hugged her younger brother, took him to buy food and toys, and always asked Yinuo to go find her grandma. She knows that her mother is not her mother, so she doesn't like her.

During the holiday, my father and his family came to grandma’s house for dinner. Grandma cooked a lot of delicious food. After buying moon cakes and fruits, grandma talked to her brother with a smile and called her eldest grandson.

Yinuo was watching TV on the side. Yinuo was sleepy and went back to the house to sleep, but grandma was always sitting in the living room chatting with her father and holding her brother. Yinuo was lying on the bed, opened the curtains, and saw the stars in the sky. She heard that people will turn into stars when they die. She was looking at it. Which one is her mother? Which one is the brightest? "Mom, where are you? Are you really dead? I miss you so much, I want my mother!"

It was late at night, and Yinuo fell asleep. Who could detect the tears in the corners of his eyes? Who can understand?

Dad always buys Yinuo the most fashionable clothes and attends the best kindergarten nearby. He buys Yinuo all kinds of dolls, plush toys, and beautiful headdresses. He feels that he has not treated Yinuo badly. A promise. But he didn't know how grandma treated Yinuo. A small person, but not given tender love. With such a beautiful face, she has a quiet and sensible look that belies her age.

Grandma’s tiredness, grandma’s resentment towards Yinuo’s mother, and grandpa’s death are all enough to make grandma feel bad. However, Yinuo is your granddaughter, and it was you who, through legal means, She was snatched away from her mother through family means. Why can't we treat her well?

When parents get divorced, the children suffer the most. Dad has a home, mom has a home, and she can only stay at grandma's house. Grandma is old and has a bad temper. How can this home be warm?

Looking at the small promise, we as parents should reflect on ourselves. Now that we have children, we must take responsibility for the children. Dads must be responsible for the family, be loyal to the family, and give A perfect home for your children. Mothers must be responsible for their children and cannot ignore them because of their careers. If you miss the opportunity to have a career, if you miss the childhood of your children, you can never go back or make up for it.

Divorce does not mean death. You must overcome all difficulties to see your children more and give them some warmth.

Here, I would like to commend the full-time mothers who gave up their careers to take care of their children. You are not incompetent, you just love your children more, but you are not capable enough to take care of your career and children. Since you choose to work full-time, don't belittle yourself and think you're not good enough. Just take care of your children and family wholeheartedly. It's not too late to start working after your children go to kindergarten.

Working mothers, if their children are taken care of by the elderly, they should spend more time with their children, learn to live in harmony with the elderly, and make the elderly happy.

Mom is not a superman and needs dad to understand. Dad is also a child and needs mother's care and cannot be ignored. Love between husband and wife is a blessing for children. If you love your children, love their dad or mom more. Only when the relationship between husband and wife is good and the marriage relationship is strong can children grow up happily and healthily!