What principles have you realized in life?

First: No matter how poor you are, don’t complain everywhere. Not only will no one pity you, they will even laugh at you.

No matter how poor you are, don’t tell anyone else except your closest relatives. No one will pity you, some may even stay away from you or laugh at you. Just work hard quietly. Second: No matter how rich you are, don’t show it off. Your wealth has nothing to do with anyone else, and no one will envy you.

When you are rich, success is hard-won. It is the result of your hard work. Just know it yourself and don’t show it off to others. You can do charity silently when you are bored. But don't show off to others. The more you show off, the more others will hate you. Third: The most reliable person in the world is yourself. So you have to work hard.

You are reluctant to rely on your closest relatives, but outsiders cannot be relied on. Therefore, the most reliable person in this world is yourself. You have to work hard to become the support of your loved ones. Fourth: Every family has sutras that are difficult to recite. Smart people don't tell others and live their lives quietly. The more harmonious the family is, the less others dare to look down on it.

The poor have the difficulties of the poor, and the rich have the melancholy of the rich. Wise people don’t talk about embarrassing things at home to others. Everyone knows that it is difficult for an upright official to deal with household affairs. If you tell him, no one can help you. It will only make your conflicts get deeper and deeper. Fifth: The harder you work, the more others respect you. This is the rule.

The harder you work, the more motivated and positive you will be in the eyes of others. Everyone will respect you and be willing to reach out to help you. Sixth: Don’t owe others favors easily. If you have no choice but to owe others, you must pay them back in time.

If you can, try not to save trouble and owe others favors. Favor is the hardest thing to return. If you have no choice but to owe a favor. It proves that your ability to deal with people is okay, and you must remember to return the favor in time. Seventh: If you don’t have money, you won’t have connections. This is normal. Don’t complain and work hard to make money.

If you have no money, no matter how hard you try to help others, you will feel insignificant in the eyes of others. You have money, but if you don’t help others, others will praise you. This is normal, don't complain, just calm down and work hard. Eighth: Money is better than favor. If you can settle things with money, try not to get involved in the relationship.

If you can make peace with money, it is best to use money. Money is easy to earn, but favors are hard to repay. It’s nothing more than a few extra days or months of hard work. Favor sometimes cannot be bought with money, and it is not easy to maintain, so use it sparingly. Ninth: In the unit, you must be a person first and then do things. Don’t reverse the order.

In the workplace, always remember to be a person first and then do things. If you are a good person, the leader will tolerate you for small problems at work.

If you do things first and be a person later. No matter how well things are done, you are just a person doing things and will not be reused by the leader. Tenth: Take credit for the things you do yourself. If you don’t take credit, others will take credit for you.

Sometimes, you have to learn to take credit for the things you do. Sometimes it’s so helpless, if you don’t go, countless people behind you will take credit for you.

1. Don’t attribute all failures to your own lack of effort.

You can't handle many things, not because you don't have talent, but because you don't have enough connections and power. Due to information asymmetry and lack of interoperability, many things may not be realized even if you have the intention and ability.

2. Never be a good guy. You are not a god, and there is no need to impress the world. One good deed will be appreciated, two good deeds will be nodded, and after three times, it will become a matter of course, and even some rights may be deprived. The world needs good people, not good old people. I hope all your kindness will be equally respected and rewarded.

3. Learn to keep a lock on your heart, and don’t be tempted to tell others if something is wrong. With no reservations, you are like leaving the country naked, visible to others. When you lose your sense of mystery, you will also lose other people's expectations and surprises for you.

4. Good-looking people have their own recognized attributes and learn to dress themselves up. One is because of self-confidence, and the other is because of temperament in behavior. For others, your external good or bad determines whether they are willing to understand your heart deeply

5. No matter what job you are looking for, following the right leader is the key. The quality of leadership indirectly determines your development space. Although personal strength is the core competitiveness, a good leader will maximize your strength.

6. No matter how good the theory is, it is nonsense if you don’t take action. Useful principles are based on actions. People who only learn without applying will only learn a bunch of memories in their minds and will soon forget them.

7. People who always want to get benefits from you, please leave as soon as possible. What he wants is not you as a person, but your value. Once he gets it, you will be abandoned immediately.

8. People are very strange. The less you have a bottom line, the more they will trample on your bottom line; but the higher your bottom line is, the less they dare to cross it. Therefore, to be a good person with thorns, the more attitude you have, the less likely you will be bullied.

9. There are more good people in the world, but there are also many bad people.

Children’s world: He’s crying, don’t bully him.

Adult world: He is so cowardly, he will be blamed for everything.

At work, don’t be confidant with anyone, and don’t expose your weaknesses in front of everyone casually, because you don’t know who is the evil person with a mask on his face and a butcher knife in his hand.

10. The word "bar" is naturally used to pick up "no".

In adult social interactions, words that are not expressed in a firm tone are used in the negative. When you ask others for help and they hesitate or hesitate, it is better to think of another way out.

11. Stay away from despicable people. No matter what the other person says, he will always say something bitter. You must not have a close relationship with this kind of person, because what he is best at is not providing help when the time is right, but adding fuel to the fire and adding insult to injury. And this kind of person will block all your opportunities.

12. When having sex with others, pay attention to methods. For example: belittling the other party's related things is tantamount to belittling the other party. Belittling the other person's family is even more extreme than belittling the other party.

13. The worse off people are, the more they like to hurt their loved ones. Incompetent parents will blame their children, and incompetent husbands will hurt their wives. Because they don't have the strength to stand up to their bosses.

14. Don’t vent your emotions in the circle of friends, especially when your emotions are out of control. If you are not careful, you will offend a group of people. It will also make onlookers think that you are incompetent and unqualified.

15. Don’t show off how powerful you are. Firstly, it is easy for others to become defensive, and secondly, it is easy to attract a lot of things that you don’t need to do. Smart people know how to portray to others that they are stupid but work hard to make progress.

16. In interpersonal communication, don’t force yourself to please others. The more you cater to others, the less they will take you seriously. The best thing is to improve yourself, become an excellent person in your own field, and let others revolve around you instead of revolve around others.

17. The closer you are to someone, the more you should pay attention to. When you enter society, you must learn how people in society think, be careful about everything, do not have the intention of harming others, and must not have the intention of guarding against others.

When I just graduated, my classmates defrauded me of all my property. I couldn’t eat enough and ate steamed buns for more than a month. This experience taught me that students must be careful in their thinking and must pay more attention to everything.

18. Read more if you have nothing to do. The world is punishing people who don’t read. All principles and laws can actually be found in books, and all knowledge can also be found in books. Our world has always been an external practice of knowledge in books.

19. Output/capacity balance is one of the most common principles in the world. If you violate this principle, you will not be able to do anything well.

Output is what you want to get, such as goals and income; production capacity is the assets or resources you invest.

Most people have forgotten this truth. They want to achieve their goals but are unwilling to put in the corresponding efforts. They want to increase their income but do not want to spend time improving their own value.

To put it bluntly, this is the truth. Only with input can there be output. The balance between short-term and long-term interests is the most ideal state (you must know how to enjoy it, but you must also take into account long-term goals).

20. Human actions are always repeated, so excellence is not a single action, but a habit - Aristotle.

Excellent people are not gifted, but have formed habits through deliberate practice and become part of their subconscious mind. Therefore, the author of "Deliberate Practice" said that genius is the product of deliberate practice.

21. Before the age of 30, you have to work hard to add and try. You don’t know how many possibilities you have, and you don’t know what kind of opportunities fate will give you, so how will you know if you don’t try? Woolen cloth? ——Bai Yansong

22. The biggest difference between the poor and the rich is that the poor continue to buy liabilities and the rich continue to buy assets. Therefore, the assets of the poor continue to decrease while the assets of the rich continue to increase.

According to "Rich Dad Poor Dad", assets are things that put money into your pocket, and liabilities are things that take money out of your pocket. The first step to change is to distinguish between assets and liabilities, and then continue to buy assets.

23. Don’t waste time on things that can be solved with money. Money can be obtained through value exchange, but time is gone after it passes.

25. No matter how good the relationship is, you must be cautious when it comes to money issues. Make it clear when you need to. Don’t feel embarrassed, otherwise you will be the one who suffers. When I first graduated, I trusted my so-called friends too much, and ended up being cheated out of 3,000 yuan.

26. Learn to forget other people’s negative opinions. No matter how well you do, there will always be a group of people who will deny you. This is normal. You cannot make everyone satisfied with you. Just be yourself, this is the best way to give back to them.

27. Chu Shijian’s Quotes: When entering an industry, don’t worry about making money first. Learn to make yourself valuable first. No industry is easy to make money. If you can't make money, earn knowledge; if you can't earn knowledge, earn experience; if you can't earn experience, earn experience; if you earn all of the above, it's impossible not to earn money. There is only one reason why people are confused, and that is that at an age when you should be working hard, you think too much and do too little!

28. After entering society, you must learn to "quietly practice". After entering society, no one will take the initiative to teach you knowledge. If you don't take the initiative to learn, your competitiveness will be weakened little by little. In your spare time, spend less time watching videos, playing less games, and reading more books to improve your professional abilities.

29. Treat developing living habits as a reward. Four occasionally, occasionally go to bed early, occasionally have a night without being disturbed, occasionally exercise to relieve fatigue, occasionally eat healthily. 1. About self-improvement

01. It is impossible to get rich by working part-time. If you want to be rich, you must learn to work hard.

Although working in a company seems stable, the salary increase is very low and development is relatively limited. If you want to increase your income, the best way is to master the skills and become your own boss and let others work for you.

02. We really don’t use the excuse of “youth” very often.

It is normal to make mistakes in your twenties, because we still don’t understand many things, but the excuse of “youth” also has a time limit. I hope you will learn to grow up quickly and don’t make the same mistakes. Second time.

03. It only takes two years to distance yourself from your peers.

I started writing full-time two years ago. There were many pen pals who started writing at the same time as me, but they had long since given up and chose regular 9-to-5 jobs.

And I have been persisting for the past two years, and both readers and income have increased several times.

04. Spend 40 minutes a day learning a skill and you can get started in a month.

If you can spare 40 minutes every day and focus on learning writing or video shooting or other skills, I don’t expect you to gain much after a month, but you will definitely be able to master the most basic introduction.

05. If you don’t work hard in your twenties, it will be too late to regret it after you are in your thirties.

You should try and make mistakes early, and strive early. In your twenties, because there is no pressure from marriage and children, it is easier to concentrate on work and your work efficiency will be higher.

After the age of 30, there are seniors and juniors, and you can no longer devote yourself to hard work. Moreover, once you develop a lazy habit, it will be doubly painful to correct it.

06. You must master the same deep skills. If you don’t understand, just learn them.

For me who didn’t have a diploma or skills, I understand this very well. If you don’t know anything, changing jobs won’t be of much help to you. It’s just a change of environment. , if you want to increase your income, you must have a professional skill.

07. Don’t think about relying on anyone, you have to force yourself to be independent.

Parents, significant other, friends... these people can't be relied on for a while. When you go out, you need to complete many things independently. Whether it is study or life, you must force yourself to be independent as soon as possible.

08. A house is not a necessity, but you should get rid of renting a house as soon as possible.

I used to think it was okay to rent a house all my life, but the older I get, the more I understand the importance of a house. A house is not only a place to sleep and rest, but also represents a person's financial resources and strength.

My current goal is to buy a house as soon as possible. Renting really has too many limitations.

09. If you don’t suffer the hardship of mental activities, you will suffer the hardship of moving bricks in the future.

In my hometown, many people who don’t study hard go out to work as cement workers, logistics handlers or low-level sales. Although the salary of college graduates is not very high, at least they are doing office work. , the career will also have more development prospects.

10. Go to bed early if you have nothing to do, and make more money when you have time.

Mr. Yang Jiang once said, "Your problem is that you don't read much but think too much." He really spoke the truth. Don't think too much about things if you have nothing to do, don't hold your phone in the middle of the night and scroll around. One action is worth ten fantasies.

2. About life

01. May you be busy not only to make a living, but also to love.

Nowadays, many people no longer know why they work. If you work just to make money and have no interest, you will be very tired. I hope that what you don’t like now is for the future. Like to prepare.

02. Being able to cook without ordering takeout, the fireworks in life are worth enjoying with all our heart.

03. It doesn’t matter if the house is simple, as long as it is kept clean and tidy, it will be great.

Dirty kitchen and bathroom, messy bedroom and living room, there is a smell as soon as you enter the door... This is not what your life is like, clean it up on a sunny afternoon, I like your attentiveness Declutter the look of your room.

04. Keeping records of your life can prevent Alzheimer’s disease.

Whether you keep a diary or take a video, keep recording your life, and then look at it when you are over 50 years old. You will find life more and more interesting. The point is that regular brain use can prevent old age. Dementia.

05. It doesn’t matter if you don’t look good, but you should always pay attention to your appearance when you go out.

06. Learn to be alone, be financially independent, get up early to have breakfast, learn to read, exercise, and don’t go to bed past 12 o’clock at night.

07. No matter how difficult life is, please always maintain a positive and optimistic attitude. You must first love life, and then life will love you.

08. After the age of twenty, it is recommended that girls insist on applying eye cream and neck cream every day.

Wow, 25-year-old me is really going to cry. I really wish someone had told me this when I was 20. Some time ago, I suddenly discovered that I had two more neck lines on my neck! ! I was so scared that I quickly bought a neck cream!

Girls really need to pay attention and keep applying eye cream and neck cream. You will definitely thank yourself after you turn 30! Sisters, you must listen to me!

09. You can change your pillowcases and duvet covers to ones that are more skin-friendly and comfortable, and your sleep quality will be higher. The most important thing is that it can improve your skin quality. If you have oily skin, you should wash your pillowcases and duvet covers frequently.

10. Wash underwear, socks and clothes separately. Use special laundry detergent for underwear and underwear to prevent gynecological diseases. This is no joke. 3. About interpersonal communication

01. Talk to someone directly on WeChat, don’t ask “are you there?”

I will not reply to anyone who asks me "Are you there", "Hello", "Can I ask you something"... These messages? It's not that I'm cold, but I don't want to waste unnecessary time. .

02. When lending money to others, you must keep your eyes open and don’t worry too much about face.

For people you don’t interact with often, whether they are relatives or classmates or friends, if you don’t know what kind of job they are doing and you can’t guarantee that they can pay you back on time, don’t lend them to them. Just be prepared that you won't be able to take it back.

03. Always maintain a sense of mystery in front of others.

Don’t tell others everything, don’t tell your secrets to your classmates and friends, because they will let the whole forest know your secrets.

04. If you regard your boss as a benefactor, your boss will only regard you as a tool to make money. There are only interests and no emotions in the workplace.

05. If you don’t want to help, just say no. Don’t hesitate. There is nothing embarrassing about saying no.

I have always been like this before. I was always embarrassed to refuse when people asked me to write. As a result, I could not complete my work on time. In the end, I didn't even say "thank you". I really felt that it was not worth it. .

Nowadays, when people ask me to write for free, I will decline decisively and politely. If the other person is not willing to spend time and money to do something, why should you spend the effort?

06. Never speak ill of others behind their backs, especially in the bathroom... because the person squatting in your cubicle is probably the person you are talking about...

07. It is not shameful to talk about money. When it is necessary to talk about money between friends, you must bring it up to avoid disagreements in the future.

When asking someone to help you buy something, remember to pay the fee in time, and don’t try to take any advantage. Before forming a partnership between friends, be sure to negotiate work allocation and income sharing. The more detailed the better.

08. Stay away from old men who are greedy for your body.

Men who are already married, men who are obviously greedy for your body, men who have no intention of living with you... stay as far away from these people as you can! Don't waste your feelings!

09. Learn to control your emotions, and do not lose your temper or use foul language in public places.

10. No matter how dangerous the society is and how cunning the human heart is, I hope you can always remain kind and gentle and stick to your original intention.