What kind of psychology do grandparents always want their children to sleep with them at night?

I am a grandfather, and no one in this generation can tell why I am so close. I can't express it in words. You won't know until you have experienced it yourself.

When my granddaughter was born, all three of her family lived in my house. When the children were over one year old, we moved to their home. When the child was two years old, her grandmother and I took care of it during the day and went back to our house at night to give us a rest.

When I coaxed my little granddaughter for more than a year, I lost more than 20 kilograms a year. Coaxing children is really tiring! But I really like my granddaughter. I can't get enough of her little face and body every day. I am likable, tired and happy everywhere.

I usually look at the knowledge of parenting as soon as I have time. I don't have any hobbies with my granddaughter. I'm also good at coaxing children. When my granddaughter sleeps, my daughter sometimes can't sleep, and she wants to put me to sleep. In fact, I am the best at coaxing children. I sometimes feel uncomfortable when my daughter coaxes the children. My granddaughter's father is even more careless in coaxing children. She threw my granddaughter down on the sofa twice, but the child fell badly, and the child cried badly, which made me feel bad.

Grandparents, grandparents like their grandchildren. That's true. China people have been handed down from generation to generation. Grandchildren are their spiritual pillar, their darling and their strength to overcome everything in life.

Grandparents, grandparents, whenever talking about the generation gap, are in high spirits, smiling, with endless topics and endless stories. This is the result of my observation and personal experience. At present, it is best for young people to understand that old people like children.

However, grandparents like to be separated from each other and have to let go. They can't do it all. They don't let their children go home at night and sleep with the elderly at night. This is not desirable and must not be done.

Coaxing and raising children can also be dominated by parents, and grandparents are just supplements, which are very important in terms of parent-child feelings, children's future growth, family stability and so on.

There are several children around me, all brought up by grandparents. It is hard to raise children, and it takes a lot of money and energy to educate them. As a result, children and parents have no feelings at all, and parents don't care about children. Poor kid! It is better to stay behind children! Later, the result was terrible. The child's parents were separated from their families, and the child's mother didn't come to see the child once a year. The grandmother of the child thinks that I have worked hard to raise my grandson. Why on earth is the child disobedient? Later, the child's grandparents got sick.

Grandparents, grandparents, grandparents all take grandchildren, which will ruin the leisure of children's parents. It's also terrible for young people to idle around. Therefore, for the happiness of children's lives and the healthy growth of children, it is better to endure the love in your heart when your grandparents are grandparents! Let go when it's time to let go.

I don't know the rest. My mother-in-law loves my daughter very much. I can't wait to kiss my grandmother every day and sleep with her. It is best not to have a mother. When I was a child, I could hardly hold my hand. Yue Yue and I were idle, and she refused to let go of her children. If you say that she takes good care of the children, I don't need to ask my aunt to save money, but she is always like two hundred and fifty. As long as the child is in her hands, she will get sick and will not change. In winter in the north, when children are full, they will take them downstairs and say that they should learn about flowers and plants, because if they don't come up for half an hour, they will have intestinal cramps. I will take him to the mountain to see the temple during the Spring Festival, but I won't let him go. People have to do it, saying they will go if they promise their children. Children over one year old can understand what a temple is. In the morning, they went for a walk in the mountains, and in the afternoon, the children began to have fever and diarrhea. I also let the child sit on her shoulder and go up the stairs. The stairs are a little steep. I was afraid that two people would accidentally roll down together, so I didn't listen and had to follow. My child and I went back to my grandmother's house for two months, and I was a little embarrassed. I don't want her to hug me when I come back. She was angry and hugged my daughter. She wouldn't give up even though the child was crying. I don't think she loves children at all. If she really loves children, can she cry so much? ! She just wants to satisfy herself.

Hello, I have been taking care of my child, about two years old, and my grandparents have always said that they will sleep with me. Not only grandparents, but also grandparents.

At first, the children slept with me because I was breast-feeding. Later, after I stopped breast-feeding, I decided to bring it myself and have been sleeping with me. Later, grandma said that she would let the children sleep with her, which probably meant that she wanted me to go out to work. It's not a malicious guess, because grandma always said at home that she wanted me to go out to work to make money.

Later, I never let my children sleep with grandparents or grandparents, because I love my baby very much and I want him to sleep with me. Secondly, I'm sorry, hehe, I'm afraid of the dark and dare not sleep alone at night. My husband is working outside, and I feel uncomfortable sleeping with my mother-in-law, so I still want my children to sleep with me.

I think grandma wants her children to sleep with them for the following reasons.

First, out of love for children.

It's normal to be separated generations, and most old people like their grandchildren very much. After giving birth to the baby, I slept with the baby in my arms. I'm very practical. And who doesn't like that sweet and soft little body? Grandparents also love their grandchildren and want to sleep with their children. This is normal.

Second, some grandmothers are more careful, or they are more distressed by their younger generation. Taking the child away will make you sleep better.

Anyone who has taken care of children knows that mothers can't sleep all night before their children can cover themselves with quilts.

When I was a child, I had night milk and had to change diapers at night.

Any older, he will turn over, pay attention to falling under the bed and keep tucking him in.

When you get older, you will sleep less, you will not develop good sleep habits, and you will play late at night.

Until the night, the child will fall asleep and cover the quilt. In the meantime, mom will be very hard.

Some old people are afraid of being told that they want to take the initiative to take care of their children, but they may do it in an improper way, making their daughter-in-law feel that they are robbing her children. But the old man's heart is good.

Third, I want my wife to go out to work.

This article may be scolded by some mother-in-law, but it is also true. I have such an example around me.

My cousin gave birth to a son, who was always brought up by my sister when I was a child. Later, when she was weaned, her mother-in-law urged her to go out to work and sleep with her child in her arms at night.

Later, the child and grandma got used to sleeping, and grandma let her sister go out to work on the grounds that the child no longer needed you.

This is the psychology of some mother-in-law, who loves her son dearly and doesn't want to let the family burden fall on her son alone. It can be said that it is human nature.

Fourth, I want my children to be close to them.

This article is actually out of her mother-in-law's disappointment. If the child is taken away by the mother, the corresponding grandmother is not so close.

Children who don't kiss may be unbalanced.

It is not unreasonable to kiss a child who sleeps with him. Sleep needs a sense of security. You will feel that you can play with anyone during the day, but children just want to find their mother.

In the eyes of some mother-in-law, the grandson is a family, and the daughter-in-law is still a guest. Of course, family is still close to family.

In fact, the most important thing for a family is communication. If you don't want the child to sleep with grandma, just say so. Indirect communication is never as pleasant as direct communication.

Although it may be ugly and uncomfortable at that time, it can solve most of the follow-up problems.

If you don't want your child to sleep with grandma, but you don't make it clear, there will be many contradictions in the future.

If you dare not say it, let your husband say it. To put it mildly: mom, let the child sleep with his mother. Children are used to it, and besides, it is dishonest for children to sleep at night. You are old, you can't sleep well at night, and you are not practical during the day, which is not good for your health. Let him sleep with his mother at night and play with you during the day. If you are going to enjoy life at your age, don't worry.

I hope the above ideas can help you.

Grandparents really want to come, and they have to show that they love their grandchildren and that I know a lot. I brought you up when you were a child, but something really happened. They said they were looking for mom, and the baby was going to eat, but in fact it was just fed.

Knowing that the baby doesn't drink milk powder, but only drinks breast milk, he still keeps saying that he wants to sleep with his grandmother. What's more, my mother-in-law wanted to go back to her hometown at the full moon, and said to my baby in front of me, come home with me, and I can bring you up with porridge soup. I'll go. Isn't this hatred? The baby is just full moon and can't drink breast milk. You said this to my face!

Now the baby is three months old, and when he returns to his hometown in the New Year, the child begins to be a little shy. I cry when I see my grandparents, but they still want to hug me. My father-in-law likes smoking, and his mouth smells of smoke for three packs a day. He hugged my daughter and kissed her hand (my daughter has already started eating hands). She kept telling her daughter that she would sleep with her grandfather at night. Grandma only said so, and Grandpa also said so.

Mothers are all in blx, and those without children really can't understand that kind of mood.

Last night, grandma came to hug her daughter and told her to sleep with her at night. Husband said directly, mom, don't always say whether it's good to sleep with you. The baby should sleep with his parents. I always thought that only my mother would have conflicts, and so would my father. Husband won't let his father hold the baby because his father smells of smoke, and his father secretly holds it. As a daughter-in-law, I know that old people love their grandchildren, but I really can't stand the smell of cigarettes. Anyway, I just can't accept them from my heart.

My parents-in-law live in noise every day and are scolded by her mother-in-law. My mother-in-law likes to haggle over every ounce, and she can hold grudges for a little thing all her life. And the topic of chatting every day is, who did something wrong to her and repeated it every day. The whole thing is a negative energy body. I don't want my baby to be affected by this kind of bad influence. I will go crazy if I stay in this environment. I don't know what the baby will look like, will it make me feel inferior?

I also have a headache on this issue. A while ago, my sister took a three-year-old child. Xiong Haizi can't describe him, because his sister and brother-in-law are too busy, and the children have been brought up by grandparents in rural areas, so they are spoiled and even the most basic cognition has been lost. We signed up for a day trip, and the children were noisy and noisy in the car. I can clearly feel the impatient expression next to my seat. Finally, this Xiong Haizi began to swear and swear. Her mother began to say to him, don't swear, swearing is not a good boy, not only didn't work, but it worked harder. I suppressed my anger, tried to show a calm look and said, look, is this cart outside yours? In this way, he slowly forgot to swear. In the service area, Xiong Haizi held her mother's leg and wouldn't let her go to the toilet. She won't coax it. Later, she rolled around and cried wolf. Finally, she was coaxed to go to the supermarket to buy a toy, which stopped crying, but Xiong Haizi refused to let the cashier sweep it, clinging to it, and finally had no choice but to let the cashier sweep it with the same toy. When the children arrived at the gate of the scenic spot, they saw the water gun sold in the stall and ran to get a big water gun. The girl selling toys enthusiastically recommended a small water gun to us, which was less stressful and labor-saving to play with, but Xiong Haizi clung to the big water gun. I have to be big, so I have no choice but to buy a big water gun. Later, I didn't go far. Seeing children playing with single-barrel water guns, Xiong Haizi bought them in tears. Her mother can't help it She spent more than ten dollars to buy it for you. Today, she came out to play and let you have a good time. However, the child just played with water twice, and then saw someone selling a pair of water guns, so he ran to the toy stall, took a pair of water guns and ran away, because he knew that his mother would not buy him any more if he didn't run away, so he bought three different water guns in less than half an hour. But Xiong Haizi bought it for a while and stopped playing, so he had to give him all the water guns. Finally, Xiong Haizi got a beating, because he wanted to take a boat, but he had to buy a ticket on the other side, which means he had to walk a long way, cross a bridge and go to the other side of the river. Xiong Haizi didn't like it, and began to cry again. He began to stand and cry, and finally squatted and cried, and finally sat and cried, listening to nothing. Finally, her mother couldn't bear it anymore and slapped his ass. After a beating, she was honest and got up and left together. At the end of the day's trip, he was beaten again at night, that is, when he was eating, Xiong Haizi saw Peggy, a doll pig sold by others, and ran to buy it. After the child brought him one, he reached out and hugged another. His mother told him that he could only have one doll, otherwise he wouldn't buy it. Hearing this, the child began to roll and cry again. I was in a state of despair at that time, and I was very sad to see the child crying and think about it now. Finally, maybe the fire that his mother had been holding for a day finally broke out. She dragged the child out of the mall and made him cry outside. Who knows that the little guy was not convinced and cried for half an hour, but he just didn't want to get up. Finally, he was beaten, which was a promise to have a doll. Another time, I took my children shopping. Xiong Haizi insisted on playing with the labels on the clothes when his mother tried them on. The label will definitely not be torn off for him to play with until the clothes are bought back. In this way, I began to cry again. I didn't coax him, so I took him to the door of the mall and cried casually. Finally, Xiong Haizi cried and began to scold me again. Passers-by heard this and pointed at us with a smile. On the whole, the child must be absent. Finally his mother came out, first coaxed, then hit, and finally stopped.

Xiong Haizi has gone too far in many things. As soon as he starts to swear, whoever makes him unhappy will reach out and hit him. A few days ago, he took a toy sword and severely beat his mother and grandmother. I said something about him, but he appeared again. Finally, his mother cried angrily and said how to educate such a child. If you beat her like this at home, her grandparents will definitely quarrel with her. The purpose of grandparents is that only when children know what other children curse, will they learn to curse, buy him whatever he wants, and why make him cry. So the child was taken away by his grandparents, that is, he gave whatever he wanted. The child has been instilled with the idea that as long as he wants it, he can't get it, just cry to death. Parents of different generations can understand, but doting is not love. Now many parents will complain when their children commit crimes: I don't care about this child. I'm also anxious if he doesn't listen. We even hit him and scolded him, but it didn't work. The children didn't listen at all, and we were helpless. The main reason is that many parents didn't get the right education at the right time. If grandparents treat their children with no bottom line, it will definitely cause their children's arrogance and irrationality.

Now my sister realizes the importance of educating children. She took her children and began to learn how to educate them online and in books. A child's character is formed at the age of 0-6. During this period, parents must participate more in their children's education. It is undeniable that grandparents are also very concerned about their children, but overindulgence may ruin their lives.

The baby is brought by grandparents during the day and by themselves at night. The two old people took a deep nap at night and slept soundly. Everyone was happy. Grandparents have a hard time taking care of their babies during the day, so they just have a rest at night. My husband and I originally wanted to spend some parent-child time with the baby during the day and night, but unfortunately an eventful aunt often called her in-laws and said, "Mom and Dad, why are you so stupid?" Kiss whoever the child sleeps with. If you let the baby sleep with her, he will still kiss her mother. What fun do you have! " From then on, the two old people also scrambled to sleep with the baby at night. Therefore, the quality of sleep at night is not high, and they complain that the baby is exhausted. A good home is like this.

The baby was brought by himself, one year and four months old. Only one year old. When I brought it back to my hometown, my grandmother didn't know what she was busy with all day. In short, I haven't seen anyone, and I basically cook the baby's three meals. If someone were here, I would hug her. A relative held a wedding reception today. We held the baby in our arms and then gave raisins, melon seeds, candy and pistachios. I said she was too young to eat these things, so I refused to feed her and began to feed her where I couldn't see. I followed around, and people were willing to chew the pistachios directly and take them out to feed them. I stopped it loudly on the spot. Don't feed her anything in her mouth! I can't control your face.

There are many such grandparents in reality, and it is useless for a daughter-in-law to have a child. Children are like departments, and mothers can't control them. My mother-in-law is like this. She looks after the children and I do all the housework. Because children eat milk powder, besides saying that I have children, they also say that I am an aunt. What is this? Children don't want to be close to me. If they don't look for me, they will look for her. That's a show-off tone.

What's on your mind? There is something wrong with the spirit! First of all, I shouldn't live in my son's house. Even with the children, I have to go back to my home that night. If I take the child for one day during the day, I will give it to my parents at night. If I am from other places, I will get off work at 6 pm and rest in my room! Don't always rob your daughter-in-law's children (actually it's useless! After taking the children to kindergarten, hurry and go home to dance, draw, travel, exercise and swim! If the daughter-in-law calls you and says that the child wants to live with you, you can take it for two days, but you still have to send the child back during the day. My granddaughter is brought by me, at my son's house. I get up at six in the morning to cook for a whole day. I will go back to my room after work at six o'clock in the evening and will come back when I am five years old. Is the Spring Festival coming soon? Daughter-in-law came back with two children and lived in her mother's house. Granddaughter asked to come to the dairy house. It was 9: 30 in the evening, and my daughter-in-law called and said, I drove to pick it up, and my granddaughter was very happy. I came back after dinner the next morning, and I stayed in my house for two nights in a row. I said I couldn't come. My grandmother had something to do. Just for two nights! I dare not look at it either, for fear of coming back!

I am also curious about what kind of mentality this is. First, I really like Eva. Second, I want to have a better rest. At least my mother-in-law always tells Eva that my mother has worked hard. Unfortunately, Eva didn't buy it. I was taken away from the bed in the shower, and my grandmother kept crying until she let me go. And my baby really doesn't toss at night and sleeps comfortably. Waiting for the third should be to lay a position in her heart and cultivate feelings. My baby doesn't want a mother if she has grandparents, and she doesn't want a mother if she has a mother.