Recently, my son is always fidgety. What's wrong with worrying about everything? How to change it and calm him down?

When children enter adolescence, subtle changes have taken place in their bodies, and their gender awareness is getting stronger and stronger. Driven by these physiological developments, boys and girls began to pay attention to each other and attract each other, showing different emotional behaviors. Girls are delicate and deeply in love, while boys are unrestrained and love to fight. In front of the opposite sex, boys and girls are always somewhat shy and have complicated and subtle feelings. This is a vague feeling that everyone has had. Just like spring comes, bees will flock to flowers, and it is natural for boys and girls to attract each other.

As a parent, you should not ignore the characteristics and troubles of your children in their growth and development. Normal children, if you don't have these characteristics, you should feel uneasy. You should extend your loving hands to them, help children correctly understand the behavior of these adolescent boys or girls, and help them through this special period full of anxiety, confusion and anxiety.

situation

1. Roland likes Yang Min, a boy from her school, but she doesn't know whether he likes her or not. He is always humorous and considerate when they are alone. They have endless topics, such as school, movies, books and things between them. But when Yang Min's friends appeared, he seemed to forget the existence of Roland, and he was absorbed in chatting with his friends about computer games, websites, sports, cars and other topics that boys were interested in. This makes Roland very puzzled. She doesn't know what to do. Her best friend told her that all boys are the same. Is that so? She wants to talk to her mother about this annoying thing.

Wei Yu and Xiao Min are both senior two students in different classes. Yu Wei noticed Xiao Min as early as junior high school. Xiao Min transferred to his class this semester, and Xiao Min's cleverness and beauty attracted Yu Wei's love. The problem is that Yu Wei is not good at expressing himself, let alone talking to girls.

However, Yu Wei is very eager to leave a good impression on Xiao Min. Yu Wei sincerely hopes that his parents can give him some good advice.

point out

* It is everyone's experience to treat adolescent boys and girls correctly. Parents and teachers should treat this "hazy feeling" calmly and don't feel that they are enemies.

* Help children deal with the friendship between men and women as appropriate.

prescription

Prescription 1

* Girls should understand the characteristics of boys, otherwise some of their practices will make girls confused and hurt. While boys like girls, they will not abandon their favorite sports, computer games and same-sex couples.

* Boys' own strength makes them take care of many things: school, sports and girls. Their competitive spirit also urges them to gain the upper hand in boys' groups. Girls need to understand the loving, brave and helpful side of boys and accept their competitive, careless and indifferent side.

* The characteristics of girls are constantly changing with the times. Nowadays, girls are no longer fragile boudoir ladies, but most of them can also show courage, wit, independence and strength. They hope that society, especially boys, can respect their own values and give them the same equality, sincerity and respect in communication.

Prescription 2

* Tell children that the most important thing to get along with boys and girls is sincerity, modesty and propriety. Understand that every boy or girl has his own different personality, and don't simply generalize a certain type. Girls are sometimes as active, independent and brave as boys, and boys sometimes show sadness, helplessness and weakness. If you don't understand each other's diversity, boys and girls will be at a loss when facing problems, and their emotions will change greatly. Timely and appropriate advice, advice and help from parents will help children understand their situation, get rid of embarrassment and predicament as soon as possible, and gradually learn how to correctly handle the relationship between men and women. In parent-child communication, you can learn from the following conversation methods:

1. If you want to leave a good impression on the other party, you should be honest with others, listen to what the other party is saying, and pay attention to praising the advantages of the other party.

2. Girls like boys to pay attention to her feelings and preferences at all times, while girls don't like boys to be careless and do things that girls don't like.

When boys and girls get along, don't laugh at each other's shortcomings, let alone judge each other's families. Remember, respect is the most important thing.

When boys and girls get along, besides mutual respect, self-esteem is also very important.

I've said a lot about boys (girls). It's your turn to tell me what you think.

Can you tell me about the girl you met last month? Do you get along well? I seem to have seen her somewhere.

You can invite more students to listen to music and play ball together. ...

* Adolescence is a restless and eventful autumn, that is, we should give consideration to good study, adapt to physical changes, show ourselves in front of the opposite sex and attract the attention of the other side. Any irritability and anxiety of adolescent children is the normal performance of children in this period. Parents' ignorance or exaggeration of their prejudice against sex and marriage will directly hurt their self-esteem and destroy their correct view of male and female characteristics.

* In fact, many boys and girls just like being together, which is pure attraction and not to the point of "love". If parents pay too much attention to this matter at this time, they will strengthen their awareness in this regard.

Language forbidden zone:

1. You want to fall in love at such a young age? Dream on! If you don't study hard, you won't know what you are thinking all day!

2. Girls should be reserved and don't fight with boys.

3. Men and women are not the same. When a girl grows up, she just needs to be a good wife and mother.

Nowadays, girls are too smart, so you must be careful not to be fooled by them.

I don't want to hear about that boy (girl) any more. I told you long ago not to associate with him (her). You don't believe me.

6. You deserve it. You did badly in the exam. You didn't study hard, just hanging out with boys (girls).

skill

Girls are delicate and calm, while boys are competitive, as if living in different worlds. Summarizing the different performances brought by gender is not enough to explain the characteristics of boys and girls in front of us. Because everyone has their own different backgrounds, personalities, specialties, abilities and ideals. Tell children that the best impression and the most successful way to get along with boys and girls is to get to know them, really feel their world and really help them.