The bleak old age of the three old people warned people how arrogant they were when they were young and how miserable they were when they were old.

It is natural for children to provide for their parents, but most old people do not enjoy the blessing of enjoying their old age and filial piety in their later years. But when they look at the desolation of the world and sigh their own destiny, have they ever recalled your attitude towards your children?

Most of the happy old people in their later years are role models for their children, and your attitude towards their children will eventually have a result, especially in the fifties and sixties, when most of them were thinking about giving preference to sons and raising children to guard against old age, the result was not the case. Raising children can not only prevent old age, but also continue to eat old age.

When I am sick and need to take care of, I will think of my daughter. Have you ever thought about how much you have done for your daughter? Have you ever thought that your daughter has her own home? Have you ever thought that your daughter has her own in-laws to support?

When no one is in charge, I always blame my children for being unfilial. In the eyes of outsiders, children naturally become a member of the vulnerable groups. Have you ever wondered why?

Many old people are crazy when they are young, and feel sorry for themselves when they need to be taken care of in their later years. In fact, this pity is partly due to the elderly, and children can't be completely blamed.

When I was young, the time when I was your father and your mother has passed, which made you what you are today. What you are today is the career you planted a few years ago.

Let's walk into the lives of three old people and see what their rebellious old age was like when they were young.

0 1; Zhang Jianhua; 69 years old

Lao Zhang Man Jianhua was a chef when he was young. He is a cook and a carpenter in a house in Fiona Fang. At that time, he was very popular in the village. Almost every day, he was invited to build a house and made a lot of money.

Although uncle Zhang earns a lot of money, he is a little hard. The clothes worn by his two sons and two girls are too short for him to buy. Cooking is even more reluctant to pour oil with tarpaulin. His 40-year-old wife has a cerebral infarction and can't be treated well. His wife died at the age of 45.

In less than three years, Uncle Zhang married small 8's second wife and gave all the money he earned to the second wife. He gradually alienated his children, and four of them were not allowed to go to school because they were too expensive after graduating from junior high school. Even if relatives coax him again, they will never go to school.

However, he couldn't take care of the children brought by his second wife to school, which caused the villagers to scold and the children ignored them. In a few years, all their children will be admitted to the university.

Uncle Zhang's four children only farm at home. When his son got married, he spent almost all his money on the son of his second wife. They all earned their own money to get married. When his daughter got married, she almost left home clean. Lao Zhang, who can be a leader now, has become a hunchback old man.

The second wife went to the city to take care of other people's children and almost never came back. Uncle Zhang is left a lonely old man. He doesn't want to go to any of his sons' homes. When he was ill, he asked the girl to wait on him for a few days. People just say you let your wife wait on him.

When I am old, I live alone in a small room, and sometimes I can't even eat hot meals. My two sons didn't invite him to have dinner together during the New Year, and my grandson didn't call grandpa after he was born.

Uncle Zhang died in a few years. After his family was simply buried, none of his four children cried. Who can blame for being so miserable in his later years?

02; Sun Xiaoying; 75 years old

The old man in Sun Xiaoying gave birth to a son and a daughter. The children are now in their fifties, but they seldom go to see her.

Although Aunt Sun has her own retirement salary, she needs someone to take care of her when she is old. Although the son is fifty years old, sometimes he can't even manage himself, let alone her, and the daughter is even more reluctant to come back to serve her.

Living in a nursing home is also a good choice, but Aunt Sun still can't let go of her son who has nothing to do that day, so she wants her daughter to wait on her.

When Aunt Sun was young, she treated her daughter and son differently. She always thought that her daughter was raised by others and began to do housework at an early age. She doesn't want to say anything to her son. She has no ability to support herself. She married a daughter-in-law, watched him idle all day, and divorced him early, taking her ex-wife with her.

Now I still rely on my 70-year-old mother to support me, and my daughter doesn't want to take care of me at all.

A few years ago, Aunt Sun's granddaughter went to college and didn't have enough money. She wanted to borrow some money from the old lady, but she refused to borrow it anyway, saying no, which broke her daughter's heart again. Even at the beginning of school, grandma gave the child 100 yuan.

How many times did Aunt Sun want her daughter to come back to see her and wash her, but her daughter just didn't want to go back to see her, and she was reluctant to use her son who had developed the habit of gnawing at the old and thought everything was right.

Aunt Sun also asked her daughter to consider finding an object for her son, but she refused directly, saying that a woman would never do anything with your son all day.

Aunt Sun's fall to this point today is the result of overindulging her son, treating her daughter as an outsider and taking care of her incompetent old son.

The result of all this is what I did when I was young. Jiaozi is like killing a child.

That miserable old age was for myself.

03; Song Chun Mei; 72 years old

Aunt Song has only one son. When his wife was alive, she did business and made a lot of money. Because of the good family conditions, Aunt Song is somewhat arrogant. Under the strict education of Aunt Song, my son's character is somewhat weak. Fortunately, her son was admitted to a good university.

My son had an appointment. Aunt Song doesn't like the poverty of this family. She won't agree if the door is wrong. My son had to listen to his mother and give up his happiness.

Under the urging of Aunt Song, the son found a daughter-in-law who could satisfy Aunt Song. Daughter-in-law has a good family and is an only child. Now that Aunt Song is happy, her son can inherit the inheritance from both sides in the future. Needless to say, this is beautiful in my heart.

It is said that the mother-in-law will be nicer to her daughter-in-law after her son gets married, but this aunt Song is used to bullying at home and always likes to command. At first, her daughter-in-law didn't feel anything. In later life, Aunt Song did not dislike her daughter-in-law's laziness, that is to say, she was dressed in a demon costume and whispered that she was going out to be a fox.

When the daughter-in-law heard what she said, she had a big fight and went back to her parents' house. The stubborn Aunt Song disliked her daughter-in-law for not respecting her and wouldn't let her son call her. The daughter-in-law is also an only child, and the other party doesn't want to continue this family. As a result, her son was separated by his mother after only three years of marriage.

How many people introduced her son to get married later? When I found out that Mrs. Song was strong and overbearing, no woman wanted to marry, and her son lived a bachelor life.

I am old, not only is it a problem to support the elderly, but my son's marriage has also become an old lady's heart disease.

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The result you got today is that you planted the cause at the beginning, and the tragic ending is your own making, no wonder anyone.

It is said that respecting the old and loving the young is mutual. If you are kind to her, she will repay you. Isn't this karma?

Parents should not be too involved in their children's marriage. You are already an outsider. The more you participate, the more chaotic it will be. The original beautiful marriage will be broken up, leaving a bitter fruit to eat, leaving a shadow on the children's hearts.

If you want to live a happy life in your later years, you should be kind to your family while being kind to yourself.