How to get along with emotions

Everyone has emotions, and emotions are a barometer of our satisfaction with life. Grasping emotions means grasping life. People are happy not because they get a lot of things, but because they have learned to live in peace with all negative emotions.

Some people say that emotions are the devil. In fact, emotions are the resources of life. They can be demons or angels. The key depends on whether we lose control of them.

Positive emotions tell us that we are already very happy or close to happiness. Negative emotions tell us that the state at the moment is moving away from the track of happiness, just like the effect of pain on the body.

Emotion is neither good nor bad, nor right or wrong. It is our inner desire that makes us want to stay away from negative emotions and pursue positive emotions.

For example, when we feel sad and depressed, it usually means that we have lost or will lose something we feel precious. Including tangible and intangible, material and intangible, or we can't achieve what we want to achieve.

When we feel angry, it means that others have offended us, offended our standards of treating people and offended some of our moral standards. It is also possible that someone took our things, robbed our lovers and so on.

When we feel anxious and afraid, it means that we are uncertain about what will happen in the future. Afraid of stating a bad result that is too different from one's expectations.

When we feel guilty, it means that we have done something wrong to others.

When we feel ashamed, it means that we have done something that violates social or cultural norms.

Therefore, every time the mood comes, we must first calm down and find out what this thing really means. In this way, we will not be trapped in emotions, escape or fight, but explore the reasons behind emotions and find the direction that needs to be changed.

There are two kinds of power to change people, one is pain and the other is temporary love, but more people change because of pain than because of love.

Whether it is anger, fear, resentment, disgust, or guilt, sadness, shame, self-blame. It has little to do with the fact itself, but with our imagination. It's not the facts that get us into trouble. So there is no good or bad mood, only when it is out of control. So every time the mood comes, we can, first, calm down and let go of our criticism and doubts, instead of turning ourselves into injured lambs, to understand and listen to each other's thoughts and feelings. From the perspective of the third party, if you look at people objectively and rationally, you will see the whole school. Once we see the truth, we will find a lot of trouble. It is really our own interpretation that is very different from the facts, and our hearts will be relieved.

Emotion, whether negative or positive, is a sign that we are alive and an inevitable part of life. Therefore, what really traps us is not the external predicament, but the negative emotions that cannot be resolved.

In all aspects of life, our biggest consumption is to put our time and energy on the confrontation with emotions at random, consuming ourselves and others, knowing that no one can do things well without being constantly corrected, accused, criticized and reprimanded. Children are like this, and so are adults. Only when we feel understood, encouraged and supported, are we willing to do things well.

When we are in a good mood, our hearts are open and willing to understand and accept others, but when we are in a bad mood, we will become selfish and generally do two things to attack others or hide.

Therefore, many people's troubles are self-inflicted, and the sign of maturity is the ability to express their needs and wishes without emotion.

We need to understand, so the emotions that make us uncomfortable are ourselves, our friends and our bodyguards. It seems that they just want to protect our happiness. Therefore, there is no hurdle in life, only the feeling of being unable to pass, and anything that causes emotional fluctuations is an opportunity to achieve yourself. And the most effective way to change the emotional state is action, action, action.