Mother thinks my sister is stingy. Tell me about it.

Marriage is not the union of two people, but the union of two families. Although "the water spilled by the married daughter", because of "filial piety", the daughters still subsidize their parents after marriage. A daughter secretly subsidized her family for three years, and her husband's family treated her as always, but her mother disliked her unfilial. Why?

"A hungry snake swallowed an elephant", a dissatisfied mother will think that this is a "natural" thing when you subsidize your mother's family and give her money for a long time. Xiao Min's younger brother wanted to buy a house, but his family didn't have that much money, so his mother moved her idea to married Xiao Min. Xiao Min gives her mother money every month, which makes her feel that Xiao Min is doing well. This time, she asked Xiao Min to sponsor her brother to buy a house, but Xiao Min had no money, so she refused her mother. Her mother thought Xiao Min was unfilial and didn't help her with this little thing. Xiao Min is really "dumb to eat Rhizoma Coptidis, but he can't tell you how bitter it is."

The disadvantages of secretly subsidizing the bride's family

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has nothing to do with her daughter marrying someone else. It stands to reason that she can not give subsidies to her mother's family, because some in-laws are "very picky" about subsidies to their daughter-in-law. They may not say anything in front of their daughter-in-law, but when chatting with others, they will say that others will think that this daughter-in-law is not sensible.

Even if the mother-in-law doesn't have her own opinions and can't bear to be told by her mother-in-law friends to "provoke her to run away from home", she will have her own opinions on her daughter-in-law, and her daughter-in-law will have a "gap" with her mother-in-law, so the natural relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not be harmonious.

The concept that the relationship between husband and wife is not "patriarchal" has existed since ancient times. Some parents will instill in their daughters: "When they grow up, they should help their younger brothers get married." Therefore, when these girls grow up, they will give their wages to their mothers, which is euphemistically called "custody", but it is actually the "marriage start-up fund" for their younger brothers. After marriage, the girl always subsidizes the family, even if her mother wants more.

There is no such thing as killing two birds with one stone. When you give the money to your mother's family, you compensate your husband for the living expenses. Your husband has to pay back the mortgage and car loan, and the living expenses will point to the woman's salary, but you have to subsidize your mother's family, and you can only wronged yourself and your husband. Your husband will understand you at first, but it is not enough for you to be Voldemort forever. Finally, the husband and wife quarreled and the marriage broke up.

No matter how many things you do, in your mother's eyes, only your brother has been taught by his elders since childhood, so your mother will think your son is more important. There is an old saying: "A son is a treasure, and a daughter is a grass." Taking care of my son since childhood, my daughter is neglected. A daughter who has been loveless for a long time will feel flattered by the occasional love from her parents, just like a thirsty man walking in the desert suddenly drinking water. She'll take that as everything.

Daughters want to show more in front of their parents and attract their attention, but parents only care about their sons. If their daughter wants to get married in the future, she will not be one of our own. They think that their sons can provide for the aged. If their first child is a daughter, they will be born again and have to have a son.

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When a woman marries, she will form a new family with her husband. She should start thinking about her family. It is filial piety to support her family occasionally, and her family will cherish it. It is the right thing to subsidize her family often. If she is ungrateful, she will only feel that she has not paid much, so don't subsidize her family often after marriage. Do you think it is necessary to subsidize mom's family often or occasionally?