The sadness of a 42-year-old middle-aged woman: she has been married for more than ten years and has never received a red envelope from her lover. Did you get it?

Some people say that to know whether a man loves you or not depends on whether he is willing to spend money for you. I think it makes sense. Because I love you, I am willing to give up.

I have met many men who are too hard on themselves and don't even have a decent dress. But for his lover, he regularly urges her to remind her that it is time to buy new clothes.

If you meet such a boy, don't hesitate to get married, lest you fall asleep. Few men love you more than themselves these days.

But then again, if you only give you money, but you are hot and cold, you must be careful, and you can't be sure that he is just on a whim and has no long-term plans.

If, in reality, a man doesn't give you a penny, even a small red envelope, then you should put away your love and turn around and leave. Because in this kind of man's mind, money is more important than you, and you may be dispensable.

In fact, before this, I didn't think so, at least I didn't approve of using money to measure feelings. It was not until I heard the 42-year-old middle-aged woman's inability to vomit that I suddenly realized.

She told me that at the age of 27, she met her current husband through working. At first, he spent a lot of money. In order to please her, he often buys her gifts, and she doesn't bring the same. She is full of joy and smiles like a flower, and she can't wait to be his wife at once.

An older friend, perhaps because of a large number of readers, kindly reminded her and advised her to fall in love, but not to get married, otherwise she would suffer.

At that time, she was in a period of passionate love, confused and confused. She didn't listen to her friend's earnest love for less than half a year, and she got pregnant before she got married.

I thought that after marriage, everything would develop in the way I expected, but the reality failed to make her wish. First, the lack of a wedding, and then the breakdown of the family, such an unhappy marriage, she is also trembling.

Now that we have reached this point, we can only go on crustily skin of head, walk the road of our own choice and cry on our knees. Just the pain in my heart, nowhere to tell.

After more than ten years of marriage, I never even gave her a small red envelope. Say it out, I was shocked, this is not a husband and wife, it is more than passers-by.

There are many husbands like her in reality. They are extremely harsh on their wives, but they are very enthusiastic about outsiders. I have a cousin whose husband is such a person.

She is also a middle-aged person. Married for nearly 20 years, in his early twenties, he got married at an age when he didn't understand love. She has experienced ups and downs over the years.

In retrospect, it was not easy. Married women devote themselves to marriage, only thinking about how to manage their marriage life better, and make unremitting efforts to this end, day after day, year after year.

For this family, it can be said that it is really broken. Even so, her husband still doesn't love her, doesn't treat her as a wife, and is more a servant or an hourly worker.

This unequal feeling really hurts. I treat you like a lover, but you treat me like a stranger, even worse than a stranger. In front of strangers, she will be kind, but in front of her, she will be ugly

No wonder some people say that an unhappy marriage is enough to destroy a person. It's really terrible to think that after nearly twenty years of marriage, I didn't even give a small red envelope. This kind of behavior is too chilling.

Some people may say that middle-aged couples do not distinguish between you and me. Isn't all his money yours? As for being so melodramatic? I have a problem with the red envelope.

In my opinion, this is not a question of affectation or red envelopes, but the message conveyed by this behavior: he doesn't love you, or doesn't love him as much as you do.

Although the contribution in marriage is spontaneous and unrequited, it is impossible to have no feedback. People's hearts are made of meat, not reinforced concrete. It knows that cold and warm will hurt.

Perhaps, some middle-aged men think this is normal. I've paid my salary. Where can I get the spare money to give you a red envelope? I didn't realize how much harm this behavior would do.

Private thought, think so, is to find fault, but also shirk, unwilling to bear the corresponding responsibility for the deterioration of feelings. If there is no relationship, there is no need to maintain and operate, even if love is vigorous and inseparable.

In fact, middle-aged people have more marital problems and need more maintenance and management. There is no need to find so many sweet words to say that a red envelope can solve anything.

Don't always complain about your wife's thoughtlessness I think she has changed. She is not as sensible as before, but has become caring. Actually, you didn't, but you got cold, and you ignored her request.

At this time, your marriage is like a rotten log. The appearance looks quite complete, but in fact it can't stand the fight and is fragile.

If you don't want the marriage tree to fall down so quickly and make it evergreen, you must pay more attention to watering and fertilizing, remember to kill insects, and keep warm and avoid frost when necessary.

Finally, I sincerely wish all couples can have a good relationship and live a happy and loving life!