Your mother-in-law’s attitude towards you is all allowed by your husband!

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The day before yesterday, I wrote an article "I know in my heart whether you are good to me or not." In addition to setting the highest number of clicks, the backend was also flooded with comments, some of which were I envy little D for his good life. He can meet such a simple and honest mother-in-law who treats her wholeheartedly. If he could meet such a mother-in-law, he would definitely be filial to her as he would his own mother. More girls would sigh with emotion. My life is not good and I meet a strange mother-in-law. A girl told me that when you give birth to a child, you can best see how your husband's family treats you. When she gave birth to her daughter, she had a caesarean section. The day after the operation, her mother-in-law asked the doctor how much it would cost to stay in the hospital for a day. When she learned that it cost thousands of dollars a day, she was heartbroken and asked for treatment the next day. I was discharged from the hospital and recuperated at home. I waited a week before coming back to the hospital to remove the sutures for a review. The doctor later told me that it was not possible because infusions were required every day and various indicators had to be checked, so my mother-in-law reluctantly gave up. But during the week in the hospital, my mother-in-law kept talking about money, money, money, and often "sighed": If she had given birth to a grandson, she would have spent so much money, but she is a loser and spent so much money on the family. It's really Not worth it. After being discharged from the hospital and undergoing confinement, my mother-in-law ignored her and showed no kindness to her granddaughter. However, when she learned that the second child was pregnant some time ago, she immediately cheered up and told her: "The eldest will go to school soon. You should have another child while you are still young. There is only one girl in the house. If it were in the past, it would have been called a dead household." She said what made her most depressed was that her mother-in-law did not talk to her in a consultative tone. It was simply mean. Order, seeing that she did not express her position, her mother-in-law's face became ugly during this period, and she was always beaten and beaten at home. (source: google) She told me fiercely that she would never be filial to her mother-in-law in the future. When she gets old, sick, and disabled, she would definitely sit idly by and ignore her. Think about how she treated herself back then. Anyway, I don't have this obligation. After a girl in the circle of friends read this article, because it told the story about her and her mother-in-law, let’s call her Little A! Little A has lived in a big city since she was a child. She is the only daughter in the family. Her parents have treated her as their darling and doted on her. Later, Little A was admitted to a second-tier university. During her sophomore year, she fell in love with her senior, who was one year older than her and lived in a rural area. He was honest, simple, introverted, and not good at expressing himself. Therefore, in this relationship, Little A is the active one. After the two confirmed their relationship, her boyfriend also pampered her. When the two were in love, Little A's parents were opposed to it, but not very strongly. They thought that their daughter was just having a campus romance and should go their separate ways after graduation. However, Little A was very persistent and infatuated, and she was in love until marriage was discussed. Then her parents began to object fiercely. How could their daughter, who had been doted on since childhood, marry a boy from the countryside? Little A followed the principle of "the more the parents oppose, the firmer the love" and even threatened to commit suicide. The parents were immediately frightened. No matter what, they couldn't live without their daughter! In order to prevent Little A from suffering, her parents bought her a wedding house in the city and gave her a sum of money as a dowry. They did not dare to embarrass their son-in-law, hoping that he would treat Little A better. We were very happy when we first got married, but later my sister-in-law came to look for a job. After my mother-in-law and sister-in-law came to live together, life could only be described as a mess. The mother-in-law couldn't stand Little A's lavish spending, and Little A felt wronged. Which girl in the city doesn't live like this? How can it be measured by rural standards? My sister-in-law was even more annoying. She often touched her clothes and cosmetics, and went back to her mother-in-law to complain about what she had bought. The mother-in-law's food, clothing, housing and transportation all come from Little A's expense, and Little A's parents helped find her sister-in-law's job. In return, the mother-in-law often humiliates Little A in front of others with a sense of superiority. Once, when Little A went out to buy things, she saw her mother-in-law chatting with people in the community. Her mother-in-law said proudly: "My daughter-in-law is very obedient. There is nothing I can do about it. Who told her to be obsessed with my son? It's the house and the house." It's the money that you put on the door. How dare you not do it to me?" Little A almost didn't mention it. From then on, he hated his mother-in-law.

(source: google) Just the night before yesterday, my sister-in-law, who I have lived with for three years, was finally getting married. The man is from the city. According to the custom there, the man is responsible for buying a house, and the woman will accompany a car. The mother-in-law's family obviously cannot afford the money, but in order to prevent her daughter from being looked down upon when she gets married, the mother-in-law came up with a plan. The couple paid for it.

Little A was so angry that she was shaking all over, but her mother-in-law said lightly, don’t you still have a lot of savings? It's not like I'm asking you to buy a fancy car, just one worth over 100,000 yuan. Besides, as a sister-in-law, your sister-in-law is supposed to show off when she gets married. Little A told me that she did have a savings of 30,000 to 400,000 yuan, but that was given by her parents. All the money she earned after getting married went to her family. She planned to keep this money in case she gave birth to a child. Otherwise, with the character of my mother-in-law’s family, when I have a child and no income, I’m not sure what kind of life I will live. As a result, her mother-in-law scolded her for being selfish and cold, and even threatened her to divorce her son. Little A hated her and said bitterly that she often hoped that her mother-in-law would get an incurable disease. However, her mother-in-law had no disease or pain and was in better health than her. She felt that if this continued, she would sooner or later die of depression. If I had heard something like this when I was a teenager, I would have been absolutely furious and would have stood firmly on Little A’s side and scolded her mother-in-law. However, when I was in my thirties and heard something like this again, I only asked Little A one question: Where is your husband when there is such a turmoil between you two? Speaking of her husband, Little A is also depressed, but she still defends her husband very much: My husband is a very filial man and does not dare to disobey his parents. He said that he would not listen to his mother divorcing me and calling me Don't worry. Alas, if it were not for his sake, I would tell this mother and daughter to get out of my house immediately. When it comes to this, I won’t say anything else. If I continue talking, it will destroy the relationship between husband and wife. Just like the girl in the first story, when her mother-in-law made such a request that was contrary to human nature, where was the man who was her son and husband? Many girls have complained to me that their mothers-in-law are not good to them. Most of them talk about how wonderful and weird their mothers-in-law are, but rarely about their husbands. Even if they do, most of them say: He is just too filial, he just has no opinion and doesn’t understand. How to deal with these things, but he is still good to me. I never agree with these statements. I remember watching a Hong Kong TV series many years ago called "The New Story of Nga Wang". The male protagonist Nga Wang is a mentally retarded person. His father dislikes him and is embarrassed. He abandoned their mother and son early, and the mother was alone. Awang's mother raised him up with all kinds of hardships. Knowing that her son was mentally retarded, Ngawang's mother began to keep a wife book for him at a very young age. However, Ngawang only liked his neighbor Ah Feng and always called him his little wife. Later, due to various coincidences, Awang married his little daughter-in-law and loved her in every possible way. When Awang's mother saw this, she couldn't help but be jealous and often made things difficult for Afeng. Awang, who had always been dependent on her mother, became angry. , I had an argument with my mother for the first time. My mother was so sad that she couldn't help wiping her tears and said that Awang had forgotten his mother since he had a daughter-in-law. Awang felt very sad when he saw his mother crying, but he resolutely did not allow his mother to bully his little daughter-in-law. Awang, who was not as intelligent as ordinary people, clumsily tried to please his mother for the sake of his little daughter-in-law. The whole play was warm and touching. (source: google) Whenever a girl tells me that men can’t handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law because the mother-in-law is too bad, I can’t help but think of this drama. A Wang in the play, due to intellectual problems, has no idea how to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. He just tries his best to be kind to his younger daughter-in-law out of an innocent heart. He does not allow his mother to bully his younger daughter-in-law, and he is also worried that his younger daughter-in-law will hate him. His mother kept telling her about her mother's kindness to her. Let me ask, is the IQ of the man you marry worse than a mentally retarded person? If your mother-in-law is not good to you, or even very bad, you really can't blame her. You have to understand that if it weren't for this man, you would never have anything to do with her in this life. You know, if a man loves you enough, he will definitely ask his family to treat you well. Even if his family really doesn't get along with you, he will at least ask his family to respect you.

If your mother-in-law's family has always treated you unscrupulously, treating your rights as nothing, and treating your dignity as nothing, please don't blame your mother-in-law. No matter what attitude your mother-in-law has towards you, it is all allowed by your husband. Maybe some girls will defend their husbands and say that they don’t like it either? Damn it, their husbands don’t approve of it either, but that’s their mother and there’s nothing he can do about it. But the fact is that even if he can't control his parents' attitude towards you, he will definitely avoid humiliating and embarrassing you. And for you, after he has made it clear that he is on your side, no matter how many grievances your mother-in-law gives you, you will not be so upset because of your husband's support. Like this article? If you like it, please share it! Let more people see it! Original source: lady38