What's the difference between having a second child? The 2-year-old brother was thirsty and crying in the early morning, and the 4-year-old brother got up from bed and threw water on people's hearts.

What is the gap between Dabao and Bauer in the second child family?

Some people say that 1 or 2 years old, some people say that it is 4 or 5 years old, and some people say that it should not exceed 12 years old.

How big is the difference? Really have their own advantages and disadvantages!

No, the video of a pair of brothers became popular on the Internet, and his brother's actions were praised by netizens: it's so warm!

Two brothers are sleeping in bed.

In the morning 1, my brother woke up from crying and said in a hoarse voice, "I want to drink water." No one answered.

"Drink water!" No one answered.

"I want to drink water!" My brother's crying grew louder and louder, and his mood became anxious.

At this time, my brother was awakened by his voice and asked him, "What are you doing?"

The younger brother turned over and lay down beside him, saying, "I want to drink water."

The elder brother gently said to the younger brother, "I'll help you, and the elder brother will pour it."

He immediately got out of bed, got out of bed and got a thermos cup for his brother, then unscrewed the lid and handed it to his brother in bed.

"Take your time," my brother said.

After the younger brother finished drinking, the older brother quickly climbed into bed.

Judging from the video, my brother's actions warm people's hearts and he is a "little warm man" in character.

The mother in the video said that my brother is only 4 years old and my brother is 2 years old. They are not much different in age. Usually, whether she is here or not, the relationship between the two brothers is very good, and the elder brother likes to take care of the younger brother.

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On the other hand, what is the best age difference between Dabao and Bauer in a second-child family? In fact, each has its own advantages and disadvantages!

The difference is 1 and 2 years old: there are many contradictions, but brotherhood is good.

This age difference has the most competition and conflicts. The boss won't let his younger brother | sister (the same below), and the second brother desperately wants to catch up with the boss, and he doesn't give up at all.

However, their brotherhood will be very good, they can speak their minds and have a common "little secret."

Difference of 3 or 4 years: less competition, always sticking to the boss.

This age difference can mobilize the boss to take care of the younger brother, and there is less competition, which is usually a happier age difference.

However, in the first few years of their growth, the boss will think that the younger brother is too young to play with him, but the younger brother is always willing to stick to his brother.

The difference is more than 5 years: the boss has a strong sense of responsibility, and the second child will compare himself.

The boss will follow his parents, take care of his younger brother together, and sometimes win their parents' attention through the role of "little helper"

The second child is usually more self-centered, which is related to being taken care of.

A friend of mine, Dabao and Bauer, are seven years apart. Arguably, there should be no dispute between two children, right?

However, since I had Bauer, my 7-year-old brother seems to have entered puberty early.

If you want something, cry if you don't buy it; At the dinner table, all kinds of picky eaters; I just want to bully my brother if I have nothing to do.

My brother grew up day by day and tried his best to please his brother, but he ignored his love. However, my brother still follows my brother every day.

My brother's attitude towards my brother is "rain or shine": one second it's windy and rainy, and the next it's rainy and windy.

Instead of dealing with the problem between "brothers", it is better to deal with the problem of the boss directly. Here are three points.

1, consciously pay attention to the boss's emotional changes.

After the second child is born, parents will be busy taking care of the second child, ignoring the feelings of the boss. Generally, I will tell my boss that he has grown up and should learn to care about his "younger brother | younger sister".

But the fact is, the boss was just a child before the birth of the second child, and he won't suddenly grow up because of the birth of the younger brother.

Parents pay more attention to the boss's emotional changes and consider the boss's feelings, which can reduce the problems between "brothers" to some extent.

2. Keep in mind the three "no" principles.

(1) Don't always let the boss give way to the second, it will make the boss angry, and the second will easily form the psychology of "I am weak and I am right".

Don't scold the boss in front of your dick. When the boss does something wrong, communicate with him alone and take care of his face.

Don't compare two children. The boss is the boss, and the second is the second. They have their own growth trajectories and are not comparable.

3. Establish "two children" contact.

Invite the boss to participate in the team to take care of the second child, and enhance the boss's sense of value in this respect. Usually communicate with the boss more, you can talk about interesting things about his childhood and let him feel the love of his parents more.

You can also cultivate their spirit of cooperation, for example, when the second child is older, create some conditions for them, encourage them to cooperate, and let them experience the power of unity and mutual assistance.

Finally, what do you think of "the younger brother is only 4 years old, the second brother wakes up thirsty and crying in the morning, and the younger brother pours water"?

What do you think is the best age difference between Dabao and Bauer? Do your two children get along well?