How many people want to marry themselves?

20-25 years old have this idea; 25-30 years old, this idea is getting stronger and stronger; 30-35 years old, if you don't get married at this age, you and your family will be anxious. There are generally three tendencies: 1, anxious to get married, hungry, somewhat inferior, and men can get by; 2, follow the fate, keep faith, believe that your fate has not yet arrived, silently waiting for the emergence of that person in life; 3, disheartened about love, there is extreme psychology, the choice of object does not depend on love, but depends on the man's conditions, will decide not to get married or choose celibacy. . I chatted with a female friend the other day. She said that in the past two years, she was forced to get married by her family, and the whole person was not good. Now she is afraid to call home, and she will be taught a lesson by her family every time. Countless blind dates, but all ended without exception.

My friend is only twenty-five years old. She said that at this age, she was embarrassed and would not like someone easily, so blind date became meaningless. In my mother's words, but if you don't actively fight for it, you will become a leftover woman.

Leftover women have become a special product in modern society.

More than one female friend around me asked me to help introduce her boyfriend, all with the same tone, revealing her eagerness to get married.

Many girls almost choose to get married at the age of 25. In the circle of friends, the bride is hugging her best friend. She is in this state: Dear, you should also find your Mr. Right and get married early.

Marrying yourself seems to be the ultimate task of girls in this era.

Just like bananas on fruit stalls, if they are not sold at the right time, they will definitely not sell at a good price after being dyed with black stripes, and there is even a danger that no one will care about them until they are thrown away.

As a result, blind date became the norm and anxiety began to spread.

I also asked the female friend why she didn't see anything after taking so many photos. She replied, maybe there is no eye contact. Then what is the eye margin? She said, I don't know, maybe it's a feeling that I don't want to part at a glance.

She attributed eye contact to possessiveness. Marriage is really a kind of possession of each other, a contract with a red stamp under a piece of paper. I put a shiny ring on your ring finger, and I declare to the world that I own you. And parents value more than that.

I called my mother two days ago, and her old man began to attack by innuendo again, saying that the master just wanted to persuade me to stabilize my lifelong event as soon as possible. I said, mom, you have been worried all your life. I'm so old, and I have a bottom in my own affairs. Take good care of yourself and play mahjong. The old man said, I can't play mahjong until you get married and have children. I said I was a boy, and you made me so handsome that I didn't worry about finding a wife. The old man said, you are so handsome, don't bring me a daughter-in-law.

The old lady is so funny that I can't speak for a moment. Start looking for other reasons. I said I don't have a car or a house now. Who's with me? The old lady said, don't tell me this. I can't go home. I'll get it ready for you and get married when you come back. In addition, you can rent a house outside, get married, have a baby and buy a house in a few years. I'm telling you, I won't rest until you get married and have children.

It seems that the old man has arranged my life for the next ten years. I know it's not just getting married. When I get married and have children, it is estimated that her old man can't play mahjong with peace of mind, and then there will be new topics.

As parents of boys, they are all in such a hurry, let alone parents of girls. The difference of female students' physiological structure leads to the earlier they get married and have children, the better, which greatly aggravates their anxiety.

Rhapsody in July is a flower, and a woman is forty tofu dregs. The friend said, this is not fair.

But what is fairness in this world? In the distant matriarchal society, women have a high degree of freedom and the right to dominate men. Children only know that their mothers don't know their fathers, and men have no status at all. I often think that women were really smart at that time, and I'm afraid there wouldn't be any girls worried about getting married at that time. However, the smart state of women has disappeared now, only thousands of years ago.

Be sure to talk about a stable boyfriend before the age of twenty-five, marry yourself before the age of twenty-seven, have children before the age of thirty ... everything is step by step, and everything is up to your mother.

At this time, love or something is not so important. A friend said that love is of course the best. If not, it doesn't matter. As long as it looks pleasing to the eye, it is possible to cultivate it slowly. Besides, even if there is love from the beginning, who can guarantee that there will be no problem with daily necessities? How many couples are walking to the wedding hall, taking wedding photos and preparing for the wedding, because of some trivial things. So, it doesn't matter. It is important to find a boyfriend who can get married, a boyfriend who can get married, a boyfriend, a boyfriend. ...

This state, much like Xianglinsao, is always chanting, my poor Amao, my Amao, Amao. ...

When I went out some time ago, I met a girl in her thirties in the tea room of the Youth Travel Service. She told me about her experiences at home and abroad and all kinds of interesting people and things she met. At first, I didn't realize that she was thirty-four or five years old. At this age, I seldom have children out of wedlock and often travel around the world.

Seeing my surprise, this sister asked me, what do you think is the meaning of marriage?

I thought about it and said that two people should be together and have a dependence on each other.

Sister said, you mean, young couples are always together, and they are not tired of holding hands and watching each other. I choose not to get married, not because I am an unmarried family, but because I have never found the right person to hold my hand until I am old. I used to think so, too. The older I get, the stronger this feeling becomes. Get married, or get married and have children in one go while you are young, or get high and happy like me.

So how did you get through your family? I am curious.

Do you know why your family advised you to get married? Sister said, in fact, marriage itself is definitely not an end, but having children is the meaning. That's how our parents' generation came about. They are experiencing a planned economic system, and everything needs to be planned well and step by step, so as not to be flustered. For them, giving birth to children, raising children to grow up, helping children choose marriage partners, urging children to have children, and if possible, helping children take care of them are the whole process of their lives. It is unacceptable to miss any link. Besides, you know that they care about the opinions of relatives and friends about all this, and a word from others is enough for them to push you to the wedding hall.

This elder sister is in her thirties, with a successful career and many suitors around her. But she doesn't care much about all this. She goes to work, studies, does Taekwondo, watches plays and musicals, and travels around the world whenever she has time. She doesn't need a five-star hotel. She said that there are luxury facilities, good services and wealth that many people envy, but there are no interesting people and no real atmosphere about people and life. Boredom is meaningless.

Parents always say it's good for us, and we know they must be good for us. After most of life's ups and downs, their parents will definitely not push us into the fire pit. The advice they gave us must be the safest plan in their opinion. But they think the best is not necessarily the best for them.

But judging from young people's outlook on life, they don't even know what they want and what suits them best. In this way, what well-meaning parents do seems to be right.