My wife lends money to many people, never consulting with me or saying how much to borrow, which makes me feel looked down upon.

You want to know, ask yourself. First of all, is the loan money yours or hers? There is no reason why they can't give you the bill directly, and then they can give you an idea of how to use the same property. Barabara, if it's her own, you can't ask a fart. You can't afford a worthless thing, and you want to be respected, mentally retarded.