About Yao Bao's drums

The most reassuring moment every week is now. Yao Bao is in a bridge class. I set up a computer, sat at the bridge table and did some random things on the computer.

A man can only feel at ease if he keeps his position right.

I was very upset yesterday. I didn't sleep well at night and I was so sleepy during the day. I couldn't help falling asleep against the wall while playing ball with Yao Bao. Yao Bao had never seen anything like this, and he came to ask me, Mom, what's wrong with you?

Send a circle of friends 100 in the morning. Yao's father asked me how much I had taken before, and I replied that strictly speaking, I only took more than forty, but because Sui's mother gave us 100 love manually, I was satisfied in an instant. That's the truth. Those who know me make me worry, and those who don't know me make me want.

Therefore, it is really enough for people in this world to have one who understands you. The one who knows Yao Bao best is Sui's mother.

Sui's mother is Yao Bao's head teacher in Weihai Kindergarten. I always suspected that she knew Yao Bao better than I did. It is with her support and encouragement that Yao Bao, as a kindergarten child, flies back and forth between Shanghai and Weihai alone. So she is the only person in the world who can give Yao 100% care.

In the kindergarten class, Yao Bao learned three musical instruments, namely piano, violin and jazz drum. Piano and violin are standard in international classes, and everyone learns them. Sui's mother said that Yao Bao can bear hardships. When practicing the violin, he stood there for a long time and never shouted tired. The performance was also put in the middle position by the teacher. I believe this, because Yao Bao mentioned a few days ago that he wanted to learn the violin, and I didn't teach him.

The piano has persisted until now, basically because I like it. This made him play very well until Band 6, although he practiced very little. I am hesitant to let him take the seventh grade exam this winter vacation, because it means I will lose my life for a while. Whether it is important for him to play the piano or for me to save my life is a question worth weighing again and again.

Of course, it is also important to meet a reliable piano teacher. I will write an article about piano another day. Let's talk about today's focus-drum set.

Yao Bao happened to be in a big class. I once went to their kindergarten to do parent-child activities. He quietly took me to the drum classroom, pointed to a set of small drums like toys and said, Mom, I want to learn this. At this time, teacher Zhang hired by the kindergarten came in. I quickly explained that the child wanted to learn the drum set. He kindly asked Yao Bao, do you want to learn drum sets? Yao Bao must have nodded. Teacher Zhang said to try it if you like.

This experiment is one year. Later, I asked Sui's mother how Yao Bao learned this drum set. She said she wanted to see me. Later, she replied that Teacher Zhang said that he was the best in this year. This is really rude, because every time I watch a kindergarten performance, Yao Bao is at the front, right in the middle. So when I picked up Yao Bao to study in Shanghai, I made a special phone call to thank Teacher Zhang. He has been saying on the phone that it is not easy to meet a good prospect who learns to play drums.

But this prospect seems to have been killed by me.

First of all, I don't like drum sets. I think this thing is too noisy. I can't help liking it. As soon as Yao Bao said yes, he went to the store and bought an expensive electric drum, claiming to study with his son. I told dad Yao that since you support it, you are in charge of sparring. Obviously, Yao's father and my father like different things. Apart from playing with Yao Bao once in a while, he basically doesn't care about learning drums. Speaking of it, Yao Bao is quite good at playing jazz drums. All the games he plays are SS, and Yao's father is B on average.

Facts have proved that drums are easy to buy, but teachers are hard to find. On the recommendation of a friend, we found a one-on-one jazz drum teacher for Yao Bao. On the first day, because of his tattoo, Yao Bao came back and cried. Regardless of Yao Bao's heartbreaking tears, we insisted that Yao Bao learn drum sets from Teacher Chen.

Practically speaking, Mr. Chen, who came back from studying drums in the United States, loves drums like life. His own level is absolutely high enough, and his teaching philosophy is really good. However, people who can play drums really don't necessarily teach drums, especially children. Mr. Chen is like this. His teaching habits and methods are too difficult for children to accept.

Teacher Chen doesn't use textbooks and has no drum music. Every time he teaches a child something new, he demonstrates it directly on the drum, and then makes the child sit up and knock. Five or six drums and five or six cymbals, two hands and two feet, turn a few times, and all you can feel is: "Wow! Listen carefully! " As for how to knock it out, there is no way to know. As a result, as soon as the child sits on the drum, all he can do is get confused.

Therefore, Yao Baoxue learns to play drums by ear, which requires great patience and determination for a first-grade child. It's easy to learn at first, but it can still be controlled. For example, when playing "I am a bird", Yao Bao was still in high spirits. Later, in the face of the complicated and long "slam dunk master", let alone Yao Bao, even I began to worry about him.

Many people in the circle of friends should have seen Yao Bao's two drumming videos. In the absence of any drum music, it is really not easy to learn these songs by ear, so Teacher Chen said that Yao Bao is a talented drummer. It's a pity that it's not enough to learn drum sets from Mr. Chen, but also to have talent. I later concluded that it is more effective and feasible for Yao Bao to be older, have better understanding and acceptance, really know how to love jazz drums, and then learn from Mr. Chen.

Too difficult things will not only lead to a slow or even stagnant learning process, but also consume a person's enthusiasm. So you can feel that Yao Bao's interest in learning jazz drums is really getting lower and lower every day.

At this time, Yao Bao entered the second grade, and the school band recruited musicians. He was recruited to learn percussion. I think all the jazz drums have been played. What happened to little snare drum? Learn from both sides, manage both sides, and at least maintain the standard. Because there are too many things when I take care of my child alone, I don't care if he plays drums at all, so let him practice or not.

I have been playing drums for almost two years. For Yao Bao, there are few new things that can be learned by a simple little snare drum. It is really something that can be learned by eating at an age. So his progress is extremely limited. I can expect this, but what I didn't expect was that any skill is appropriate to advance and retreat. The piano is like this, so is the drum.

What is particularly funny during this period is that a set of jazz drums takes up a lot of space. Because the family is too small, the old people not only strongly opposed us to buy jazz drums at first, but also strongly urged us to sell them and change to a big bed on the grounds that we had no place to live in Shanghai after buying them. This voice is getting louder and louder. Because I don't think he will take the initiative to practice drums, I will often say so. Yao Baoyi didn't agree at first, and then he didn't respond. How persistent and persistent can a child be in the face of various external tests on the road to realizing his ideal? If you don't love to a certain extent, the answer is obvious.

By the end of the second grade, Yao Bao wanted to learn bridge by himself and help him contact his current club. The time of class coincides with the time of jazz drum class. I don't think he will lose his kung fu playing in the band at school anyway, and he won't have to start all over again if he wants to learn jazz drums well in the future.

Unfortunately, I still think too easily, and the final result is bound to pay the price. Children learn musical instruments, unless they are gifted and have their own driving mode, it is difficult to persist in learning without the supervision and supervision of parents and teachers. This is an unbreakable truth that has been tested by countless practices.

Yao Bao studied percussion in the school band, and originally had music scores. But I don't know why. Every time I came back, I said that the score printed by the teacher was not enough, so I borrowed my classmate's share. And his teammates who play better with him often don't score like him. The band is full of students from other classes, so it is not easy to find music to copy.

Finally, it took a lot of effort to get people to help take pictures of the soundtrack, most of which were unclear and could not be copied. I can only draw his own score according to the picture. I really don't know how many times I have done this kind of thing. At the same time, Yao Bao has quite a few times without a penny in his hand. Two days a week, he goes early and comes back late with his musical instrument, but he has no music score to base on. What do you think he can learn?

It turns out that learning percussion at school is much more reliable than going to see Mr. Chen. Compared with jazz drums, percussion is too simple, and there are limited things to learn. At the same time, percussionists have no sense of existence in the orchestra. What's more, their school doesn't know what to think. Basically, the reserve batters trained are eight times as many as those played formally, ranking first among all musical instruments.

Then, forget it if you can't learn anything. It's good that we can take part in a performance that will win honor for our school. It's also important for children. Unfortunately, the ratio of supply and demand is too different. Who will play in the end is not really unknown.

Games without rules are difficult to play, and fools will not do things without lining and face. But I can't say it in front of the children, just joke with Yao Bao and say, forget it, we won't play the band. Learn jazz drums when you have time, learn the skills well, and be happy to form your own band in the future. Children will also feel tired. On Wednesdays and Thursdays, they play the wind and musical instruments and get caught in the rain. It's not an ordinary effort, and they haven't made any progress. This is a typical waste of time.

So he agreed. But the problem is coming again. Do you want to learn or not? If you learn, how can you learn?

I seem to be stuck at once, and I can't do anything. It keeps me awake at night.

In fact, the essence of music is to bring us a better life experience. If you can interpret music, that's good, because you have the ability to create beautiful experiences to share with others; If you can only appreciate music, congratulations on your ability to experience a better life.

From this perspective, the essence of loving music is loving life. Why do children have the attribute of loving music? Out of pure love for life. Unfortunately, Yao Bao, who has a pure love for drum sets, was led astray after all.

All my troubles are that as a mother, I have no ability to guide and inspire my children to keep that heartfelt love. I use secular methods and standards to ask and educate my children, but I stifle their beautiful feelings of simply loving music.

Music itself should not be utilitarian. Children should enjoy the happiness and sense of accomplishment brought by music under the guidance of music, and then love and respect life more. It sounds empty, but it is the true truth about music.

So whether you admit it or not, any practice with utilitarian purpose will eventually collapse and lead to a dead end of music. Or to put it another way, the more you respect the essence of music about freedom and love, the more you can get happiness and even success. For flesh-and-blood individuals, happiness means more than success.

And most people, including myself, may have taken the opposite path with their children from the beginning.

We regard music as a skill and emphasize the difficulty blindly, so the piano becomes a ten-finger movement and the drum set becomes a limb movement. This kind of unintelligible scripted speech is a real waste of time.

We regard music as a means to make a living and tell our children that music is your bargaining chip for further study and your survival skills for future life. Music stained with secular utilitarianism has become a spirit that can never fly again, and can't lead the soul to those beautiful and precious places.

The world of mortals is rolling. Music that could have saved the soul killed childhood and imprisoned life. This makes me feel frustrated.

Unfortunately, I found the problem, but I didn't find the answer. Maybe Yao's father is right: Next, let Yao Bao play drums freely out of pure love!

So Yao Bao, do you remember your simple love for drum sets when you were a child? In the future, we promise not to sell jazz drums, nor that you can play drums, giving you another survival skill. It's up to you to find your own feelings about music and drums. I believe that after three years of jazz drum training, you are very savvy and will definitely find a way to get along with jazz drums happily.

Of course, if you need anything, mom and dad will support you unconditionally! Establish words as the basis.