What do you think of "if you buy one, get one free and lose money, you don't have a family, how can you show off in an ostentatious manner?"

"Now this society has changed, and the concepts of men and women have also changed. Your father and I used to be introduced by a matchmaker, so we can't meet alone before we get married. Although it was the fate of our parents, marriage was a lifetime at that time. Just like listening to that marriage for three days and two days now, this divorce is like a child playing house. "

It is true that the society has changed, and the thinking of natural people has also changed. Contemporary young people are increasingly disgusted with their parents' preaching. Every time, we will reply, "This is not your time, and your ideas are useless now."

At the beginning, it was ordered by parents, and the agreement of the matchmaker was not to let them express their opinions at all; Later, there was no matchmaker agreement at all. On the contrary, it's my own idea. My parents' opinions have become a reference completely, and the final decision is still in my own hands.

In fact, this idea has made great progress. After all, marriage is really your own choice and your own life. It is good to be free to fall in love, regardless of family status and power, and to have the right to decide on marriage.

When a person is in power, it is easy to make mistakes, so since it is his own decision, he must bear the consequences. There are many things in the world that can't be repeated. You only have one choice. If you don't want to regret your choice, don't hold anything in others' hands. You should know how to cherish your feathers.

In fact, the progress of thought has brought great changes, and everyone is free to pursue love. In fact, many times, we will still meet many good people, but everything is out of the box.

Free love also has some impure purposes. Divorced women will still be discriminated against in the outside world. If they get pregnant before marriage, others will say that they don't love themselves, so it depends on the people you meet, but I advise you not to gamble. After all, people are separate.

"Buy one get one free, you lose money. You have no family. What capital do you have to show off in an ostentatious manner? "

Reader Li is a woman who is positive and optimistic about life, but no matter how positive and optimistic she is, she will have a bad past. Some people look positive and optimistic, but you may not find that she is faking it. Maybe they have already seen through life and realized that everything they encounter is their own fault. They don't hate others, only blame themselves for not knowing others.

Li has been very sweet since she was a child, especially when she was in high school. Many people secretly loved her, and she received love letters every day. She had good grades, but her grades plummeted because of puppy love, but she was smart and cheated her parents. Later, she didn't go to college in the college entrance examination, so she began to go out to work.

It turns out that puppy love can't be completely blamed on Li, because her parents divorced when she was very young, and she has been living with her mother. Her father basically ignored her, as if he had disappeared from the world. Lack of fatherly love since childhood, she always likes to deal with boys. As long as a little boy is kind to her, she is particularly moved.

Later, in the process of working, she met the boy who worked with her, four years older than her. The boy's family condition is not good, but he is very kind to Li, which makes her feel the warmth brought by love since she was a child, and the boy has since entered her heart.

Like many girls, Luz supports free love and is open-minded. About half a year after the relationship was confirmed, her partner asked her to move in together, saying that it would save money and they could save more money. Lutz moved in together without thinking.

After living together for a year, Luz got pregnant unexpectedly. When she found out that she was pregnant, she was uneasy, but she believed in her boyfriend, that he could give herself a future, and that he would bear the responsibility.

But when her boyfriend knew about it, he was not as happy as other prospective fathers, but rather abnormal. Later, her boyfriend told her that something had happened in her hometown and she needed to go home for a few days.

After her boyfriend came back from his hometown, he happily told Luz that he would take this responsibility and finally chose to marry her. At that time, Luz was very happy. She felt that she was not wrong about this man, who had always loved her.

Luz told her mother that she was getting married. At first, her mother was very happy, but when she learned that Luz was pregnant, she chose to get married. Coupled with the poor family conditions of the man, her mother has always opposed it. But Luz has made up his mind and is pregnant. I had to agree to the marriage, so I discussed the wedding with the man.

When Luz gets married, her father will definitely show up. Although my father didn't take care of Zilu in recent years, he had to pay a lot of living expenses every month. Because Lutz's father remarried and had his own family, he didn't care much about Lutz.

At that time, I went to discuss it, and the man said that there was no money at home, so the bride price was forgotten. Lutz's parents will definitely not do it, saying that they will not get married, and we will raise the children ourselves, ready to take Lutz away. However, Luz hated his father, didn't listen to his father, and even had a big fight with his father. He said directly to his father: You haven't cared about me since childhood, so you are not qualified to care about my marriage. Then the mother went on to say, that father won't listen, so listen to me. Then let's see where there is such a thing. No bride price, no three gold, not even a dowry. Is there anyone who does things like this?

However, where Lutz listened at this time, she always felt that her choice was right. I didn't listen to my parents' good words at all. Finally, her father ignored her and her mother was so angry that she was hospitalized.

Their marriage was really naked at that time. Only the man's family invited a few relatives and friends to dinner, and even the banquet was not held. However, Luz always believed that she would be happier and happier. Although there is nothing now, there will be everything one day.

But after marrying her mother-in-law, she realized that some things cannot be won by her own efforts. No matter what she does, she just can't get into the eyes of her mother-in-law, but her husband always tells her that my mother is like that. Take your time.

Lutz thinks that even if her mother-in-law doesn't like herself, she has her blood in her belly, so it will be better. Zilu thought it would be good to wait for the baby to be born, but where is the mother's child expensive?

Zilu finally gave birth to a son. She should be glad she didn't have a daughter, otherwise she doesn't know how evil her mother-in-law will be. The month of delivery was the best month since Luz got married. Her mother-in-law takes care of her and her husband cares about her. But all this is because I am afraid that my child's nutrition can't keep up, so I am so kind to her.

But the mother-in-law and husband are good to the child, and they are still the same to her. She feels that she is not a married daughter-in-law, but a free nanny.

Zilu thought that as long as it was not excessive, she had to endure it for the sake of her children. Later, when the child grew up, Luz thought that her mother-in-law liked to take care of her eldest grandson anyway, so she wanted to go out to earn money, but her mother-in-law and husband stopped her, so she had to stay at home.

Later, because her mother-in-law gave her children something unclean, the children were hospitalized, and then Lutz questioned her mother-in-law, but she didn't expect her mother-in-law to bite back. Later, when her husband found out, he cursed Luz, and at this time, her emotions broke out. Then I quarreled with my husband on the phone. I didn't expect her husband to say directly, "You're a free-for-all, and you don't have a family. What capital do you have to show off in an ostentatious manner? "

When Luz heard this, she wanted to die. However, for the sake of children, she chose patience. Later, she lied to her husband and mother-in-law that her mother was seriously ill and would go home to visit for a few days. She wanted to take the child away, but her husband and mother-in-law refused. Later, Luz went back alone. It's not that my mother is ill, but that I want a divorce. I think there have been enough grievances and disappointments in recent years, and it is time to make a decision with the past.

Later, with the help of his father, Luz divorced her husband.

Later, Luz told me that I actually thought about divorce when I was very young. But every time I think about what I choose, I have to bear it myself, and finally I can't stand it, so it's over. She knew it was harmful to the child, but there was nothing she could do.

Actually, it's not the first time I've heard of this kind of thing. After all, I've heard too much from my mother.

But I still hope that every woman should not rely on her own willfulness before making a decision, but should consider whether she can bear the worst consequences. If you can't, don't try, or you will regret it one day.

If we want to be loved by others, we must learn to love ourselves first. Only in this way can you be loved. Of course, love is not lip service, but more about what the other person has done for you.

Respect yourself first, but love yourself first to get deep love.