"What I am proud of is: through loving you, I see myself" A confession of love from parents

"Do you love your child?"

"Of course!"

"Why?"

"This is not how it should be Who doesn’t love their children? ”

Yes, no parent does not love their children, but sometimes, is the love you think you have for your children true?

Children are the focus of every family's life. Some parents even have to keep their children under their eyes 24 hours a day, because only in this way can they feel at ease.

But after all, these are first-time parents. It is inevitable that children will encounter various stumbling blocks during their growth, which makes parents involuntarily continue to learn and grow along with them.

Xiaoyu’s father: I found that since I had a child, my life has become more fulfilling. Although there are more things to do every day, my sense of responsibility is also gradually increasing, allowing me to quickly transform from a boy to a boy. Got a man.

Lili’s father: After having my daughter, I have more happy moments.

I think twice when buying clothes and food for myself, but when buying things for my daughter, I always choose good quality and high-quality products, and I never hesitate.

What makes me feel meaningful is that the education and guidance in raising my daughter have given me an unprecedented experience from her babbling to her gradual growth.

The mother of a boy in the third grade of primary school: I raised his child who could never talk or walk into a bouncing and eloquent person. I feel very fulfilled.

I am very pleased to have grown from a blank piece of paper to have independent thoughts, personality, and quality, and will not become our appendage.

Mother of an eighth-grade junior high school child: The process of accompanying my child is actually a growth for me. Although many times, the child will bring you unexpected surprises or scares, but it is helpless and happy. .

I hope to pass on the advantages I have to my children through words and deeds. In the future, we will discuss problems together, grow up together, and enjoy every moment with our children. I think Life is quite fulfilling.

The mother of a boy in the second grade of high school: 24 hours a day, most of the time is for the child. The family’s living expenses are also more inclined to spend more on the child. As long as it is what he wants, I will basically do it. His wish was granted, after all, the child is older now.

There is a topic that parents can never do without, that is children's education, and what affects children the most is the education of their original family.

The family of origin is the origin of children’s education. Every move of the parents deeply affects the child’s personality and behavioral habits, and even their future life.

An American psychologist said: "A child is a mirror. The problems that exist in children are also problems that already exist in the parents themselves."

Whether a child will be outstanding in the future depends on What kind of person they will become in the future depends on what kind of person their parents are. Every bit of parents' daily life will have a subtle impact on their children.

People often say: "It does not mean that one family does not enter the same house." It is not unreasonable. A good living environment and a good living atmosphere will give people the confidence to be positive, confident and sunny.

If in this family, parents argue endlessly every day, beat and scold them every day, or have cold wars for a long time, then the children will naturally be timid, unconfident, and sensitive and fragile.

Do you still remember that family where three generations of children and grandchildren are professors, doctors, and masters?

My grandfather has been teaching and educating people all his life. His parents are also teachers and doctors. My aunt is a university professor, my uncle is also a professor, my uncle is a doctor of medicine, my aunt is a writer, and my children are all PhDs and masters. , scientific research talents.

In a foreign family where six generations of descendants are poor, beggars and vagrants, the grandfather of the family was a gambler and alcoholic, and he spent his whole life in a muddle. Some have ended their lives or become disabled because of drunkenness and causing trouble, and some have even been imprisoned for theft and robbery.

This shows how important the original family is and how shocking the impact the original family has on the children.

Therefore, I suggest that parents, after discovering the shortcomings of their children, do not deny or criticize their children, but first reflect on themselves about everything, whether there is anything they did wrong, and whether there is anything that needs to be corrected, and then go on. Educate and guide children.

The highest level of educating children is to see their parents clearly through their children.

Every word, deed, and action of parents deeply affects the growth of their children. So, as a parent, how should we set an example and give our children a positive guidance and role model?

1 Make progress with your children

Mrs. Thatcher once said: "Your thoughts will eventually become your words, your words will become your actions, and you Your actions will become your habits, and your habits will become your character, and your character will eventually change your destiny."

If people have different personalities, their choices will be different. The influence I received from my family of origin is closely related to everything I face today.

Therefore, as parents, we should always "look in the mirror" at our children, discover our own shortcomings through our children, and then correct them and reflect them on our children. If we can all face it positively, then our children will It will definitely be very good.

2 Let your children be influenced by their ears and eyes

Parents are the first choice for children to understand the world and themselves, so many people will say things like "whose child is like who?", you Children should treat others how they treat others.

Although parents do not teach their children intentionally, children will be influenced by their parents' words and deeds in daily life, and they will continue to imitate their parents to achieve their own understanding.

As parents, we should not always reason with our children, because your actual actions are already affecting them, and if your reasons are not in line with your actual actions, your children will be very repulsive. .

Teaching by example is better than words. Parents have always been role models for their children. They will subconsciously think that their parents are right, so we must subtly influence their children with correct behavior.

3 See the essence through the phenomenon

I wonder if you have ever observed yourself and your children, or people with children around you?

Are parents who like to dress up very much and care about appearance, and their children also pay special attention to it? If a person loves to gossip, and also loves to speak ill of people behind their backs. One second his friends' secrets are kept secret, but the next second they are made known to the whole world, then one of his parents must also be a big mouth.

If parents are cheerful, friendly, and have many friends, then their children will also have many friends. If one of the parents smokes, drinks, and gambles, then the child will naturally grow up to be like this.

Although this is not absolute, the probability is very high, so if we want to raise a positive, kind and outstanding child, then we must constantly correct our bad habits and constantly improve ourselves. In the process, this positive energy is passed on to the children.

In addition to the above, I think the most important thing is companionship. Without the company of parents, children will lack happiness and warmth in their childhood.

Speaking of companionship, I have to mention the contribution of a netizen. She said that children without their parents are really helpless, just like herself.

I grew up with my grandparents. My parents were always away from home and would only come back once during the holidays.

At first, she said that she would still count the days and look forward to her parents coming back, because there would be good food to eat, money to spend, and new clothes to wear.

As she grew up, she longed to stay with her parents, but she failed in the end.

She said that because of the lack of care and companionship from her parents, she has always been extremely insecure and unwilling to open up to others. She always likes to hide in a shell alone. She wants to be close to warmth but is afraid of not belonging. I was even depressed for a time, and now my relationship with my parents is not close.

Some parents always say that they make money outside for the benefit of their children, "Can he live a good life without money?" But for the child, he would rather have his parents by his side than a good life. , companionship is the most permanent confession.