Mom and dad prefer boys to girls. Say a short sentence first.

Some things, if we can't change, then we can only adapt, no matter what way.

Adaptation, in the final analysis, is not for others, but for yourself. Life will be less troublesome when you don't have a hard time with yourself.

Especially if this matter is a responsibility that you can't escape, since there are many things to do and you don't have the courage to come out, adjusting your mentality is the best way.

I want to talk about the fact that parents prefer boys to girls.

I have caught many such examples around me. My grandfather is a patriarchal father. At that time, he always thought that having a son was to carry on the family line. If all the children are daughters, the incense is broken. Naturally, grandpa is determined to have a son. In order to have this son, four daughters were born in front.

When grandpa's children grow up, to be honest, daughters are much more filial than sons.

My three aunts, including my mother, no matter how busy they are, whenever they are free, they often meet and visit their grandparents, buy their favorite food, and sometimes stay for two days when they are free, cook for them and chat with them. Grandparents live in the town, which is more than an hour's drive.

And my little uncle only goes during the Spring Festival all the year round. As a younger brother, he doesn't have the same language when chatting with these sisters, so he doesn't like to follow. Only during the Chinese New Year, everyone will go back to their hometown to go to the grave, and so will my uncle.

Over the years, no matter in the basic life care, or care, or grandparents are sick, it is the daughters who pay more and take more care.

So that my grandfather will often feel with people now, saying, "It is better to have a daughter, a daughter is filial, and more daughters make me happy when I am old."

My old grandfather never said that. My mother said that when their five children were young, my little uncle was the most favored, especially my grandfather, who bought whatever his son wanted. Although their daughter's words are not so harsh, the treatment is definitely different from his son's.

In terms of support, grandpa's five children are equal. For example, if you spend a lot of money on a disease and all five children share it equally, you won't say that only your son will pay. Everyone is also very conscious, saying that filial piety is appropriate, and there is no need to care about this money.

Grandparents add up to more than 3 thousand retirement wages every month. Grandpa had savings when he was young, so he had money. It's just that everyone thinks that grandpa is rich and filial piety is two different things. In addition, grandpa is frugal and reluctant to spend money, so every time he is ill and hospitalized, the children at home will not let him pay for it himself.

If he pays for it himself, he may feel that it is a waste of money and refuse to treat it.

Including grandma.

My mother and three aunts complained for the first time. My grandfather was ill and almost left. At that time, he said that the funeral was not for his daughter, but for his son to do it alone. He used his own money to give the rest of the money to the person who did it.

At that time, his bank card password was only told to my uncle, but he refused to say it in front of his daughter. After my mother and them came out consciously, my grandfather confessed a series of things.

However, if they spit, complaining is complaining, and they will treat their grandparents as before in their future lives.

I gradually found that in the eyes of parents who have a preference for boys over girls, this concept is mostly deeply rooted and does not depend on any realistic subjective and objective factors.

As parents, if they face a daughter who is more filial than their son, they will be gratified, praised and feel that their daughter is better. They will also blame their son for not being sensible and will be sad. At ordinary times, I may even help my daughter do some trivial things, giving people the illusion that my parents' mentality has changed and they are no longer eccentric.

But once it really involves vital interests, it will still stand on the son's side and seek maximum benefits for his son.

There are few exceptions to this.

The concept of "sons are family" has been a part of their basic concept for many years, just like eating and sleeping every day. In their view, this is the correct concept and their inner persistence. If you want to change, it will be difficult for you.

There is a hard reality: no matter how capable and filial a daughter is, in the eyes of parents who prefer boys to girls, they will always put their son first.

Of course, if children's interests do not conflict, they will be able to live in peace, and the contradictions will not be so sharp.

Last year, a 40-year-old woman said that her mother was also a son preference, especially when she was a child. Later, as she and her younger brother grew up, she was much more capable and sensible than her younger brother, so her mother's love was transferred to her, and even her younger brother at home learned more from her.

However, gradually, no matter what she does, her mother seems to be used to it.

Once, her mother fell ill and stayed in the hospital for two months. After the work, her mother didn't say anything about hard work. Her brother came back and forth later, and left in half a day. He gave his mother 200 yuan and took all the fruits that others bought for his mother in the hospital.

She was very angry at that time, thinking that her brother was perfunctory and obviously not busy with work. She would rather go to Internet cafes to play games all day than spend more time with her mother.

But after her mother got well, she just praised her son everywhere, saying that he had grown up and understood, and now he knows how to be filial to his parents, and she was not mentioned at all.

It is also false to say that there is no sadness and injustice. There are always fragile places in people's hearts, especially in the face of their parents' affection. The closer you are, the easier it is to be paranoid when it is unfair.

Prejudice parents are more likely to be remembered, magnified and constantly mentioned, which makes them more tolerant. And neglected people, filial piety is always not easy to find, but if he does a little badly, he may be blamed immediately.

At this time, people always can't stand more scrutiny.

Many daughters who face this problem always have two feelings that they can't let go. On the one hand, they can't change their parents' thoughts, and at the same time, they can't heal their own unwillingness.

However, everyone will eventually try to make a reconciliation with their inner injustice, because people who are embarrassed by themselves are kind in nature, so they will not forget their responsibilities.

In this way, we can only adapt, and consider ourselves as much as possible on the premise of having a clear conscience.