The world is full of people, and people who can talk are hard to find.

I have been reading Liu Zhenyun's novel "One sentence is worth ten thousand sentences" this week.

I have to say, this is a great novel, just like painting a portrait of all kinds of people in China, with your shadow and mine. They are big and small. They are busy and lonely. They are dense, they are desolate.

Countless people who buy food and run trucks on the street all live and grow up in this book. However, the background of fate hides light, and there must be a trace of darkness.

Whether Yang Baishun and Niu finally got on the train and went to a distant place, or Lao Lu and Lao Zeng stayed where they were and were content with their fate, they were all driven by fate, and they were looking for someone to talk to all their lives. Think about it, yes! Even a small person, in the final analysis, is still a good time to live. What's the point of unhappy life?

There is a saying: "There are too many beautiful skins and too few interesting souls".

Let's talk about the outline of the story first.

Yang Baishun (later renamed MoMo Wu) has been living a fragmented life, and fate seems to be playing tricks on him. It's hard to find someone to talk to after changing jobs a hundred times.

It happened that his wife and her ex-husband's child, Qiao Ling (later called Cao Chune), could talk, but this child was lost by Yang Baishun, so Yang Baishun went out of Yanjin and searched for it for half his life. The next chapter is the story of Hui. It happened that Niu Chune, a descendant of Cao Chune, was patriotic. In order to get rid of loneliness, he also found a "talkative" friend and went.

There are many characters in this book. The first reading is "tired of not loving", and it is vaguely "unclear". After reading it, you can only "think carefully and fear."

Because the book divides the relationship between people into "talking" and "not talking". Simple classification, but very effective.

Whether it's family, friends or husband and wife, when they talk, people kiss. On the other hand, once you can't say it, there is no pro-flavor. A family that loves talking and a family that doesn't love talking must be different.

Think about it, too. I remember someone saying that although Kangxi had three thousand palace powders, his favorite person was Rong Fei. When he went to Rongfei's house, his favorite sentence was: "I want to talk to you." Then pour out some chores.

Later, he had to abolish Rong Fei, and then he wanted to talk to someone. It's already empty. Although he is an emperor of past dynasties, he doesn't even have a speaker. We can change the name of this story, such as The Secret History of the Harem or On How Women Conquer an Emperor. Very simple, four words-word.

On the other hand, we all know what it feels like to be speechless. We meet all over the world. How many people know each other?

For example, there are hundreds of contacts on WeChat, and the names are turned over one by one. How many people can make you feel at ease, calm, and speak freely anytime and anywhere. Those who can talk are probably the most precious to you.

People get along with others just because they are comfortable together and can say something thoughtful.

Everyone has a desire to communicate. People who don't like talking don't stop talking, but they don't meet people who can talk.

There is a difference between not talking and not talking.

If you don't like to talk, you always have something to say in your heart, and there is still room for redemption; If you don't like to talk, you have nothing to say, and that's terrible.

I can't talk, either. Many people say that I am too cold to return messages. Actually, I'm very enthusiastic. I also want to turn myself into an interesting person and make everyone like me. But every time I am in front of strangers, I just don't know how to speak, so my familiar friends say that I am laughing, and my unfamiliar friends say that I am boring and too serious, as if judging two completely different people.

As the preface says, "once words become the only way of communication between people, seeking and loneliness will accompany them all their lives." Loneliness is not only the experience of sages, but everyone has it. In the book, Lao Yang is all Lao Yang, and Khufu is all Khufu. Officials who kill pigs and sell steamed buns are all on their way.

02

So, what kind of experience is "talking"?

There is a sentence in the book, "Before a woman commits adultery, there is always a sentence that touches her. What exactly does this sentence mean? Moses Wu never thought about it in his life. " But Niu patriotism is understandable.

On the way to find his derailed wife Pang Lina, Niu Aiguo met Zhang Chuhong, the daughter-in-law of Kun Li, the boss of Lao Li Food City. From this, I suddenly realized that the spiritual code of lovers in the world is that two people can "talk" together.

The book says, "If Niu is patriotic and no one can say it, Zhang Chuhong can say it. If you can't remember with others, you can remember with Zhang Chuhong. The number of ways of speaking is different from that of anyone else. They are like themselves. The two said happy things and unhappy things. Talk to others, happy things say happy, unhappy things say disappointed; But when Niu Aiguo and Zhang Chuhong are together, he can be happy when he is unhappy ... "After a while, he was going to sleep, and one person said," Let's talk about something else. " Another person said, "Say something else, then say something else."

It's difficult to communicate with people.

In other words, people can hardly find anyone who can talk all the time. I can't find the hole either.

There is a bridge in the book that says, "It's a pleasure to have friends coming from afar." We interpret Confucius as happy to have friends coming from afar. In the book, Lao Wang said, "What are you happy about? It's just that saints break their hearts. If you have friends around you, you have finished talking in your heart. It doesn't matter if you come from afar? It is precisely because there are no friends around that this distant person will be regarded as a friend; Is this person in the distance a friend or not? "

It's really hard to talk. First, read an example from a book. Father Zhan met a pig killer by the Yellow River in China and persuaded him to believe in the Lord. The pig slayer said, Why do you believe in the Lord?

Father Zhan said that if you believe in the Lord, you will know who you are, where you come from and where you are going. I also know that I am a pig killer, and I came to Li Jiazhuang from zhang jia zhuang to kill pigs.

It looks funny, doesn't it?

In fact, the conversation between people is generally like this, but we sometimes kill pigs as Father Zhan, and we don't know it yet.

People we thought could talk, but they don't.

The essence of looking for "talkative" people is to find themselves and confirm the value of their existence through them.

While others are hell, his past, his values and his world outlook are often hidden behind a sentence. He thought it was a good suggestion when he said it, but it sounded nonsense to us, and vice versa.

The same is true of talking about one thing. One thing is not just one thing. Often linked to seven or eight things, turning around. How many people are there in one person? I can't explain it clearly. I don't want to say it.

Many times, people have become alienated and have done nothing right for convenience; Doing the same thing was originally for the consideration of the other party, and the other party also thought that you had other ideas.

Moreover, "talking" is also a dynamic relationship.

You can talk when you are young, but you may not talk when you are old. You can say it when you are alone, but you may not be able to say it when you are married. I can talk at ordinary times, but I don't necessarily talk when I meet something. And the distance has become farther, and I may not be able to speak. After a few years apart, I can't speak again.

Some people can't say it now, but they may be able to say it later; Some people can speak now, but they may not be able to speak later; Some people will never talk about it.

For example, in the book, Cao and her foster mother were at odds all their lives, but in the end they talked day and night. When I was dying, I still wanted to call my mother. Say one more word. However, Cao has never met anyone to speak here again. Tell your son Niu Aiguo what you said 60 years ago, tell your granddaughter Baihui what you said 20 years ago, and don't say anything in front of you. Just didn't say what she wanted to say before she died, but no one could understand what she wanted to say but didn't say. The cow thought she finally understood, but Cao died and his words were wrong.

As a result, everyone in the book has struggled to "talk" with others all his life.

Without Cao Chune, Yang Baishun can only embark on the journey of finding. Cow patriotism is also miserable, his wife ran away with others, and his old friend was speechless. Lao Wang, who teaches, is also miserable. He had nowhere to miss his youngest daughter Deng Zhan, so he had to run around. Cao Chue is also miserable. She can finally talk to her foster mother. Unfortunately, she is a dying person.

Many characters who don't play much are also suffering. For example, Hu, the first county magistrate, is preoccupied with carpentry and can't talk to people. The second county magistrate, Han provided, is a chatterbox. He talks too much and no one can understand him.

03

In order to find the person who can talk for a lifetime, they have been walking on this lonely road.

Mr. Wang, a private school teacher, has a hobby after teaching, twice a month, on the fifteenth and thirtieth day of the lunar calendar, and likes to hang out alone at noon. Take a big step and walk all the way without saying hello to anyone. Ask him why, he is thinking of someone, but he can't find it. He is looking for his old Kaifeng photo frame. Later, Lao Wang's daughter accidentally drowned in a water tank while playing with lights. So Lao Wang quit his job and went to Baoji, Shaanxi. This time she left "looking for" someone she couldn't find, just looking for relief.

Yang Baishun's younger brother, Yang Baili, can "blow the air", that is, on the basis of a little reality, he makes his own imagination and "blows the air". He will realize himself and vent his anger by imagining things. Yang Baishun's greatest dream is "mourning" like Luo Changli, and the essence of "mourning" is "emptiness", which is to get rid of or surpass "immediate life".

Lao Jia, a blind man, plays Sanxian and Khufu is a carpenter. Going to the opera, the old historian talking about "hand-to-hand combat" and Lao Feng starting to "engage in social fire" all mean this.

Everyone wants to get rid of the "immediate life" and let their hearts have sustenance.

04

How can I find someone to talk to?

When talking about the origin of Buendia's loneliness in One Hundred Years of Solitude, Marquez said, "I personally think it's because they don't understand love. Buendia's whole family doesn't understand love and humanity. This is the secret of their loneliness and depression. "

The antidote to loneliness may be love and faith.

Finally, this book also sent us some golden sentences:

"Life is over, not over."

"A person's loneliness is not loneliness. A person looking for another person, finding another sentence in one sentence, is the real loneliness. "

"Don't love to talk, the in the mind have words. If you say nothing, you have nothing. "

"People who follow you are guilty in their hearts."

"The world is full of people, and people who can talk are hard to find."

May we all have someone who can talk.