The first time I went to my mother-in-law's house, I helped in the kitchen until one o'clock in the afternoon and came out to see a table of leftovers. what do you think?

Sometimes, your position in the eyes of others is actually determined by your own attitude.

If you don't realize your own value and put your position at a lower level from the beginning, then the value orientation given to you by others will only decrease.

Even if two people are in love, they can't escape this rule.

Lin Chuan said that after she got married, she often missed her former single time, and felt carefree at that time, and her life was relatively carefree.

Lin Chuan seldom confides her grievances, but this time it's really unbearable, because two days ago, she and her husband had another conflict because of some trivial things in life.

She takes care of the children at home alone. The child is less than one year old. She suddenly fell ill and had a fever two days ago. She hurried to the hospital and asked her husband to pick her up when she was ready to go back.

Who knows that her husband just got off work and was very dissatisfied with the news that he was asked to pick someone up, saying that she made a fuss. As for the sick child, should she be sent to the hospital? There is a clinic in front of our house, so we have to run so far.

Finally, her husband really didn't go. She took a taxi back with her child in her arms, and she didn't hold back her tears when she remembered it in the car.

She doesn't want to argue with her husband about these things anymore, because he always has his reasons. Anyway, she usually turns a deaf ear to what she says and doesn't listen at all.

Every time she begged, all she got was his words: "Are you finished?" She stopped talking, so he went on doing his own thing.

After a long time, she was too lazy to say more.

Because when she first got married, she often made herself so angry that she couldn't eat anything because of these trivial things, and he slept, ate and played games as usual, which was not affected at all.

After these hours, she also learned to make her life not so bad, that is, to take care of some things as little as possible and not expect him to do according to her own requirements, so that she can live more easily.

And their marriage, one selfless and the other too natural, actually began to take shape when they were in love.

02

She met her husband on a blind date. It's not easy to be in love for two years.

Lin Chuan is a kind and quiet girl. She was a good girl when she was studying. She attaches great importance to her studies and has never been in love. After graduating from college, she embarked on the road of blind date. The second object of blind date is her husband.

In fact, to be honest, their families are similar, which can be said to be suitable, and they are all ordinary families.

However, her husband's family bought a house in the city two years ago, and she still lives in the town, so this makes her husband's family feel a little superior. She thinks that she is from the countryside and is not as good as herself.

In fact, this sense of superiority is really puzzling to outsiders.

Because this house was not bought for her son alone, but in the name of the adult in the family, and her husband has a younger brother who is about to graduate from college, but this house is the only one in the city.

After marriage, they must live with their in-laws.

Even to put it bluntly, whose house is it in the future?

Besides, her husband doesn't have a car. So to tell the truth, when they got married, her husband could be said to have no house or car, so what qualifications does her mother-in-law have?

But in fact, it is this house in the city that gives her mother-in-law confidence.

Of course, the mother-in-law's family is not too much, but when two adults sit together, she can clearly feel that her mother-in-law is a little arrogant towards her parents.

But at the same time, the most basic etiquette is still there, so she didn't pick out the big problem.

When she fell in love with her husband, she was also seduced by her mother-in-law. Naturally, because of her rural status, her mother-in-law had two more inspections.

03

Mother-in-law mainly examines whether she is a virtuous and sensible person and whether she can take good care of her son after marriage.

So, when she first went to her mother-in-law's house, she met an incredible thing. When cooking, she offered to help, which was originally a polite remark, but her mother-in-law actually took it.

There were many guests at home that day, all brothers and sisters of her mother-in-law. At dinner, they sat on a big table. She and her mother-in-law have been busy in the kitchen and have already eaten there.

When she came out, she was shocked: "I helped in the kitchen until one o'clock in the afternoon, and when I came out, I only saw a table of leftovers." She is a little dissatisfied, but she doesn't lose her temper easily.

Because all the guests praised her for her ability and understanding, she was very filial before she got married. As soon as she put on this tall hat, her face became thin, so she had to answer with a smile, not daring to take the fire out of her heart.

And her mother-in-law has been praising her, saying that she is still very good. She has been cooking at home since she was a child and is a good cook. Because of her mother-in-law's praise, she didn't care too much.

She told her boyfriend about it later, but her husband didn't think it was wrong. He said, "Then you can't cook and eat out at the same time?" You can't eat out until you finish it. So many people may be waiting for you all to eat together. "

Since then, the relationship between the two has developed as usual, because she didn't live with her mother-in-law before marriage, and even occasionally went there. After she went, her mother-in-law was still good to her.

Although there were some differences between the two families at that time, her mother-in-law thought that her bride price was a little too much, 88 thousand, but considering that she had a dowry of 100 thousand, she didn't say anything later.

Mother-in-law's sense of superiority is still there, but she is also quite satisfied with her daughter-in-law, because she is really smart, well-educated and three years younger than her husband, so they finally got married.

After getting married, she went to another city with her husband who worked in other places without complaint. Later, she got pregnant and gave birth to a child, so she had no job.

04

She used to have a good job here at home, because her husband insisted on going to another city, and she quit her job in order not to let them stay away from each other.

The present situation is that Lin Chuan works hard and cooks for him at home while taking care of the children, and he has nothing to complain about.

Because whenever she complains, her husband says, "Then you come to work and I'll take care of the children at home. Can you support our family? "

At this time, she remembered all kinds of things before marriage, and her mother-in-law didn't help with the children. She just felt stupid and married the wrong person.

Because my family has suffered a lot, I am more tolerant. Before marriage, she always thought that her mother-in-law's picky and her husband's indifference were no big deal, and she was easily moved by small details in love.

She said that her husband is sometimes very kind to her, so these kindness became her motivation to persist. It was not until after marriage that she felt full of grievances and didn't know where to tell.

If possible, she would never put her position lower at first, and it doesn't matter what, just feel that it is necessary to fulfill the feelings of two people.

Because once this compromise is started, it will be endless.

I hope you don't be a silly girl like her, don't be too wronged to fulfill the so-called love, be much more arrogant, think for yourself, the more you think for yourself, the less you will suffer after marriage.