How to deal with interpersonal relationships?

Many times, people are often good at forgetting the benefits of others to themselves, but once there is an unintentional offense, they always hold it in their hearts, turning into lovers' words, or even dying of old age. Think about whether there is such an example around us, and when people are alive, it is inevitable to associate with others. If you want to be happy, you must handle your relationship with people around you. To handle interpersonal relationships well, we should remember three sentences, "Look at people's strengths, help others' difficulties, and remember people's benefits".

Look at others' strengths

No one is perfect, and everyone has shortcomings. If you always stare at others' shortcomings, your relationship will definitely not be good. On the contrary, learn to put yourself in other people's shoes and look at others' strengths, and you will find that the more you look at others, the more pleasing you will be, the better you will get along with others and know how to use your strengths. It is not spring that outshines others, but a hundred flowers blossom in spring. Only those who know how to get along well with others can succeed. Know how to use your talents, and you will have the qualities of a leader.

the difficulty of helping others

is to lend your helping hand when others are in trouble, which may be a little effort or a certain amount of effort. As long as you can, it is better to give a helping hand.

if you help a person when he is in the spring breeze, he may not remember you. You helped others when they were in trouble, and they will remember you for a lifetime. When you are in trouble, others will also help you, and your road will get wider and wider. For example, some things that are often encountered in life, such as illness and hospitalization, weddings, funerals, natural disasters and man-made disasters, etc., your help, your greetings and even a short message will be like spring breeze, which will completely narrow the psychological distance between them.

the advantage of remembering people

is to always be grateful. You know, everyone, from birth to death, every progress and every harvest can't be separated from the help of parents, family and friends. Always remember the goodness of others, so that you can have sunshine every day, friends every day, and happiness all your life; On the contrary, always remembering others' mistakes will only make you suffer.

When I was studying, I followed the program "Career Coming and Career Going". At that time, I was studying in college, and I really learned a lot about the workplace and being a man from this program. Nowadays, variety shows feel like entertainment and cater to the public. Now, I have graduated and worked for more than three years, and I have a deeper understanding of some sentiments!

how to deal with interpersonal relationships?

be yourself first, and others will make friends with you!

I've learned that people will be more willing to make friends with you if you make yourself beautiful first. If you are a liar, sloppy, or full of negative energy all day, don't say that friends will get farther and farther away from you, and you may even fail to make any friends!

I especially agree with one sentence: what you need in life is to fight for yourself.

Make yourself better, everyone wants to be your friend, and then you will know how to make friends and establish your own interpersonal relationship.

How to learn to be a better self:

First, image is an internal commitment

In the process of building image, what you say should be consistent with what you do. If your words and deeds don't match, others won't believe you. For example, if a luxury bag is sold in a cottage market, you won't believe that the bag on the shelf is genuine. So personal image is very important in the circle.

Second, keep your word and build your personality credit card

Sometimes we make promises to others inadvertently. A casual sentence may not be noticed at the moment, and then you forget it, but you may be greatly discounted in the impression of others. And when you pay attention to what you say in a very small matter, others will be deeply moved and think that you can associate. Of course, keeping promises is sometimes not to get something, but the most basic criterion for us to be human.

3. Say goodbye to negative energy

Keep smiling. Smiling is contagious. It is said that people who love to laugh are not too unlucky. Everyone likes to make friends with people who love to laugh, but they don't like people who always keep a straight face and are bitter all day long, so as not to be infected by bad emotions. How to solve your own negative energy? Raise flowers, pets, do sports and so on!

We * * * live on the same earth, and people, things and things inevitably have intersections and frictions. How to deal with the relationship between them and how to solve the contradictions between things, mentality and methods have become the key.

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Everyone wants to live happily when he is alive. Happiness comes from relaxation, and mentality comes from being open-minded. Only by correcting himself can he live without being tired.

most of the time, we are always good at discovering other people's mistakes and ignoring others' kindness to ourselves. No one is a saint. Within a certain range, it is true to accept what is acceptable and reject what is intolerable, and to look at people with your heart.

at the same time, learn to be indifferent. There is a saying, "hatred can only make you black and blue, but the other person is unscathed." Don't let a certain emotion control you. Look to the future. There are too many beautiful things worth pursuing. Let it go once in a while.

Dealing with interpersonal relationships will make your pursuit more smooth. This also includes dealing with the relationship with things and people.

when dealing with the relationship with things, we should pay attention to it, and it is the normal state of life not to pursue some material comforts excessively, and to be content with things. If you get a little, you need to exchange your personality. Even if you get it, you won't be happy.

to handle the relationship with people, we should remember three sentences: "Look at people's strengths, help people's difficulties, and remember people's benefits."

judging from people's strengths, as the saying goes, "no one is perfect without money." Everyone has his own advantages and disadvantages. When interacting with others, we should learn to put ourselves in the other's shoes and look at the problem from the perspective of others, so that we can better understand why the advantages and disadvantages of others exist.

at the same time, we should understand that only people can use it, and people should be good at it. Flowers can decorate spring, and any kind of brightness can't represent the whole.

only when you know how to get along with others can you be harmonious. Only when you know how to use your talents can you accomplish something.

Everyone has difficulties in helping others. Giving charcoal in the snow makes people feel warmer than icing on the cake. Maybe it's just a greeting and an encouragement, but it's better than a thousand words when it's needed.

remember the benefits of others, as we often say, a little kindness is rewarded with a spring. When we live in the world, we should always have a grateful heart. Remember to repay those who have helped you and been kind to you. Remember the good of others, and life will be free of troubles.

Of course, there is no fixed provision for the perfection of personality. All the groping is based on one heart. It's enough to do something worthy of others and be worthy of your heart.

We don't need to be great, but please don't be a nuisance.

if you look at people, you will be mistaken. It is true to be a man with heart.

with the progress of society, talents from various industries are constantly emerging, and the competition people have to face is becoming increasingly fierce. How to deal with interpersonal relationships has become a sensitive topic.

First, we should know that what society needs first is people with real talents and practical learning. In other words, we must first have a high level of business and be able to create wealth for enterprises and society. If you just complain that you are lazy when you meet people, you can't even get along with others on an equal footing, let alone expect to establish a good relationship with others.

second, getting along with people is three points. What three points? Is to do things with seven components, leaving three points for introspection. The key to evaluating whether a person can handle interpersonal relationships well depends on how this person handles anger. Three-point introspection is used when you are angry. What should you reflect on? Just look at the benefits and strengths of others! Anger is naturally resolved by inner strength.

don't criticize, complain, show off, and be normal.

With the rapid development of society, interpersonal relationships are becoming more and more important. No one can exist alone, ranging from international relations and national positions to business behaviors and personal trivial matters. In the final analysis, it is interpersonal behavior. In order to understand and master interpersonal relationships skillfully, the author lists the following key words to encourage everyone.

empathy. Psychology refers to the process and result of combing people's internal symbolic activities. Psychology is a subjective reflection of a person's treatment of things. Dealing with interpersonal relationships is to let the other person accept you psychologically. Empathy is the transformation of roles and perspectives. We can think about our words and deeds from the perspective of the other party or the third person, and explore the real psychological thoughts and needs of others, so as to adjust our words and deeds and get the recognition and acceptance of the other party, and the interpersonal relationship can develop well. For example, if you have a daughter, you want her in-laws to give more bride price. If you have a son, you don't think her in-laws want too much bride price. You have a daughter-in-law. You think her daughter-in-law is too busy and ignorant. You have a daughter, and you want her to be in charge of her husband's family. You hate pedestrians when driving, and you hate cars when walking; When you work, you think the boss is too strong and stingy. When you become the boss, you think the employees are too irresponsible and unenforceable. You are the customer who thinks the merchants are too profiteering, and you are the businessman who thinks the customers are too picky. Think about it, not different views, but different positions. Empathy is to change your position and improve interpersonal relationships.

birds of a feather flock together. To do a good job in interpersonal relationships, we must figure out what kind of people to make friends with and what kind of people we want to be. People who live near Zhu Zhechi are black. People are the most advanced social animals in nature. No matter the big environment or the small circle, it is because some * * * knowledge is linked together, and its * * * knowledge atmosphere will inevitably affect people in the atmosphere. When you are with honest people, you will gain trust. When you are with selfish people, what you get is betrayal; If you want to be what kind of person, you should deal with what kind of people and integrate into this group to produce interpersonal relationships.

communication frequency. Distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors because there is a gap in the frequency of interpersonal communication. The effective way to improve interpersonal relationship is to increase the appearance rate, and it would be better if you can be remembered deeply. For example, on holidays, anniversaries, birthdays and other time nodes, we can make a phone call and send a message (as far as possible). If conditions permit, we can have dinner and chat, which will inevitably increase our feelings and narrow the interpersonal distance. For distant friends, for friends who can't meet for several years or more, we should also realize information exchange and express our concern for each other through various channels. This is a long-term investment in interpersonal communication, and there may be unexpected interpersonal gains. As the saying goes, it's not strange to be polite to many people. A trick to increase the frequency of communication is to give gifts. Gifts are not expensive, but right. Don't be rude to give gifts. For rural villagers, if you give them antique calligraphy and painting, they may feel ridiculed and sarcastic. Sending Taobao A goods to people with status and status will certainly hurt their self-esteem and be tantamount to digging their own graves. Generally speaking, gifts should be clear, no inexplicable gifts, no confused gifts; The attitude of giving gifts should be sincere, not hypocritical or arrogant; Gift-giving places should be appropriate, no embarrassing gifts, no abrupt gifts. Convenient to people. Everyone will encounter setbacks and difficulties, icing on the cake to do, but also to do something timely. When others are in trouble, people will feel a hundred times better if you lend a helping hand to friends you think are worth making friends with. If you are the host, we can do whatever we like, try our best to meet the needs of the guests, ask their dining preferences, and take them to the airport in our own car. If you are a guest, we will follow the principle of taking care of the guests, although we don't ask too much. After the work is done, the guests will be safe, and the problems they can solve will not cause too much trouble to others. These are small things, and small things can improve and destroy interpersonal relationships. Be cautious.

work is important to people. When you do things, you must first remember others. In the process of interacting with strangers, you must first remember others' names, positions, appearance characteristics, etc. Zhang Guan Li Dai shows that you don't pay enough attention to others, and it is difficult to get their respect. The important task of doing things is to know people and make good use of them. The carrier of interpersonal communication is a concrete event. In our work and life, task execution, scheme formulation and other events, the event itself is ultimately to meet people's needs. Therefore, in the process of considering events, we should first think about the problem from the perspective of participants and beneficiaries. For example, in the tactical formulation of a football match, not every position on the court uses the person with the strongest ability. If a midfielder is outstanding in personal ability, he can't connect well with defenders, strikers and other participants, and he can't form an overall resultant force. Also, the purpose of the game is to meet the victory expectations of the country, the club and the fans, and it is not wise to perform luxuriously.

when people get along with each other, it is best that both sides are comfortable. How can we make each other and ourselves very comfortable?

First of all, it is necessary to understand each other's thoughts and purposes of interacting with themselves. This is crucial. If you can't do it, talk less and act less. Otherwise, it will lead to misunderstanding. There is also mutual respect, which is the premise. Everyone has a psychological need to be respected. If this need is not met, it will lead to psychological defense and will not open up. Here we need to grasp a basic etiquette problem. Besides, third, we should make things as simple as possible. Everyone likes to be frank and efficient, and less beat around the bush when we know it. Fourth, focus on connecting feelings, rather than rushing to achieve immediate goals, which will follow naturally. Fifth, don't make communication vulgar. You don't have to drink when you eat, you don't have to sing when you drink, and you can't arrange one program after another after singing. If it is really necessary, arrange something that is beneficial to health or edifies the body and mind. In short, the simpler and simpler it is, the more acceptable it is.

this is obviously your fault, so how can you blame me? ! ""joke, this is your mistake, and everyone knows it. If you don't believe me, we'll find someone to judge it. "

two colleagues had an argument about a work matter and went to a third party to judge.

They found Xiao Fang to be the referee, and Xiao Fang pushed his eyes on the bridge of his nose and began to exercise the referee's duties.

"I think both of you are responsible for this matter, but then again, nobody did it on purpose, so ..."

Before Xiao Fang finished, both of them left a sentence at the same time: "What's wrong with learning? Learn from others and be muddy. Who do you think you are? Let's find someone else to judge."

leaving Xiao Fang with a blindfold: Did I say something wrong?

This kind of thing often happens in the workplace. Two colleagues have an argument. It's okay if you fight back. When you fight back, both sides point the finger at you, which makes you very wronged.

If you don't know how to adjust contradictions, even if someone asks you to be a referee, you'd better say "I really don't know about this". Lest both sides who are angry take it out on you.

Never learn from the aunt of the neighborhood committee.

Some people, like the aunt of the neighborhood committee, think that there are three ways to adjust contradictions:

First, we uphold a fair and just attitude, and neither side is partial or partial.

second: it takes two to clap hands, and both of you are at fault. Even if you are not at all wrong, it is wrong to argue with others.

third: since everyone is at fault, let's step back and reflect on ourselves.

Many people see that this routine is good and easy to learn, so they learn now and buy now.

But both sides of the argument often quit. "Who are you? What makes you say that about us!" Kindness is regarded as a donkey's liver and lung.

what should you do if you really want to mediate the contradiction between the two sides?