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There is an old saying in China: "A good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts June." Speech can be a medicine to soothe people's hearts, or it can be a sharp knife that hurts people invisibly. People who can't "talk well" will have a hard time.

What is a "good word"? Prose writer Zhu Ziqing said in Silence: Your words should be like stars in the dark, not like firecrackers on New Year's Eve-who wants firecrackers all night? Words are few, but words of hope are expensive. A good word is something that makes people feel comfortable and used by others. Even if you are really criticizing others and saying bad things about others, people should be happy to accept it and feel "Oh, that's it, you're right" instead of embarrassed.

Heart-to-heart talk is a kind of education and goodwill. People who can talk will never put others in an awkward position. People who can talk know how to keep their mouths shut and when to speak appropriately. People who can talk don't interrupt others and don't talk nonsense about things they don't know.

People who can't speak don't know when to say what. Here is a story to illustrate how important "speaking" is. Talking may be an official promotion, but not talking will lead to death. According to legend, after Zhu Yuanzhang proclaimed himself emperor, a young man came to see him, hoping to get an official position. But after seeing Zhu Yuanzhang, this boy shouted "myna" and wanted to rush up and give Zhu Yuanzhang a bear hug, but he was stopped by the guards. Although Zhu Yuanzhang was unhappy, he remembered his old feelings, held back his anger and asked his old friend, "How are you?"

I don't know this question, but the boy began to speak: "starling, now that you are the emperor, you can't forget Ben." Do you remember when we herded cattle together? " That time, the landlord whipped you, and I stopped you. Also, do you remember the day when we were going to eat together? Do you remember that time when we stole edamame and cooked it in the earthen pot at home? We ate the edamame before it was ripe, and the earthen pot was smashed ... "

Before he could speak, Zhu Yuanzhang couldn't help it. He shouted and ordered the guards to pull the man out and behead him. You can say that Zhu Yuanzhang is unreasonable, and the six relatives deny it. But you have to consider his little problem. Zhu Yuanzhang became the son of heaven today and the ninth five-year plan supreme. How can he bear to expose his background in front of officials? At this time, if two people talk together, they can talk, but what is the occasion? Saying that is undoubtedly exposing Zhu Yuanzhang's scar, and it is no wonder that he will get into trouble.

"A good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts the cold in June." People who can't "speak well" will have a hard time. Because people are emotional animals, people who can't "talk well" will certainly not have good popularity and interpersonal relationships, so it is difficult to move in society. Of course, it should be noted that "speaking well" here is not to flatter you, but to make you speak kindly, have good ideas, and take care of others' feelings when you speak, not just to "get it off your chest for yourself".

People who can speak well have a little quality, that is, "kindness." A kind-hearted person will never hurt anyone or call names. A kind-hearted person will always talk about honesty and make people feel like spring breeze.

Be a man, you must control your mouth. The more you talk, the worse your life will be.

The news got out and the water was spilled. Misfortune comes from the mouth. If you can't control your mouth, even if you have the ability, it's hard to achieve much.

A good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts June. Don't be sarcastic, don't talk behind people's backs, and don't say hurtful things. Don't judge other people's virtue, because you are not necessarily nobler than him.

Don't expose people's shortcomings, remember your own shortcomings when you get along with others. If you don't keep your mouth shut and always speak ill of others behind their backs, it's really easy to make your way harder and harder.

In this world, only by cultivating your own oral virtue can you have luck. Your life is bad, mostly because of your bad mouth. Don't take it seriously Remember: being talkative is a person's best virtue.

Mind your own mouth, this is a lifelong practice.

"Those who say that people are right and wrong must have right and wrong". If you want to get along well with others, you must not be such a person and stay away from people who like to tell lies. Rumors stop with wise men.

Verbal violence is no less lethal than physical violence, or even worse. Being unable to speak is the bane of interpersonal relationship. Always offending people and not knowing it, they can't get along in society.

You have to know who is suitable for joking, who is not suitable for joking, what to say and what not to say. You know, the alienation of many relationships begins with these bitter words.

Don't talk about people's difficulties, don't poke people's pain points, and don't ask people's private affairs. This is a lifelong accomplishment. Don't hurt others just because you are happy for a while.

Many people just don't pay attention to the discretion of speaking, say whatever they want, and then the blessing slips out of their mouths, so really keep your mouth shut.

Don't talk too much, know how to shut up and be silent, and learn to be cautious. Be a man, please watch your mouth. Knowing people without judging them is a kind of accomplishment and a realm of being a man.

If you want to live a good life, you must accumulate virtue in your mouth.

Being a man, true kindness requires not only kindness, but also a good mouth. Know how to accumulate virtue and talk less.

Be a man, leave some virtue in your mouth, because bad words poke people's hearts and good words warm them. Don't talk crazy, don't criticize others, and don't embarrass others.

Good writing is persuasive, but the writing should leave people a close space. It is magnanimous to know people's faces but not their hearts, and it is quality to accuse people of not swearing.

Be a man of few words, mind your mouth, and don't be rude, outspoken and annoying. The real wise man is silent. They can't see through it, but they don't break it.

No matter who is right or wrong, there will be no right or wrong coming to you, so keeping your mouth shut is to accumulate virtue for yourself. If you talk nonsense, you will offend many people, and your path will get crooked.

Message from Ru Yan: To control your mouth is to give yourself a blessing.

Laozi's Tao Te Ching says: It's better to keep the center than to talk too much and count too few.

Don't be greedy, your luck will run away. A person's life depends on his mouth. If you have a bad life, the most important thing to reflect on is your mouth.

The most important thing in life is kindness. You know that saying that will hurt others, so really don't say it again. Otherwise, it is really immoral.

Speaking is an art, smart people can speak, and their lives are smooth, but some people suffer a lot because of their outspoken.

Don't be rude, don't abuse, say something well, and don't say anything if it's okay. A man with a good mouth wins when he opens his mouth, and life naturally goes smoothly. A vicious person, no matter how lucky, will run away.

Talk less and do more, just say warm words, and you will gain a different self, and your popularity will be particularly good. Being kind, talking less, saying good things and keeping your mouth shut are equivalent to keeping your own happiness.