You don’t want to work anymore, but should you really quit?

Let me tell you the conclusion first:

As someone who never resigns naked, it is certain that I have fallen into some pitfalls. However, at the end of every resignation, I successfully found a position that I liked more or that paid more. Of course, when I look back, I will feel that next time I resign naked, oh no, it is better to think about some key points clearly when resigning, so I wrote this article and I can say every word from the bottom of my heart.

Naked speech has always been a confusing thing.

- Forget it, I don’t like what I am doing at all; but I have just joined the industry not long ago. Wouldn’t it seem too uncertain to resign in such a hurry? Hey, let’s keep doing it.

- Forget it, quit, the job positioning is so unclear, and the gap between what was agreed before is too big; but every company undergoes transformation, and some changes in responsibilities are not a bad thing, hey Just keep doing it.

- Forget it, my boss doesn’t pay attention to me at all, and I feel wronged every day; but have I really done something worthy of respect and attention? Hey, let’s keep doing it.

In fact, everyone who has resigned has experienced this kind of tug-of-war. It seems that there is no complete reason for you to make up your mind, which can make people stop looking forward and backward.

Even if you resign now, you may have some regrets when you look back, because you find that those things that once seemed unbearable at work can actually be found ways to slowly overcome; As a new company, some things don't automatically change.

So, how to determine whether the reasons you listed for resignation are absolute and decisive enough?

"Looking back on today in a few years, if I had not spoken nakedly at this time, would I have looked down on myself because of it?"

This is the real touchstone question of naked rhetoric.

Put aside the angry "This company is so fucking bullying. If I don't leave today, my last name will not be X!", if your answer is a calm but decisive "yes", Then you will definitely not regret quitting your job.

Using this issue to review my first two naked remarks, you will find that the first decision was still a bit rash.

It was my first job at the time. The reason for quitting was that I felt that what I was doing had no real value and there was a lot of repetitive work; and I didn’t agree with the boss’s way of doing things. But if you really persist for a period of time and find a suitable next home while enduring it, such a transition period is not completely unacceptable.

As for the second job, I actually like it very much, and the company’s cultural atmosphere is also suitable. Originally, I had no intention of resigning, but because I had a media dream, I insisted on changing careers, so I gave up the company at that time. After 6 months of searching, I finally started working in new media (later, due to various reasons, I did not work in the new media industry). The new owner will stay, this is a story for later). In this naked speech, my answer to the above touchstone question is a very clear "yes".

For me, my answer was so positive only when I spoke naked for the second time. So, I knew this resignation was inevitable.

Think about your answer to this question: Did you have any hesitations?

Repeat this sentence after me: When you quit your job, it will always take longer than you think to find the next job, and your lowest emotional point will be darker than you imagined. .

Haha, that sounds very negative. But believe me, most people who recite naked words are overly optimistic about the world and blindly confident in themselves. When I resigned for the first time, I thought it would take three months to find a new job. However, half a year passed before I started working again. But this is nothing. My Ah Q spirit jumped out and looked through my notes and said that Sheryl Sandberg, the COO of Facebook, quit her job and spent almost a year looking for a job in Silicon Valley (her plan was 4 months). .

Maybe it’s just the way this world works. Reality often doesn’t give us what we want directly (except for those very few lucky people).

So you have to be prepared in at least the following two aspects:

- Economically

- Psychologically

Economically, I think the safer way is to Once you know your monthly expenses, estimate how many months it will take to find a job, and figure out how much reserve money you need. -- then multiply it by two. It's always good to leave yourself some buffer, and it will also remind you of the need to work hard and save a lot of money. If you don't say anything naked, if you don't absolutely decide, it's better to let it go.

Having the support of family and friends is another piece of the safety rope. When I quit my job for the first time and had no job placement for six months, I felt that my inner self-confidence was bit by bit wiped away, and fear spread over my feet like standing on the seaside at high tide in the dark night, rising up bit by bit with dampness. This kind of fear mainly comes from the uncontrollability of the event - you have no way of knowing how long this gloom will last. It takes a bit of determination to keep yourself from being overwhelmed. At this time, having good friends who are willing to listen to you is an extremely important foreign aid. (I’m grateful that I had friends around me who were also willing to lend me money! I felt so healed)

So give yourself a vaccination. Of course, after getting through it, your mental endurance will also grow a lot.

Now that we have finished recalling our sufferings, let’s talk about the most interesting part of Naked Ci: What do we plan to do in the future?

After my first resignation, I took the GRE, volunteered for TEDx events, worked hard to transform into a Business Consultant (although my resume was still unsuccessful), and even tried to start a business...

In fact, every little angel who quits his job must have made a plan in his mind early on: submit a resume, have another interview, want to learn yoga, want to travel, and want to get a top management consulting job within three months. Offer...

I always feel that there is one biggest problem between our human nature and these goals: go to bed early and get up early.

At least 80% of people have a disease called "morning paralysis", which is mainly characterized by reflexive twitching after hearing the alarm, and lying in bed for more than 5 minutes to several hours. Waiting period of paralysis.

I was hit hard in this regard: the first time I spoke naked, my biological clock was quickly disrupted by myself. I can't get out of bed in the morning, and I don't want to go to bed early at night - because I feel that I owe too many things. As you can imagine, the result is that you are even more unable to get up the next day. Not only is it ineffective, but you also feel guilty. The whole person is a vicious cycle. When I quit my job for the second time, my work and rest habits were much better than before, but I still felt that my efficiency was not as good as when I had a full-time job. Some of my friends who have quit their jobs feel the same way.

Speaking of which, I have to mention another common symptom, procrastination. Although the symptoms range from mild to severe, the incidence rate may be higher, so being free at home can easily lead to a "free and undisciplined" combination. In order to prevent myself from being unkempt and mentally exhausted after three months, I'd better take it easy on resigning naked.

There is a saying that "the more self-discipline you have, the more freedom you have." I deeply believe it. Only when naked words are based on self-discipline can you truly achieve what you want.

Because I haven’t cultivated to such a state yet, if I still have the idea of ??naked resignation next time, I might try another method: take a one-year anniversary leave and don’t use it for traveling. Let yourself focus on submitting your resume and looking for opportunities. Although some annual leave will be used up, the cost is still much lower than leaving a naked resignation.

When you have used the touchstone question of naked speech to identify the reasons for your naked speech, have made preparations in all aspects, and have strict self-discipline as a foundation - then go ahead and have fun~~

Let me share with you the words of several friends who have also resigned:

"I was suppressed and threatened by my perverted boss. I had to either continue working or leave today. I chose the latter."

“In a word, naked words are about making a decision that you thought would be earth-shattering and ushering in the next fresh ordinary.

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“If you are tired, stop and start again, you will encounter different scenery! ”

PS: Tips, there is another thing that can be used to measure the effect of your resignation - clearly record the reasons for your resignation and your expectations for the next job when you resigned and the time of implementation.

This record will give you a lot of inspiration when you start working again.