To deal with the inconsistent mother-in-law’s circle of friends, the inconsistent mother-in-law stayed at home for ten days.

Everyone says that marriage is not a matter of two people, but a matter of two families. When young men and women fall in love, who cares about each other's family status. Every girl has a good heart and believes that she can take good care of her husband and serve her parents-in-law. I also believe in the other half's promise: "Don't worry, I won't let you be wronged. My mother is very nice and doesn't have much to do. Just marry me and enjoy the happiness." However, the three surnames live together. , many things are counterproductive. How many couples, because the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not handled well, either they and their mother-in-law never get along with each other, or they divorce out of resentment.

01-Getting married is easy to say.

Lily is 28 years old. She was born in a second-tier city. Her parents are intellectuals. As a daughter like Lily, Lily has grown up She has never been wronged, but Lily is a well-behaved, considerate, and carefree person. She is very career-minded and has no time to think about love at a marriageable age, so she is about to become a leftover girl without realizing it. Lily's parents were worried, so they gathered colleagues and friends to find a partner for Lily. I have met several Ling Ling Zongzong, but Lily has not taken a liking to them.

Daqiang is 35 years old and was born in a rural area. He is the eldest in his family and has two younger sisters. Daqiang's father died early, and his mother worked hard to raise the three brothers and sisters. Fortunately, the three brothers and sisters were able to find decent jobs after graduating from college, so their mother did not have to worry. Daqiang is a simple and honest person, but he has lived in a rural area since he was a child and has somewhat low self-esteem. He feels that girls in the city have high standards and look down on him, so he has been single.

Coincidentally, through various relationships, Lily and Daqiang met.

I am not young anymore, and everyone I have is rushing to get married. Lily feels that Daqiang is a real person, and Daqiang feels that he is lucky to have found a good partner.

"My mother doesn't have much education, but she is a simple person and doesn't have so many crooked ideas. You can rest assured to get along with her." Daqiang patted his chest to guarantee his vote. Lily also feels that her life is simple, she just says what she wants when something happens, she is usually carefree, she just needs to communicate more and be more humble. Those who have a bad relationship with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law must be caused by the daughter-in-law's ignorance.

Lily and Daqiang got married smoothly. They bought a small two-bedroom house in the city where they worked and lived warmly and happily.

02-The intervention of her mother-in-law subverted Lily's understanding

"Lily, it's our first New Year's Eve, so let's bring our mother over to stay for a few days."

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"Okay, I happen to be at home on vacation, so I can spend time with my mother."

"My wife is the best, and I'm afraid you won't be able to adapt."

"You said that my mother is very easy to get along with. Why should I not adapt to it?"

In this way, my mother-in-law moved into the small home of two people. But Lily never expected that her mother-in-law's intervention would subvert her understanding of marriage.

My mother-in-law never leaves even a grain of rice when she eats. If the rice falls on the table, she will pick it up and eat it. Lily, who has had a good life since she was a child, has a relatively better living standard. The rags and dish towels in the kitchen are all disposable, and the leftovers are thrown away and will not be eaten again. This was hard for her mother-in-law to accept, and she always said that Lily didn't know how to be frugal. .

"Lily, how can you do this? Why are you so bad at living? Just wash it, it's a waste to throw it away."

"This thing is disposable , cannot be used repeatedly, it is easy to breed bacteria. "

"You city people are so picky, how can there be so many bacteria? "

"I am not picky. That's the truth. "

At night, Daqiang went home with a serious look on his face. "Lily, my mother is getting older. It's not easy for her to hold me and my sister alone. Can you let her go?" Daqiang was indiscriminate and only said that Lily was wrong. On the first day her mother-in-law came here, she called Daqiang to complain. Lily felt a little aggrieved, but then she thought about it, maybe they hadn't gotten along with each other before, and it was understandable that there were some communication difficulties, so Lily didn't defend herself anymore.

After a few days, Lily discovered that as long as Daqiang was not at home, her mother-in-law would ignore Lily and look at her coldly. Lily was at home on vacation, so it was normal for her to lie in late in the morning and sleep until she woke up naturally. However, her mother-in-law would always turn the TV up very loud, which would wake Lily up. But as long as Daqiang was at home, her mother-in-law was very kind to Lily, calling her a daughter who is tall and a daughter who is short. But Lily knew in her heart that she was not enthusiastic about her mother-in-law.

"Lily, look how nice my mother is to you. She cuts fruits and washes clothes. Look at your attitude towards her, being indifferent. Do you look down on us in the countryside? "

"But when you were not at home, she gave me a cold look. During the day, she watched TV. When I slept in, she turned up the TV volume and did not do any housework. She just pretends to be nice to me in front of you, you know? "

"Lily, I didn't expect you to be such a person. This kind of person! You just look down on my mother. "

"Daqiang, you and your mother treat me as an outsider. You only believe what your mother says, not me!"

Ever since her mother-in-law moved in, Lily and Daqiang had quarreled several times about her mother-in-law. Every time, Daqiang accused Lily, saying that Lily wouldn't let her mother-in-law go, and that Lily was ignorant. This made Lily feel aggrieved, but she didn't know how to let Da Qiang know that she was the victim.

"Lily, how can you use so many cosmetics? It's such a waste of money. You can't use up so many cosmetics. Please pick some unused ones and give them to me when you come back. I'll give it to your two sisters-in-law. "

"Mom, I have a job, and the things I buy with my salary are not wasted no matter how I use them!"

In the evening, Daqiang went to the room to ask his mother to eat, but her mother wouldn't come out.

"Lily, what did you say to my mother today? Go and apologize to my mother!"

"What did I say?"

"My mother was so angry that she cried. She didn't say why, she just said that she would go back to her hometown tomorrow. How could my mother be sorry for you? You still made her angry! Lily, you are so knowledgeable and reasonable, but so heartless!"

"It's inexplicable. If your mother wants to go back to her hometown, just go back. I can't serve her anymore!" Lily didn't finish her meal and went back to her room to sulk. Lily was waiting for Daqiang to come over and coax her. After waiting all night, Daqiang did not enter the room to sleep. Lily was very disappointed with Daqiang.

03-A circle of friends saved a marriage

Her mother-in-law stayed at home for ten days, which made Lily see clearly what her mother-in-law was like, and she was also full of resentment towards Daqiang. She was thinking, otherwise she would get divorced. She really couldn't serve such a duplicitous mother-in-law. Moreover, Daqiang never asked clearly about the situation and just favored his mother-in-law. If three people with surnames live under the same roof, there will really be too much trouble.

Lily was in a bad mood and asked her best friend out for dinner. A girl who had hardly drank alcohol became very drunk in front of her best friend. She took out her phone and sent a message to Moments. "Husband, she only stayed here for ten days and she made me understand what it means to be submissive. Your original promise was nothing more than words, but I actually took it seriously. I'm really heartbroken. I'd better get divorced!" Daqiang saw his friend. Circle, go find Lily quickly. Drunk Lily was crying.

"Lily, I was wrong. I blame me for not taking good care of your emotions. As a middleman, I should be the link between you two to ease the relationship. You should not only listen to my mother's words. I am your circle of friends I see, let’s not get divorced. This is my first time as someone else’s husband. If you do something wrong, tell me in time, and I will change it.”

In the end, Daqiang sent his mother away. I went back to my hometown and lived my own frugal life. Everyone did not interfere with each other and returned to the peace and happiness of the past.

Marriage is managed by the joint efforts of both husband and wife. If one party is biased towards external forces, it can easily make the balance of the marriage unbalanced.

As a husband, he should act as a mediator to ease the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law when conflicts arise between them, and should not ignore his wife's feelings because of so-called filial piety. As a wife, she should also communicate more with her husband instead of swallowing her anger and muddle along, otherwise the conflicts will become more and more serious and lead to a situation that cannot be ended.

Today’s topic: How do you compete with your mother-in-law? Do you have any unique way of handling conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?