How do in-laws get along?

There was a mother who was very dissatisfied with her in-laws. Pay little when you get married, especially after your daughter gives birth to a baby. Instead of helping, they came to live with their daughter. My daughter's son-in-law is busy at work, and she has to take care of her daughter's baby and mother-in-law. She is very unhappy. She finds it unbearable to stay under the same roof with her mother all day. She doesn't want to fall out with her in-laws and doesn't know what to do. When encountering such problems, we must rely on children to coordinate. Sit down and talk to your daughter about her in-laws, tell her what she thinks, and let her communicate with her son-in-law. Finally, find a solution that is satisfactory to both parties. For example, can grandma and grandma take turns to take care of the children? If grandma can't take this responsibility, can you not live here for a long time? If you can't help, can you pay? What does grandma think? Let her tell her son. The young couple should make full use of this situation and try their best to bring their parents together and build a bridge connecting the two families. When everyone understands each other, a healthy relationship can be gradually established. Most of the contradictions between in-laws are caused by the imbalance between pay and output. People's value is realized through interaction with others, and value can only be reflected if it is useful to others. If anyone can make a contribution and make his family enjoy it, it will enhance the warmth of the family. Family needs are originally based on the basic material conditions for survival. With the warmth of home, people will have a sense of belonging and security to meet the needs of mental health and spiritual culture. Whether it's parents' home or in-laws' home, who can help who, pay more, care less and put themselves in the other's shoes can get family harmony. Complain less, don't compare, and build harmony. Another lady is also complaining about her in-laws. When her son got married, she was busy getting married, and the busier she was, the more blocked she was. The daughter-in-law is from Guizhou. Before getting married, her parents will come to Beijing, and her husband's family will book a hotel for them and arrange everything. After a wedding in Beijing, my in-laws proposed to go to the woman's house again, because they had been there once before, and they discussed with their parents that they didn't want to toss about any more, but they couldn't go on discussing it. Now that my daughter-in-law is pregnant, my in-laws come to take care of her daughter's confinement and complain that the house is small. The two in-laws don't get along. During the festival, the young couple wanted to reunite the two families. But the living habits are completely different, and it is difficult to accept each other. The young couple did not want to leave their parents, so they were caught in the middle. Grandma hates grandma complaining while taking care of the children. Sometimes I can't help but say a few words, and grandma bears a grudge. Grandma is ill and doesn't care. In order to ease the relationship, the daughter-in-law endured the complaints of the two old people. However, my mother is not easy to deal with, and she is full of resentment when she mentions it, and she is a daughter. My mother-in-law thinks that the house and car belong to her husband's family and should do more things with her grandchildren and in-laws. Everyone thinks from different angles, but they all have psychological needs to build a harmonious relationship. If we can be less uncomfortable with each other, it will make every family member feel better. Happiness is a psychological index to measure the quality of life. If a family has a harmonious relationship with their relatives, it will make people feel joy, strength and happiness of achievement, and let people fully experience the beauty of life. A good relationship can make people happy and bring vitality and health. People need a sense of belonging, and home is a place where people can find this feeling, even if it is not perfect. However, the premise of establishing a good relationship is not to compare with others, to cherish what you have and to live a good life. Although both parents always feel that they are good for their children, they should also respect and trust the choices made by the young couple, and their values are unlikely to be consistent with those of their parents. Don't compare the two families with each other, including, of course, don't compare with other families and children. If you want to get along well, the sacrifice and dedication of every family member are indispensable. Only with a tolerant heart can you make yourself comfortable and others comfortable. If you cherish your child's attachment, you must try to get along well with your in-laws. 2 1. Both parents should believe that their children and grandchildren have their own blessings. This mainly means that parents should not get too involved in their children's affairs. They should believe that their children and grandchildren have their own blessings. They have long been married, have a clear understanding of this society, and will have their own way of dealing with people. Therefore, parents need to believe that children can live well even if they are not around. Parents who can generally do this will be more open-minded and believe that they will get along well with their in-laws. 2. It is not unreasonable to say that the door is right, and it has been right since ancient times. In a family where the economic conditions of both families are suitable, the two children will not show a one-sided trend after they get married, and they will get along more equally. Parents will also have topics and have nothing to say, which will make communication very pleasant. It is also reasonable to say that marriage is the grave of love. In marriage, both sides will inevitably encounter many contradictions, and quarrels are also common. Therefore, when children complain about some trivial matters in marriage, our parents should take a neutral attitude, no matter right or wrong, they should not be partial to their children. It is also necessary to tell them that these things encountered in marriage are inevitable and their feelings need to be adjusted. So if they adjust more, life will be good.