My mother came to my house, and I asked my mother-in-law to make ribs. My mother-in-law said I was defeated. what do you think?

People often say that "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have been natural enemies since ancient times." I quite agree with this sentence, but many people ignore the premise because men are "useless" and mother-in-law is a natural enemy. As the saying goes, "every family has its own classics", and one of them is called "mother-in-law's classics". In almost every family, this essence is a headache for many people. There is always friction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which breeds many contradictions. In addition to the different eating habits, it is more because the two generations have different ways of thinking.

Especially at the dinner table, the daughter-in-law can feel her mother-in-law's respect for herself best from the food, because they may have different tastes. A mother-in-law who respects her daughter-in-law will cook another dish suitable for her daughter-in-law's taste, while a mother-in-law who does not respect her daughter-in-law will only cook it according to her own and her son's taste.

At the class reunion, Lei Lei told me that she thought she married a reliable man, but because of her mother-in-law's vitriol, the relationship between husband and wife has been very bad, and even ended in divorce.

Lei Lei is my college roommate. She went abroad voluntarily, so she came to Guangdong. She and I are best friends in college. We reported to the student union together, where we met many people, and also met her future husband Wang Hao in the student union. After they met, they talked about a romantic love, and everyone thought it would eventually work out.

Wang Hao is from Guangzhou, so he hesitated to stay in this city for development when he graduated. Wang Hao was very kind to Lei Lei, which made her realize that it was difficult to meet such a man, so she decided to stay in Guangzhou for development.

When they really reached the age of talking about marriage, she told her family about her love affair and took Wang Hao home. Lei Lei's parents are very satisfied with Wang Hao, but there is one problem that is difficult to choose-marrying far away.

As a matter of fact, parents are very unhappy about Lei Lei's long marriage. Although they are the youngest daughter in the family, they also hope that their daughter can be closer to themselves. Lei Lei is in a dilemma, on the one hand, her parents, on the other hand, her lover. Her parents were embarrassed to meet her and thought that Wang Hao loved her, so they said to Lei Lei, "We agree to this marriage. You can get married. Your brother is still at home. Just take care of yourself. "

When women are young, they don't think too much. They think love is the most important thing at present, but they don't know how worried and reluctant their parents who are far away from home are.

After a long marriage, Wang Hao knew her thoughts and her parents-in-law's worries, so she was very kind to her and everything was accommodating to Lei Lei. They love each other and their marriage is very happy. Everyone thinks that they can grow old together. This kind of campus love towards the wedding hall is really enviable.

But until one day, my father-in-law died of illness and my mother-in-law lived alone. Wang Hao was afraid that her mother-in-law would feel lonely and always felt sad, so she lived with her mother-in-law. It was also at this time that their two-person world was broken and the beautiful marriage began the countdown rhythm.

At first, I thought it was nothing. Wang Hao's filial piety is understandable, and she is also very filial to her mother-in-law. Everything means obeying your mother-in-law. After living for a month, I found myself thinking too simply. After her mother-in-law moved in, she was responsible for three meals a day, because she felt that Lei Lei had failed to take care of herself and her son before.

After all, she is the youngest daughter and the most favored in the family. Lei Lei is a bit extravagant in spending money. Mother-in-law is also very uncomfortable because of this, always chanting that she spends money indiscriminately.

Lei Lei is a hot Hunan girl, and her eating habits naturally like spicy food. When she meets something she doesn't usually like to eat, she will never take a bite. Her mother-in-law once said that she was melodramatic about these things. Since the mother-in-law moved in, the couple's life has changed a lot, and there are many invisible rules at home. Lei Lei is actually very unhappy.

Although after her mother-in-law came, she was responsible for their three meals a day, but her mother-in-law never asked Lei Lei what she liked to eat, and always cooked according to her own taste and her son's taste. Actually, it's nothing. Just add some Chili sauce when you eat it yourself. As soon as the mother-in-law saw her daughter-in-law, she said, "This should be eaten separately, and no food at all." This is embarrassing. I feel uncomfortable every time I eat, so I naturally lose my appetite.

In order not to like the dishes cooked by my mother-in-law, I used to eat every dinner, picked up my mobile phone and ordered mala Tang takeaway that I had been thinking for a long time. As a result, my mother-in-law knew, and her mother-in-law said, "Isn't it a waste of money to order takeout? If you really don't want to eat, don't eat my cooking in the future. "

This also made her mother-in-law very angry. She didn't cook for her for several days, and she was embarrassed every time she went home.

Recently, the price of pork is fast, and my mother-in-law knows the pressure of their mortgage repayment, so she wants to save a little on her diet, so she eats very lightly for three meals a day, and sometimes even buys her son chicken legs. In fact, Lei Lei was very wronged and called her mother. Although I didn't tell her the current situation, her mother knew her very well and came to Guangzhou to visit her all the way.

Lei Lei was very happy when he learned this. He specially took a half-day off to buy a lot of vegetables and two Jin of ribs and went home to cook a delicious meal. It was nothing special. Unfortunately, Wang Hao had to work overtime in the company that day and could not go home to have dinner with them. Lei Lei has been busy all afternoon, and she is already hungry. Mother-in-law wants to move chopsticks after eating the last dish. But her mother-in-law stopped her and said discontentedly, "If your husband doesn't come back, you won't be able to eat. Don't you know that our family has this rule? "

Lei Lei said, "My mother came all the way here today, so I can't let my mother starve. Besides, Wang Hao worked overtime and told us not to wait for him. "

"Call you wait, what's the matter with overtime? You can eat later. It's good to eat later. I know that my son is still cooking so many dishes after working overtime, and I don't want my son to eat. "

The two talked for a long time, making the original warm atmosphere of a table full of gunpowder.

His mother motioned to stop talking, and Lei immediately sent a message to Wang Hao, asking him to go home quickly. As a result, she waited for Wang Hao for more than an hour that day, and the food was cold.

Later, when her mother returned to Hunan, her mother-in-law said to Lei Lei, "I bought pork for a dozen pieces a catty. Pork is so expensive now, ribs are more expensive, and your mother is not a guest. Why did you buy it so well? Did you buy anything good for your mother when you knew my son was away? If you eat like this, this family will be eaten by you sooner or later, and my son will be eaten by you sooner or later! "

This sentence made Lei Lei unbearable. She said angrily to her mother-in-law: "Our family's economic conditions are not so bad, and I am also a money-making person. What's wrong with eating a sparerib? " Did my mother finally come all the way to make her vegetarian? "

It was also because of buying spareribs that my mother-in-law chatted with Lei Lei for several days. No matter what Lei Lei said to Wang Hao, he would say, "It doesn't matter. My mother likes to nag. Just don't care. She said angrily, "I can't live this life." Let's divorce. My home is so miserable! "! "

For a long time, Lei Lei couldn't get her husband's support in her marriage, which made her strong mother-in-law breathless. Mother-in-law doesn't respect herself or her family at all, which makes Lei Lei feel that her mother-in-law doesn't regard herself as family at all. A month later, Lei Lei also wanted to understand, so she proposed a divorce to Wang Hao. Lei Lei thinks it's not too late for them to divorce because they have no children. If they have children, it is difficult for them to get divorced.

In fact, everyone has their own living habits. After marriage, try to unify the living habits of two people as much as possible. Once another person joins, it will be more difficult to unify. Everyone has different tastes. Whether between husband and wife or between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is normal to have different living habits.

In the case of Lei Lei, if you like spicy food, you can add some Chili sauce yourself, but it is not suitable for your mother-in-law. Mother-in-law is too strong to protect her daughter-in-law, and will only squeeze her regardless of her feelings, so as to handle family relations in this way. The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is actually very small, but it can ruin a marriage.

Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, both sides should reflect. Since there are differences in living habits, we should try to make some changes for each other. Even if it doesn't change, we should respect each other's eating habits and seek common ground while reserving differences. For example, in the matter of taste, my mother-in-law knows that her daughter-in-law loves spicy food. Being able to cook a spicy dish for her alone will make her feel that this mother-in-law cares about herself and her daughter-in-law will be more filial to her mother-in-law.

For this man caught between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is more important to correctly handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. You can't remain indifferent. After a long time, the contradiction finally broke out and the happy family was broken. Therefore, we should take care of our wife's feelings, and we should not always ask her to bear it, nor should we always be partial to our mother and let her be wronged. Doing this "middleman" well is also a compulsory knowledge for men.