This kind of emotional intelligence accompanying the bed is not only happy for parents, but also for everyone.

People eat whole grains, with joys and sorrows, taste the ups and downs, judge the merits and demerits, and eventually die.

We deal with all kinds of people every day, such as workers, farmers, teachers, students, colleagues, bosses, bosses, friends and so on. If we are not careful, we may miss angels in white's death. I managed to survive, but I had to observe it in the hospital bed for a long time. At this time, relatives or staff who need to accompany the bed will come. So how to accompany the bed and simply pour tea to solve the basic needs? Obviously not.

For patients, mental relaxation and pleasure are important factors that can not be underestimated for the improvement of their condition. So how to make patients have a good mood during hospitalization? This requires the emergence of our emotional intelligence. I think everyone understands the concept of EQ, so I won't go into details here.

Today, what we are going to talk about is still useful, even if we are not dealing with patients. You might as well read this article patiently before making a conclusion.

First, don't underestimate your efforts in words. In life, many parents hide or downplay their illness in order not to delay their children's work and study, and many children take the same measures to hide and downplay the importance of their careers and the starving children at home in order to take care of their parents wholeheartedly. While praising fatherly love, maternal love and filial piety, I want to throw cold water on it. We could have gone up the stairs, because you didn't need to downplay any of your efforts, because no matter how important your work and children are, they are not as important as your parents' top priority. Do you think this will make parents cry more? In the eyes of others, the image of you and your parents will soon be different.

Second, don't comfort others or patients in a self-harming or painful way. When we accompany the bed, we always talk about the daily necessities at home. If we suddenly talk about unhappy things, our best response is: first, listen to the patient's speech; Second, don't deny the patient's remarks; Third, don't comfort patients in a tragic way. If the old man can't finish talking, he will really panic and his heart will be blocked. It will be more comfortable for him to finish. Of course, he should pay attention to his discretion, and he is obviously getting more and more excited, so he still has to stop it. If you are eager to deny that the patient thinks too much or the other person doesn't mean it, then the patient will tell you more details to prove that he doesn't think too much, but he is more emotional. What is even more undesirable is that you appease the patient with a story that I am worse than you. Your pain can't solve each other's pain, it will only make both of them fall into deeper pain.

Third, avoid discussing parents' shortcomings. When two people do it together, it is inevitable to talk about the trivial things of their neighbors. In fact, this kind of argument doesn't really make you strictly avoid talking, but try to avoid it. Why? Because many times talking about parents' shortcomings will be compared. You won't envy Bill Gates for being richer than you, and you won't envy Ma Yun for being more successful than you, but what makes you most angry is that your classmate actually earned a few dollars more than you, and the one who was not as good as you has already married Bai. We will not be angry at that distant great success, but only compare with the people around us. Even if they are a little better than you, they will make you angry for a long time and appear in our minds again and again. So what are we talking about? If possible, say as much as possible, such as: a beautiful trip before, some beautiful moments, thinking about the future, talking about international news, talking about the animal world.

Fourth, don't substitute it without thinking. It is also very dangerous to think at random and substitute it at will. For example, how can the hero and heroine of Korean dramas be so good, and how can I be the hero or heroine, and then start to map it into my own life experience. As we all know, a script is a script. There is no daily necessities in the script, but daily necessities are everywhere in life.

Fifth, never comment on right and wrong, right and wrong. Even in the course of treatment, patients sometimes lose control, resulting in family conflicts and conflicts. At this time, we often start to change our identities and act as referees, hoping that this quarrel can be terminated as soon as possible under our own integrity, and at the same time judge who is right and who is wrong. However, this is just wrong. Because our right and wrong are based on morality. Contradictions in the family can't be measured by morality in many cases. For example, we can say that spitting is wrong, respecting the old and loving the young is right, destroying green plants is wrong, and caring for animals is right. But we can't decide whether mom is right or dad is right just because "mom doesn't like the gift that dad (mom) has prepared for a long time", because there is no way to measure it by moral standards. The so-called honest official can't decide housework, so it should be. In this case, you can only mediate, not mediate. The so-called reconciliation is to make the non-patient bow and scrape to the patient: first, let the patient vent completely, second, don't leave in anger, let alone tit for tat, and third, sincerely apologize. After a while, although you didn't argue, in the end, you will find that it has no effect at all, but it will broaden your horizons. Ma Yun once said, "A person's mind is wronged and enlarged."

Sixth, avoid becoming a chatterbox. Some people will feel embarrassed if they don't talk about something. Actually, it's completely unnecessary. At this time, you should follow the patient's feelings. If the patient feels embarrassed, he will naturally break the silence first. If the patient doesn't break, it proves that the patient really wants to rest (unless the patient is psychologically traumatized, maybe we can take the initiative to open the window of the patient's mind). So we just need to be ourselves, not be chatterboxes or talk terminators. Just answer questions, guide and correct the direction of the topic.

Seventh, health is the capital of the revolution. Pay attention to sleep and diet. Accompanying the bed is a job that requires great strength, brain power and physical strength. If you don't want an extra bed in the hospital before the patient leaves the hospital. Then please be kind to yourself. Ensure adequate sleep and a good diet. Ensure good health. Witness the sunrise tomorrow.

Write it at the end. The last thing we want is that young people are proud of their spring breeze, while old people are sick. May the whole world cherish life and stay away from diseases.