Foreign daughter-in-law

My hometown is a small village in the northwest plain of Shandong. In the 1960s and 1970s, rural areas were still in poverty, and many young men became bachelors because their families were too poor to marry their wives.

Therefore, in order to get rid of the image of bachelor, they can only pay the matchmaker to introduce foreign daughter-in-law, most of whom are from poorer Sichuan and Yunnan. Sang Mei is one of them, a Sichuanese who married Uncle Sen of our production team.

There are three uncles and brothers in Sam. He is the boss. My father participated in the puppet troops of the Kuomintang, and his composition was not good. Being criticized during the Cultural Revolution, my family was poor, so I delayed my marriage and never got a wife.

Sister sang was only seventeen when she came, and uncle sang was in his thirties. In our village, men and children of that age have already gone to primary school.

It is said that Uncle Sen married Sang Mei, and Sang Mei was young and beautiful, with a small face and big eyes, especially with a pair of small tiger teeth when he smiled. She is shy and playful, with the unique charm of southerners.

Uncle sen has a good temper, and now he can describe it in one word, that is, warm male type. He felt that he was old and married such an attractive daughter-in-law, and his happiness was beyond words. So he doted on Sang Mei in every way, reluctant to let Sang Mei do the dirty work.

People in the village once rumored that Uncle Sen would hold Sang Mei in his arms like a child when he slept at night, and then go to bed when Sang Mei slept. This makes many local daughter-in-law envious, often taking Uncle Sen as an example, complaining that his men don't know how to take care of their daughter-in-law.

At that time, foreign wives were easily isolated in the village. They are far away from their parents and relatives, and they are helpless. The man they married is neither poor nor disabled, and has no position in the village, and is often ignored in the husband's family. If they meet a husband who doesn't know how to hurt his daughter-in-law, their life is really worse than Huanglian's. Compared with them, Sang Mei is lucky.

Although Uncle Sen is old, he treats her like a treasure. In addition, Uncle Sen is hardworking and kind, and has a good popularity in the village. Although she is a foreign daughter-in-law, Sister Sang is not discriminated against in the village, and her husband's family is treated the same as the two local sisters-in-law.

After one year of marriage, Sang Mei gave birth to a son to Uncle Sen, and made Uncle Sen happy all day. She often hummed a ditty on the road and greeted everyone. Within three sentences, she began to praise her son and said that Sang Mei's life had fallen into a honeypot.

As the old saying goes, if a person is too happy, it will easily lead to sadness, and the so-called good times may not last long. Just when Uncle Sen and Sister Sang were full of longing for a happy life in the future, disaster suddenly came.

When his son was five years old, Uncle Sen unfortunately got uremia. It was the early 1980s, and food and clothing had just been solved. For ordinary people, not to mention such a serious disease, a family may be overwhelmed.

Although Sang Mei spent all his money to treat Uncle Sen, in less than a year, Uncle Sen still left a pair of orphans and widows with a sense of disappointment for his son, nostalgia for life and regret that he could not live with Sang Mei forever.

For Sang Mei, Uncle Sen's death is undoubtedly like the sky falling. During that time, Sang Mei was in Lacrimosa all day. Without Uncle Sen's support, the child is still young, and Sang Mei is like duckweed in the sea of suffering, lonely and helpless.

Someone in the village advised Sang Mei to remarry. In the countryside, a little widow in her twenties with underage children can imagine the hardships of life. But Sang Mei didn't agree. She wants to stay here. She has feelings for uncle sen.

Uncle Sen's third brother has two daughters and has been practicing family planning since the 1980s. In rural areas, families without sons are said to be homeless, which is equivalent to having no successors.

Shortly after Uncle Sen's death, Sangmei's mother-in-law and father-in-law asked Sangmei to adopt her son to her third brother, saying that the third brother would help raise an adult and she would be responsible for getting married later, which also reduced Sangmei's burden.

In fact, both her mother-in-law and her father-in-law are afraid that Sammi will remarry with her children. After all, the grandson is his own descendant. Uncle Sen is gone, and the grandson must stay.

Helpless Sang Mei was moved. In order to meet Uncle Sen, her family is poor. She was distressed that her child had lost his father since childhood, and worried that the widow's family would delay her child's future marriage.

Considering that the third brother is the child's uncle, pure Sang Mei thinks that my uncle is as close as my father, not to mention that although the child is not with him, he will see it sooner or later. Thinking of this, she relentlessly agreed to her mother-in-law's request. Since then, the child has been living with his uncle's family.

But since then, Sang Mei has become less and less popular in her husband's family. At first, the third brother's daughter-in-law spoke rudely to her. Later, the third brother refused to let her see the children. Even the mother-in-law saw her, and her attitude was not as gentle as before. She always turns away and looks disgusted.

One year before the Spring Festival, Sang Mei wanted her children to go home and have a reunion dinner with her, but the third brother didn't agree. Sang Mei was angry and wanted her mother-in-law to help persuade Third Brother. Who knows, her mother-in-law also said that the child followed his third uncle, that is, his third uncle's child, and told her not to hook up with children again.

This "hook-up" remark made Sang Mei extremely sad. When she returned to a deserted home, she remembered that Uncle Sen had been kind to herself, and she couldn't help crying.

In the past, during the Chinese New Year, Uncle Sang's memorial tablets were provided by her mother-in-law's family. Sister sang prepares sacrifices every year. Sister sang didn't send a sacrifice this time. She took out Uncle Sen's photo and put it on the table. She wants Uncle Sen to spend the New Year with her at home, even if Uncle Sen is just a photo.

When her mother-in-law saw that Sang Mei didn't offer sacrifices to her son, she was furious and scolded Sang Mei for being unfaithful to Uncle Sen, saying that this would make the ancestors blame and the younger generation suffer.

Third brother ran to his sister-in-law's house and smashed the offerings and photos. Sang Mei was angry, but was slapped by the third brother, who scolded her for making her parents sad for the New Year and making the eldest brother uneasy underground. All this was seen by Sang Mei's son.

At that time, his son was over 10. In the constant provocation of grandparents, uncles and aunts, he lost the ability to judge right and wrong. He also thinks that his mother is wrong. When his uncle hit his mother, his son chose to look on coldly.

If the attitude of her husband's family towards Sangmei makes Sangmei feel that it is just a run, then her son's indifference is undoubtedly a knife inserted in her broken heart.

Sang Mei was desperate. On New Year's Eve, when every family got together for a reunion dinner, she drank pesticides.

Fortunately, the neighbors are very careful. Seeing that Sang Mei was beaten in a trance by her brother-in-law, she felt distressed that a foreign daughter-in-law was helpless, so she went to her house to comfort her and found Sang Mei lying on the ground. I called other neighbors and informed Sang Mei's in-laws.

After all, life is a matter of concern. When Mrs. Sangmei's family saw that things were getting too big, they were afraid, and no one said anything anymore. Everyone rushed Sang Mei to the hospital.

It was also Sang Mei's life, and he was rescued from danger. Some people say that Uncle Sen saw that the child was underage and begged the god of terror to send Sang Mei back from the underworld.

After all this, the relationship between Sangmei and her husband's family was completely alienated. Sang Mei wanted her child back, but the third brother said it was ok to go back, and alimony must be paid back in recent years.

Since Uncle Sen's death, Sang Mei has only lived on a few acres of land, with no savings. Where did she get her alimony these years?

Sansao said that when there was no money, Sangmei left with her son and mortgaged her land and house. Everyone in the village said that the third son actually wanted to occupy the property of his eldest brother and drive his sister-in-law away.

Sang Mei asked her son if he would like to go back to Sichuan with her. My son stayed at my uncle's house for so many years, heard too many bad words about his mother, and he was no longer close to his mother. Of course, he doesn't want to go with his mother.

Sang Mei's heart was cold, and she gave up the idea of going back to her children, but she never dated her third brother's family again.

Two years later, through the villagers' introduction, Sangmei recruited a son-in-law, about the same age as Sangmei, and was willing to adopt a daughter-in-law because her family was poor.

Because she has cut off contact with her husband's family, it is not easy for her husband's family to intervene publicly, but before she got married, her son, who had not been in the house for many years, came to see Sang Mei for the first time.

The girls closed the door that day, and outsiders only heard their quarrels in the house. Later, Sangmei's son came out and kicked the door hard when he left.

Sang Mei was heard crying at home. Later, Sang Mei married that man.

Sang Mei is also blessed. Although this husband is not as considerate as Uncle Sen, he is also a down-to-earth person, and everything at home is arranged by Sang Mei. It is also a kind of love.

Later, Third Sister and her current husband were advised to have another child. It seems that the son can't count on it, and it's good to have another child and someone to support them.

Sister sang disagreed. She is afraid of having another child. In the future, her uncle's family will instigate her eldest son to compete with the children for property. She doesn't want to see that scene again. She will wait for her son to grow up, and she believes that he will come to recognize her one day.

Sang Mei's son didn't do well in school. After graduating from junior high school, he followed his uncle to learn water, electricity and heating installation, followed his uncle to do projects everywhere, and gave all the wages he earned to his uncle for safekeeping.

Later, Sang Mei's son talked about an object himself. When he was about to get married, his aunt and his uncle quarreled because they didn't want to give a bride price. His uncle's attitude was also ambiguous, so the marriage was delayed again and again, which made his son embarrassed and dissatisfied with his uncle's family.

After listening to this, Sang Mei discussed with her husband and planned to give her son a bride price. The son is his own, and the son's lifelong event is a heartfelt concern.

My husband is also a kind person. He agreed to Sangmei's idea and personally gave the bride price money to Sangmei's son.

Through this incident, Sang Mei's son finally changed his mind. After all, he is also an adult and has his own judgment on the grievances of his elders. He felt his mother's love for him and saw the selfishness of his uncle's family. He reconciled with his mother and accepted his stepfather.

Later, my son got married and had children, and still lived with his uncle's family. Third aunt still asked her nephew to hand over the earned salary and let her keep it.

It is said that it is easier to give than to take. On several occasions, the daughter-in-law had an argument with her aunt and mother-in-law about spending money. The daughter-in-law resolutely separated and went back to her mother's house, claiming that she would not come back until she separated.

Seeing this, his uncle agreed to break up, but asked his nephew to give him part of his living expenses every month as a good compensation for his nephew.

Now, Sangmei's grandson is going to primary school soon, and Sangmei's daughter-in-law is more willing to get along with Sangmei. Sang Mei sincerely loves her grandson, son and daughter-in-law. She always said that a family should be treated equally. Daughter-in-law is not stupid, compared with great aunt and mother-in-law, whoever is sincere, of course she is close to whom.

The daughter-in-law knows that Sangmei lives frugally and is reluctant to spend money at ordinary times. She buys a new dress for her parents-in-law from time to time to honor them. On holidays, she also bought gifts to Sangmei's house with her husband, and the family got together and talked and laughed.

It is said that Sangmei's hard life has passed, and now, Sangmei, a foreign daughter-in-law, has finally ushered in happiness in her later years.