Do as you would be done by.

"Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you." I was still young when I learned this Analects. The teacher only explained that instead of giving things we don't like to eat to our friends, we hid delicious and fun things. When I was a child, my understanding of this sentence stayed at this level, learning to share and learn to give generously.

With the growth of age, perhaps after showing impatience with the closest relatives, and then extremely regretting, during adolescence, who didn't talk to their parents, deeply blamed themselves and regretted it?

When I feel guilty and introspected, how much I don't like a person losing the ability to control his emotions, how much I hate a person arguing irrationally, and that's how I impose all the bad emotions on my parents. How to do "don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you"?

Be unreasonable to the person you love the most, but respect the stranger. Put down all concerns in front of the person who should cherish the most, and impose "what you don't want" on each other unscrupulously. There is no sin in taking each other's love for granted, as long as you understand that because of love, the other party will tolerate and give in to you.

"Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" should be a kind of compassion and gentleness, and every move makes people feel like a spring breeze. Caring for everyone around you is a habit, not deliberately pleasing, but also taking responsibility out of respect.

People say that this kind of person has high EQ, but I don't think that EQ IQ is determined by nature, which is different from others, but it is necessary to decide a person's height the day after tomorrow.

I met a friend and went to see him in winter. I just asked him to come out and answer my phone. I didn't tell him that I accidentally put on more clothes, but he asked me if I was cold. I made it clear that I wasn't cold, just urging him to come quickly. But as soon as I saw him, he shrank his neck, but he took out a scarf from his bag and tied it on me. He also took off his gloves and handed them to me. He enthusiastically covered them. "It's cold, but I insist it's not." Perhaps judging from the tone of my urging him to come quickly, I am already too cold. In short, he can always accurately understand the first half of my sentence and then supplement the second half. I said no, no, no, he knew I was just saying. When we eat together, let me order what I like. Although few dishes are better for two people, he always cares about my preferences first and watches movies together. I said that snacks near the cinema were expensive, so we wouldn't buy them, but he would still ask me if I liked them. It will also be naughty to say, "We can't help it if everyone else eats later."

In the end, we will choose to stay with a comfortable person for a long time. He will avoid all you don't like, leaving only what you like. It's not tiring to get along like this. I'm curious, too. How do they know what I like and don't like? Perhaps with a heart of "don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you".

In a wise life, in the truth of "don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you", the most profound thing is: don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you.

Not long ago, some of our old classmates got together. At first, everyone talked about their own changes, and everyone was very happy. I don't know who mentioned a classmate who was almost isolated at first. Everyone looked at each other, and after a sudden silence, they all said without hesitation why they didn't like that classmate that year. One of them said that because she thought she sang beautifully, she always liked to sing the next sentence when others sang. When she sings better than others, others have to give her a compliment or two. Several other students repeatedly said that the eccentric classmate always likes to play his favorite song loudly, hoping to get everyone's approval while expressing his love for that song, but I may be like most people, because everyone doesn't like her, so I dare not show a little love. In fact, I know that people just don't like her to show her favorite style while rejecting others' preferences, under the banner of love that I like and share with you.

I read the news before that a dormitory in a university was hacked to death by a roommate because of poor singing skills. I think it's incredible. There must be a reason. Compared with my classmates, he is lucky, but although he shouldn't be killed because of his poor singing, is he really innocent? I don't think anyone wants to admit that he can't sing well. I estimate that the classmate who was accused by violent roommates of singing badly must feel that singing is beautiful, and he will share this beautiful and even beautiful singing with his roommates more than once. However, no matter what he wants or doesn't want, he should not be forced to show it to others.

Selfishness is suicide.

When I realize that even if I want something, I shouldn't share it with you generously, and I won't talk easily at first, but I will digest my own joys and sorrows. When I grow up, I won't let anyone pour out their feelings, nor will I become a sympathetic and annoying "Xianglinsao" when I am in pain, nor will I laugh at everyone when I am happy and make the villains jealous.

So I began to be afraid of basking in happiness and showing love in my circle of friends. Your happiness belongs to no one else. You are willing to share other people's wishes, but you are not necessarily willing to bless others. I began to worry that my friends in the company would dislike me for talking too much. At the same time, I feel grateful. Even if I don't like my friend, I'm probably the one who deserves my love. How can I love them?

As the saying goes, a friendship between gentlemen is as light as water. San Mao said that water is like waking up in the morning to hear the sound of a gurgling stream and appreciate its beauty, but you don't have to go to the stream to see the clear water every day.

The best, but you like everything I like and don't like.

-Pure gardenia