Why do more and more people choose to live alone?

When Faye Yu participated in the interview, the host asked: What is the contradiction between being single and physical needs? How did you solve your physical needs in the process of being single?

At that time, faced with such problems, Faye Yu was not shy.

When hearing such a question, most people will respond with silence, or directly change the subject to solve the embarrassment, but she simply thought about it and the answer was wonderful.

Everyone has normal physiological needs, but men and women have different attitudes and ideas in this regard, she said.

Men can separate love from sex, and they can do without love. And women can't do that. Women think they are equally important.

If a person chooses to live a life without marriage, isn't the quality of his life better than that of people in marriage?

I believe the answer of some people who live alone is: if I have to start over, I still choose to live alone.

Living alone means that you can live for yourself without looking at anyone's face. You don't care what anyone thinks, because you only have your own mood to take care of.

But lonely people are not completely selfish. On the contrary, they are often generous, enthusiastic and healthy. There is also a healthier mental state.

Women, especially for marriage, have higher spiritual requirements.

For a man, if his wife doesn't torture him hard in marriage, he must be very grateful and keep going.

But for women, they will need more love, care and companionship in marriage.

This difference in demand often makes many women choose to be single because they can't reach it. It also often makes some men choose to be single because they don't want trouble.

I have a cousin who lives alone. She is forty-five years old this year. A while ago, she came to my place on business and invited me to dinner and chat.

She said that only chatting with me can make me feel relaxed, because I am the only one who won't ask her any such questions, and I fully respect and accept her status.

She told me that she lived alone for a long time, and her previous love broke up four years ago because she refused to live together and get married.

She thinks that marriage is to tie chicken feathers and burn herself. Let alone have a baby.

I said, actually, that's what I think, but sometimes when I'm alive, I feel it's boring to live only for myself. Most people need to find one or two people who are worth fighting for, caring for and restraining.

She smiled and said, "Yes, after we found it, we grinded it until both sides felt it was not worth binding. I am afraid of such a thing. "

She's right. Fear is the reason why lonely people live alone. Some lonely people don't like living alone very much.

Eating alone, watching movies alone, sleeping alone, no one handed you a mouthful of hot water when you caught a cold, wanted to talk in the middle of the night, and no one lifted the pillow to listen.

But they are afraid, afraid of being bound after marriage, afraid that two people are treading on thin ice in their responsibilities and commitments, and afraid that contradictions will suddenly arise when the three views are occasionally inconsistent.

For the sake of freedom and security, there is no object with special feelings, and they prefer to live alone.

Cousin said: I live alone, not without love. I also have my love life, but I have a bottom line, that is, I don't live together for a long time, I don't step into marriage, and I don't involve both families and parents.

In fact, I have to take risks in unprotected love, but think about it. Now everyone is busy with work, married, and after the freshness period, they all go home to be hotels.

After giving birth to a child, the old couple get tired of each other, which will still happen, and inevitably one or all of them will happen. Why should I? Why should I?

It's not that I don't want to give, but that I can't accept myself and consume each other in a relationship of compromise and fear.

Because I know my own shortcomings very well, and I know that I can't stand a man's shortcomings for a long time. If you don't force others, you don't force yourself.

Being single, there is always room to look so good. I will treat myself.

I gave her a thumbs-up, and I meant it. If my thumb is seen by my period, I will come to see me in person on the high-speed rail.

Because, in their eyes, you live a small life with your wife and children, and you are not qualified to support others.

In the old man's mind, his only son will appear in his later years every day. No one cares about his illness when he is lying in bed, looking at the sky and moaning, crying that life is worse than death. The old man's heart will break at the thought of this.

I have a female colleague who should be 60 years old now and has never been married. She should be my teacher.

I learned a lot from her. In my eyes, this female teacher is not bad-looking, good-tempered, helpful and has a warm feeling with her.

But she just won't get married. Later, she became familiar and became good friends. When chatting, she said: Some people regard marriage and men's and women's life as their life, while others have many other important things to do in their life.

Others do ordinary things, but they don't allocate too much time to men's and women's things, because they are naturally tired of such things.

Taking this kind of thing as an important part of life is not deliberate disgust, but fatigue and weakness.

I also agree with her. Especially after middle age, you will find that marriage and a certain relationship will take up a lot of your time, and you can't be distracted to pursue what you want.

You are no longer infatuated with each other as you were when you were young. You need to find someone to accompany you. Then, if you choose to be single, your life pattern will be broader.

Of course, this is not a criticism of marriage. Good marriage and bad marriage are meaningful to people. Being in or not is just a choice, there is no right or wrong.

An old friend, in his seventies, has been single since his divorce in his forties.

This friend is not only single, but also lives in seclusion and doesn't walk around in society.

Every time I chat with him, he always asks after my family life. Although he really blessed me, in my heart, there is always a feeling that he seems to be a fairy when he looks at the sadness of a secular person like me.

Fortunately, although my family life is trivial, I don't have too many troubles, and I don't have anything to ask for a poor life. In this way, I am not too far away from him. You can still talk to him.

He often said: people come to this world alone, and then leave alone. In this life, they mistakenly think that they have a close relationship with anyone, and they are excited. No one will die with you in the end.

Of course, you don't have to find someone to live and die with. Born destined to accompany, it is worth cherishing. But if not, why look for it, why be so disgusted and afraid.

Loneliness, for me, is a blessing, a quiet and happy garden that is not disturbed by outsiders.

I said, you can only tell me if you do this. When people hear you, they think that you were born in cool thin, which is inhuman.

He said with a smile, so I only have you as a friend!

1, free, don't have to serve anyone, don't worry about anyone.

2, save money, now a person's living cost is lower.

3, living habits, can not be controlled and influenced, when to sleep, how to arrange their spare time, are their own decisions.

4, not tired, do not take care of other people's emotions, do not worry about each other's change of heart.

5, the social division of labor is refined, as long as there is money, a person's life is more comfortable.

6. There are fewer worries and troubles. The closer the relationship, the more likely it is to go wrong.

7. Society is safer. Even for women, there is no problem living alone.

8. Personal consciousness is getting stronger and stronger, and people like not to be disturbed.

9. There are more and more recreational and social ways, and I don't feel lonely living alone.

10, with the internet, one's life has become very convenient and more efficient.

1 1, living alone requires a smaller house and space, and the loan and rent are cheaper.

12, living alone, avoiding contradictions and mutual unhappiness.

13, living alone, can arrange their own space and time more freely.

14. The more society develops, the more people will choose to live alone.

Living alone is not everyone's choice.

From a social point of view, the pressure of survival in today's society makes some people prefer to live alone. Because everyone's life background, economic source, social support system and so on have different degrees of differences, this difference is daunting. Since you can't meet the needs of mate selection, meet your own needs.

This is more obvious in men. They even think they can wash clothes, cook and clean. Why do they need someone who doesn't like themselves? It is better to live freely than to be bound and controlled by others.

For some women, they feel that they can support their families, stand on their own feet, never be forced to embarrass themselves, and live a happy life. In today's society, there are fewer and fewer men to match it. It has become one of the criteria for excellent women to choose a spouse. Of course, there are many reasons, so I won't go into details.

Psychologically, except for a few people, traumatic experiences made them firmly choose to live alone, but most people didn't meet anyone to walk with. Once they meet, the state of living alone will end.

The reason why today's society is materialistic is because we used to be so poor. Just like a child growing up in a poor environment, the hope of "having more wealth" has become his lifelong dream. It is because of this dream that he sometimes loses his rational judgment and thus loses something more precious.

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1: You don't have to close the door when you go to the toilet.

2. Many people can't afford to buy a house, their wages are low, they dare not get married, and they don't want to be forced to get married by their parents.

Everyone is now financially independent and can support themselves. Living alone may bring a higher quality of life.

4. If you live alone, you will have enough to eat, and the whole family will not be hungry.

5: Living alone will be very free, and you can do whatever you want.

6. I am afraid that my other half will bring me disappointment, so I live alone.

7. introverted, not good at dealing with people.

8. Don't put up with other people's living habits.

9. You can talk to yourself and be careless.

10: Living alone can make people awake and become a better self.

1 1: Life pressure is too great. Living alone can release stress, and there are not so many trivial things in life.

12: Living alone is the best chance to get stronger. During this period of a person's life, you should improve and optimize yourself and make yourself stronger and stronger.

13: All income can be controlled by yourself.

14: Don't trust intimate relationships.

15: People nowadays lack loyalty and trust.

16: I don't want to take responsibility, and I have no ability to take responsibility.

It is better to live comfortably than to live with the wrong people! Do whatever you want, nobody cares about you. You don't need to wait on others. Look at their faces. As I said, the society is diversified now. There is a mobile phone in hand, as others say, a mobile phone in hand, forever. The ancients had long anticipated what would happen today, so they got this idiom. There are many interesting things on the mobile phone. Will not be lonely, can fill the time without company.

Now the pace of life is so fast and the pressure of work is so great that I can't breathe. How can I have so much leisure time and energy to please others? All my enthusiasm and energy have been exhausted by work. After work, I want to have a good sleep to replenish my strength. We will continue to struggle tomorrow. Bread is always more important than love.

Besides, what you pay may not be rewarded. What's more frightening is that you may get hurt. So it is better to wait than to look for it without a goal. Fate comes naturally. No, I don't insist. Origin and fate, everything follows fate, can not be forced. Just live by yourself. This year is still the same as the Chinese New Year. In my concept, the Chinese New Year is another year older. About a meal. Go to sleep. It's dawn and the new year has passed. It's that simple.

A person is to be the truest self!

The reader's point of view, like a person who likes to be alone, has the same point of view, that is, open-minded, open-minded, alive, and want to be a true self, living easily, freely and smartly.

Being alone is to not act with others.

In this world, the relationship between people is the balance of interests and value orientation. Once this balance is broken, the previous friendship or emotion will become worthless or even hurt. In this sense, the best relationship between people is neither too hot nor too cold, and even to some extent it is best not to have anything to do with it. Maybe my statement may be a little extreme for some people. Admittedly, I don't deny that the relationship between people is reciprocal, giving people roses and leaving lingering fragrance in their hands. However, nothing is absolute, only relative. In real life, we see more extreme encounters. The person who is hurt the most is often the one who loves the most. The cruel social reality tells us that getting too close to anyone will be a disaster. Remember, distance produces beauty, but people who can hurt you are often the people you know best, or relatives and friends. And people who have nothing to do with you, except robbers, how can they hurt you? The real society is so invincible and unfavorable. Slowly, you will find that when something really happens, it is you who finally solve the problem, and no one can really help you. It is better to do what you want than to waste time and feelings.

Throughout the ages, interpersonal relationship is the most difficult to get along with. Truth and reality, emptiness and falsehood, are hard to ponder. People in this life, the most tired is not the body but the heart. You can rest and recover when you are tired. When the heart is tired or injured, it is difficult to calm down, to put it more seriously, it may even collapse.

Life is too short to be copied, only this life, no afterlife. Therefore, while being kind to others, we should also be kind to our unique self. Solitude is the best medicine to treat yourself well. Don't please others, don't look at others' faces, or take care of others' feelings and wronged yourself everywhere.

If you live alone, you can live the life you like and want according to your true wishes.

A person will reduce a lot of trouble and meaningless social interaction, saving time, effort and money. When you are alone, you don't have to disturb others or yourself. You are calm as water, pampered and cultured.

Remember: your dreams are always round, which means that your relatives are not as ambitious as their neighbors. Even if you get along with others, you should be with comfortable people, including your friends and relatives. If you are bored in a relationship, stay away from it. It is better to cultivate yourself than to please others. It is better to be arrogant and lonely than to do something against your will.

1, the best state of life is rich silence. There is no need for external temptation, because the powerful and peaceful power inside can make you live well.

The more people experience, the richer they are. In fact, they hope that their future life experience can be simpler.

He is a simple-hearted man. He is smart, but he can restrain his intelligence and emotional intelligence in time.

4, a person's heart is simple and quiet, the circle is clean and simple, and life will become smooth and comfortable. Such people are very transparent.

5. I feel that life doesn't need too much trouble. I don't want others to bother me, and I'm embarrassed to bother others. Communicating with people is a very troublesome thing.

6. Anyone with a sense of security knows that no one can give them a sense of security. All those who expect to give themselves a sense of security will eventually come back disappointed.

7. If you have the financial ability and more choices, you will choose to live alone, with good economy and spiritual independence.

8. Once a person can live alone, once he is not afraid of losing everything, his attitude towards life will become very casual, and life and death will be very open.

9, a person living alone, many people think it is a person's loneliness, but the loneliness of a group of people is loneliness. The person who really lives alone is a person's happiness.

Living alone is on the rise all over the world, and researchers say it may change the way people know themselves and their intimate relationships, and even affect interpersonal communication patterns. Psychologically, this is probably because of "communication fatigue". From a psychological point of view, first of all, choosing to live alone is a helpless move with too much pressure in modern life. In order to occupy a place in the competition and "concentrate" on work and life, family has gradually become a burden, which makes people feel resistant and exclusive. Secondly, living alone means "communication fatigue" to some extent. The more developed the society, the more complicated the interpersonal relationship. No matter friends, colleagues and family members, there are fewer and fewer sincere feelings and more and more interest disputes. In order to protect themselves, many people prefer to escape. Finally, modern communication methods are changing and developing day by day, so that people can make countless friends and talk with others without leaving home. In this context, the role of family companionship is naturally less important. In fact, feelings need to be cultivated, communicated and improved. It is better to learn how to get along with others better and find someone suitable for life than to hide and escape alone. Jump out of interest disputes, be more tolerant and understanding to others, don't think everyone is so complicated, and infect others with inner kindness.

Let's talk about this unmarried group first. For this group, the first problem is the cost of marriage! From a national perspective, sky-high bride price has become very common. For example, in Pingliang, Gansu, the bride price ranges from 500,000 to 200,000. Shandong and Hunan need about 654.38+ten thousand yuan; In Xichuan, Henan Province, the starting price of engagement in some rural areas is 300,000. After decades of hard work, I returned to the poverty line as soon as I got married Many families get married alone and the whole family is in debt. A wedding in the countryside has made more families "look at the ocean and sigh". The "sky-high bride price" has become an obstacle to the marriage of men and women. Most people don't like living alone, they are forced.

Others, under the impact of the current multi-culture and western thoughts, have some gloomy ideas about love, use various chat tools, enjoy love, and even make a profit.

Let's talk about this divorce group. This group prefers to be single for the following reasons.

1. Both men and women are career-oriented and have strong personalities. After divorce, if they find out if there is a partner, life can go on.

Because the other half cheated and was hurt by feelings, he could no longer believe in love, but only in himself.

3. Life is convenient, shopping, shopping, direct delivery to home.

There are many ways to get emotional comfort.

With the improvement of social welfare, there is no need to have another half to provide for the aged.

But people who really want to live alone and enjoy it, I think, are all people with strong sense of economic independence, high ideological accomplishment and rich life experience, or who have experienced vicissitudes and ups and downs. These people will enjoy a person's life