Why do children love to find their fathers? There are four messy parenting methods!

I always thought I was better at raising children.

Of course! I am a mother, and I am the mother of two children. The boss will be 13 years old! My two children are very close to me, too. My favorite names are Mom and Mom. I know how much I care about my two children (or three? ), of course, sometimes I can't help but "guide" my husband how to "crush" my son.

Until recently, my one-and-a-half-year-old son seems to be more and more interested in finding his father. On the one hand, I am happy and relaxed, but I also watch their interaction.

It seems that sometimes you really should learn from me as a new father!

I found the child with him;

First, laugh loudly.

It's really wonderful! As long as he is here, his son often laughs too much. They often play games, which gives me a fright. * * * degree is one hundred times that of me!

For example, when playing with a car, my son and I just "whew" the toy car and then "whew" it passed. My son was very happy, but when playing with his father, we just hit two cars and then the police car came back. The whole thing is the standard of Hollywood action movies. There may be explosions and gun battles in my mind, which is a realm I don't understand.

Playing ball, I also kicked the ball around on the ground, and my son ran around to practice his physical strength because my mother was afraid of the ball. But dad will have a fly ball, a change ball, and then a quick shot. He will do everything!

This is really difficult for me to learn! What I can do is not to dwell on this matter. Dad, ask again and again! Don't let his son see that I'm afraid of the ball, lest the child follow suit. Ha, then leave this dangerous task to dad. Have fun!

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Secondly, I learned a lot of wonderful words.

In the past two weeks, my one-and-a-half-year-old son has been writing a book and said a few words in German that I never understood. I think, is the son's pronunciation inaccurate? When I asked my husband, I found out that it was a diver, a cultivator and an accident ... Everything he said was right, but I never expected to teach my son these words.

I found that I would choose "safety", a word that I think children can understand and pronounce. Even though I have deliberately avoided using overlapping words, I still often say it.

But husbands talk directly to their children, just like two children of the same age (well, I know it's true sometimes), so there is no "age limit" on the vocabulary that can be used.

Although it is still rap for me to say "cultivator" now, I try not to say "truck" for transportation, but try to say "professional" for various means of transportation. As for the brand of the car, I will give it to my father.

Third, the home is always in a mess, but it doesn't seem to matter.

Every time I take care of the children alone, it's strange that my home is still very clean with the children! However, if the husband takes care of the children alone, he will concentrate on "taking care of the children" and the home will be as chaotic as if it had been bombed. (Well, it was really bombed by two children. )

To be honest, I felt a little angry at first! What a mess. I have to tidy up after I get home. Why not collect it while I'm with the children?

Later, I observed that in fact, I often turn on the 50/50 mode when I "take care of my children", that is, only 50% of my mind is really playing with my son, and the other half is doing housework or other things. It seems normal for my mother, but it is different for my father, at least not for our family.

He plays with his son, even if he goes to the seaside together! When my son plays with sand, he builds a sand castle together and then pushes it down together. Playing football with my son is as serious as practicing, sweating profusely.

Of course, I didn't expect to "clean up" this matter at all! Fortunately, this man in our family will change from an urchin to a man after sending his son to bed. In fact, it will soon be good to clean up together, and we can also chat at the same time, which is quite enjoyable!

So I'm not so "A Xin" now. Learn from your husband and concentrate on parenting during "parent-child time". What about housework? I can't help doing nothing! Just do it with your son.

Now my one-and-a-half-year-old son will help me hang clothes one by one, put them in the washing machine and take the washed dishes out of the dishwasher. For him, this is also a play!

There are always times when there is really no way to control it. The family is a little messy occasionally, and the days can still be happy. Just do the basic cleaning! Sometimes, one of us will take the children out for two or three hours, and that time is when the other person can clean up the house.

There is really no need to be like a model house at home. The key is to live happily. This is the "messy parenting method" I learned from my husband.

Fourth, it doesn't matter what you wear, it will get dirty at once anyway.

I am not a mother who pays too much attention to children's clothes, but sometimes I am a little flattered to see the "style" that my husband wears for my son. To be honest, I have secretly changed it several times! Husband often says: "dirt is the best clothes and decorations for children!" " 」

Seeing Taiwan Province's mom's friends on Facebook, helping her children dress up as princes and princesses, and turning to look at our younger brother, mom comforted herself: "Just rely on natural handsomeness! 」

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Because playing with sand and dirt is almost the daily life of German children, the most common thing at our door is a pile of sand to welcome visitors. No matter how handsome and cute you are, you will be ashamed when you arrive at the bunker! Dad's way is to "bring an extra set", so that we don't have to worry about the baby breaking the clothes we want to "meet people" and try to let the children play. This can also be said to be the husband's "dirty parenting method"!

Although I still think that "mommy parenting" has many advantages over dad (for example, I can make my son finish the rice in the bowl, and dad can't wait), it's also great to learn from my son's big doll, laugh loudly, play crazy, and practice the "messy" and "dirty" parenting methods once in a while, so as to let yourself breathe a sigh of relief!