What are the most difficult obstacles in marriage? Although it seems simple, many people can't even get past the first one.

Marriage, an eternal topic, has always been the focus of attention and one of the unclear things in the world. Marriage is a choice in life. Not to relieve loneliness, nor to find a long-term meal card, but a bargaining chip. No matter which one you choose in the end, it is a project investment. No matter who you choose to be a blue chip or a local tyrant, you must bear certain risks.

There is only one chance to choose marriage, but your own choice is up to you. Whether you get married or not, this dominance is in your hands. Love and marriage are different, just like three soft candles put together. When you put everything out in front of you, you always feel brighter than others. As the saying goes, love comes from the heart. If you think you love each other in your marriage, you will feel very bright if you look at it with your heart.

I don't know if you've seen Bi Shumin's "On a Thousand Commandments". The book says: green plants and five elements have vows, but people do. For women, there are many boys who can be our own husbands, and for men, there are many women who can be your wives. But in any case, it is the most important thing to choose the one that suits you. There are three most painful obstacles in marriage. Although it seems simple, many people even crossed the first one.

1. Running-in time just after marriage

In some relationships, everyone needs to go through a running-in period. Before marriage, because I haven't lived together formally, I will hide some of my shortcomings and show my best side to each other. But after marriage, because the mystery has passed, they will show their own defects, which will also lead to differences between husband and wife, and then disputes will arise. It can be said that this situation is inevitable for every family, even after marriage.

Give an example of life. Bea Hayden and Jacky are a loving couple in the entertainment circle. They have always been concerned by everyone from falling in love to getting married. Bea Hayden gives people the impression that she is almost silent, and because of her personality, people also doubt her love for Jacky. It was not until later that everyone realized that although Biya Hayden was shy in front of others, she was still a very young girl when she was alone with Jackie. Before she got married, Jackie was very fond of Bi Hayden. After they get married, they may have some differences on variety shows, which makes their honeymoon trip look unsatisfactory. It is likely that their main performance is for live broadcast, and the main performance after marriage is normal running-in time.

Not only big-name stars, but also many married people in daily life. At first, they loved each other, but after marriage they hated each other. After all, there will inevitably be some differences between husband and wife. If you can keep a good attitude, it will be easier to get through the running-in period.

Step 2 take care of children

According to the data analysis, women are more suitable to take care of children than men. In marriage, women take care of children. Although children must have a mother from birth to now, they need to be raised by both sides when they are older. In China, it seems natural for a woman to take care of her children, and since she has children, it seems that whether she is studying or accompanying her children to see a doctor, it has become a woman's business. This kind of investment will make women feel bored for a long time and may cause conflicts.

In fact, parents' harm to their children belongs to the same old tune. In a happy marriage, the behavior of parents determines the growth of children. In addition to the glory of maternal love, men also need to pay attention to their children. As a father, only by joining in every stage of the child's growth can the child get better and better, otherwise it will lay a deep hidden danger to the marriage life.

3. The dull period of married life after ten years.

As the saying goes: I want to win wholeheartedly, but I don't want to divide wholeheartedly. In marriage, everyone wants to grow old with each other, but many times, it turns out that marriage is a long way, and such a marriage has no passion at all. If you have such an idea, you can only say that your marriage has now entered a dull period. Over time, the initial passion has long been exhausted, but in any case, we should take a good look at the feelings between husband and wife and communicate with each other even if there are some small frictions, so as to maintain a good relationship between husband and wife.

It is very likely that at the beginning, when they establish their feelings, they can attract each other's attention. Even if it is very easy, they need to seek each other's help so that they can have a chance to show it. However, after entering the marriage, it is a very hypocritical thing to find yourself weak in the eyes of the other party and will be accused. After a long time, even if there are difficulties, they will choose a person to deal with them. This kind of marriage can be said to be very dull. If you want to keep a certain mystery in your marriage, you need to leave a lot of areas for each other to discuss and maintain their feelings.

Let me sum up: between husband and wife, the most painful three hurdles, many people can not even carry the first one! As the saying goes, falling in love is easier than getting along. It is easy for two people to fall in love. But after entering married life, it became a matter for two families. When falling in love, couples are always full of enthusiasm and try their best to show their happiest side. When they really get married, two people who become husband and wife don't have to be afraid of losing each other, and their nature is slowly exposed, just to survive the novelty of their first marriage.

Husband and wife will enter the running-in period, and then struggle together during the running-in period to get the firmness of love and marriage. On the contrary, couples may feel that marriage is different from what they want. Married life will change the quality of love, and then gain negative logical thinking in a hazy state of mind, so that feelings will move towards separation. We firmly believe that no one wants to see such an ending, so in a marriage, we can be discouraged and chilling, but never forget our long-term vision. We should remember that love pays and maintains each other. Only in this way can our marriage life be more perfect and the feelings between husband and wife be stronger.