As soon as you open your mouth, the boys stop talking. How can we break this embarrassing situation?

A common mistake people make is to guess what others need, such as "I thought you would agree" and "I thought you liked it", instead of asking them directly. Chatting may happen at this time, because your guess is not always right. The solution to this problem is to take less for granted and more for sure. When you are conveying information, you need to confirm whether the other person has clearly understood the information you want to convey, whether you need to ask questions, and whether he agrees or disagrees with your point of view.

It is an essential skill to learn to express your views clearly and firmly, or to "sing the opposite" directly. In China culture, we are often taught to be "moderate" and "harmonious". But in the process of working and interacting with people, you need to express your opinions directly, especially when you hold negative opinions. Don't maintain a false "peace" for fear of conflict.

Don't mistake "direct" expression for "offensive". Direct expression and "offending" are very different ways of expressing opinions. Direct expression is constructive and insightful; And attacks are often emotional. When communicating in work and life, we need to discuss the event itself, instead of wrapping ourselves and each other with emotions. The more you communicate about important things, the more you should ensure that your response is calm, not emotional.

On the matter, expand the scope of discussion without affectation. Many times, a communication has turned into a dispute because this discussion has already jumped out of the original scope and spread to other aspects. When you give feedback, don't turn this expression into a personal attack on the other party, divorced from the facts being discussed, and criticize the other party's personal character and behavior. For example, because you know that the other person has had some inappropriate behavior in his private life, you say "you are an asshole" and "you have a personality problem, so I don't agree with you", which is a very serious cross-border behavior.

? Don't always try to "win" the discussion. Communication is not a competition, nor an exam. There is no such thing as "winning" or "losing". Whether you are members of the same team, partners, friends or lovers, your communication goal is the same-let the other party understand their information and express their views in the most efficient way. No one is always right. When the other party puts forward negative opinions, always remember not to rush to correct the other party. Your purpose is not to convince the other party to accept your point of view, but to think about what you can get from other people's points of view. When you find yourself wrong, you should be brave enough to admit it. Admitting mistakes is not weakness, but maturity.