He just treated that quarrel as an ordinary quarrel? You don't really want to leave, do you?

According to the two screenshots you posted, it seems that he doesn't really want to break up with you, but I was also thinking, aren't you tired of quarreling for three years?

Don't put the words "together for a long time" on this pot. Not that we've been together for a long time. In fact, falling in love is quite complicated, but sometimes it is quite simple. The simplicity lies in breaking up or continuing. You want him to change, too, so that he doesn't always say cruel words and swear words to you, but he won't change, right? He said it was a personality problem, but he said his personality didn't hurt you. Do you agree with him? If you really don't think his personality has hurt you, you can't mention it many times to make him change, can you? In other words, he didn't realize his character at all. This way of dealing with problems will hurt you. Can't you explain it to him if he doesn't realize it himself? Did you tell him clearly that his so-called personality problem really hurt you?

I don't know what you two are arguing about, so I don't know whose fault it is, whether it's your irrationality or his problem. But girls are all the same. No matter what two people quarrel, girls always hope that the other half can be more patient when quarreling, and hope that their boyfriends can coax themselves. Which girl wants her boyfriend to be cruel to herself all the time? It seems that you must love him very much, otherwise you won't take the initiative to take the lead in every quarrel. Isn't taking the initiative to lose him?

How humble you really love! So humble that even after the quarrel, you dare not ask him what he meant, but go online to ask unsuspecting netizens for help. Why are you so humble?

Just like a netizen who replied to you said, are you really unable to live without him? Personality problems can be really hard to change. How much does it have to do with personality to not love a person and not care about a person now?

My husband has a bad temper, little patience and a stupid mouth. He doesn't like and is not good at cheating, but he has never broken up with me and never divorced. Although sometimes he doesn't know what he did wrong when we quarreled, when he saw me angry, he would hold his temper and lie to me first. He is afraid that I will be angry and make himself angry. Even if he quarrels occasionally, he will say a few rude words and definitely apologize afterwards.

Don't you think you're a little too used to your boyfriend, taking your personality as a cover and hurting you with reckless words, do you still think it's not hurt? No matter who is right or wrong in every quarrel, even if every quarrel is because you are unreasonable, can he be cruel to you?

You said that you two had been arguing for more than 20 days and ignored each other, and you still had to take the initiative to find him. He is really cool! If you don't take the initiative, will he ignore you all his life? For three years, you made him form the habit of waiting for you to make up as long as he quarreled, so he didn't think it necessary to change his personality. Anyway, if he doesn't change, you can't help it and you won't leave him. Then why should he bother to change himself? Don't you think so? Isn't that what the so-called love and arrogance mean?

If you really want him to get rid of this bad habit, you should make him feel a sense of crisis. You should make him realize that his behavior has hurt you. You have put up with it for three years and don't want to put up with it any longer. He has a sense of crisis when he thinks that he will really lose you if he keeps talking like this.

Do you want to gamble? Is it a joke to bet on whether he has you in his heart or not and whether your three-year relationship is a joke? How to gamble? It's simple. Just ask him if he can stop being cruel to you in the future, if he can stop talking about his character, if he can stop quarreling for so many days after two people quarrel, and if he will take the initiative to contact you after quarreling once. You can say that if he can't do it, then you really broke up with him. If he doesn't believe me, you refuse to say that you really want to break up with him and wait for him to contact you.

If he really has you in his heart, when he realizes that you are serious, he will panic, he will come to you on his own initiative, and he will probably put it down and make changes for you, because he doesn't want to lose you, but if he mistakenly thinks that you are really going to break up, he will still not bow his head, come to you on his own initiative, or even change his bad habits, which proves that you are simply dispensable in his heart. Can you bet? When you dare not, you have already lost.

Once possessed by the other party, there are only two endings, either waiting for yourself to give up, or waiting for one day when he is hurt enough to love him no longer, he will naturally give up, or he will be abandoned by the other party. You have been afraid that he will really break up with you, but if he doesn't love you so much, then he will kick you out, which means sooner or later.

Think for yourself! Love really needs tolerance and accommodation, but it can't just be put down. If you love so lowly, the other person can still take you seriously, that's a ghost. More than twenty days after the cold war, you took the initiative to find him. You look at his tone as if everything is in the bag, as if everything is in his expectation, as if he is a father who educates his daughter. I can see that you are still coquetry, but it seems that your coquetry doesn't matter to him.

Tell the judge that some couples quarrel all day. Although they swear and swear at each other, they are still in love and have a good relationship, but that's the way they communicate.

But if you don't adapt to this way of communication, this way of love, you will feel very tired, or at a certain moment, you will feel very wronged. In the long run, you will not only love humbleness, but also love injustice. Now you're just in love. Have you ever thought about getting married? What if you have children after cheating and let them watch you two curse all day? Think clearly, too many people get married without thinking clearly these days, and too many people want to divorce after having children. Those who think twice before marriage may not get there, don't you think?

You take the initiative to make peace because you are afraid of losing, but in the eyes of others, you are like a child who has done something wrong. Isn't it ridiculous to ask him for forgiveness when you know you're wrong? Why should he condescend? Why compromise again and again? Love yourself before you love someone. You don't even think how important you are. What makes him think you are?