Don't be silly. If you lose yourself in love, no one will sympathize with you.

Don't be silly. If you lose yourself in love, no one will sympathize with you.

Do you have such a problem: in feelings, your love is getting more and more humble, and even you have lost yourself. 90% of girls will gradually become humble in love. What caused it? Pay too much attention to each other's emotions, ignore the feelings of self, fundamentally disagree with yourself, don't be stupid again, and change the "cowardly mentality" when you are in love! !

First, what is the "weak mentality"?

I care too much about each other's emotions and feelings in my feelings, and always focus on each other's thoughts, ignoring my feelings and thoughts, resulting in a sense of unworthiness ..... putting myself in the position of the weak.

I know that I really love each other, so I want to give him the best and always treat him well. This is not wrong, but don't forget that you are still in this relationship, and feelings are also very important.

Second, how to change the mentality of the weak and have healthy and long-term love.

1. We want to grow into a person with an independent personality. We should know ourselves correctly, know our bottom line, know where our boundaries are, and reject all behaviors that break through the bottom line. In any relationship, we will always be the first.

Of course, there is nothing wrong with our giving, but whether you love him or want to return, you should feel good. When you give because you love each other, the process of giving will actually make you feel nourished.

3. Change yourself. It's okay to be better, but don't force yourself to change because of the other half. I'm fine now. I change because I want to be better. Don't doubt yourself. I am liked because we deserve it.

Two equal people and two independent personalities love each other, which is the healthiest and longest secret of love. Complete self-growth, grow up separately and stand side by side, which is what love looks like.