Friends and relatives have a party. Should they ignore me?

To what extent is the enemy? If it's a family conflict that outsiders rarely know about, go ahead. After all, how can you say that you are related when you put on a banquet? If you don't go, it's easy to cause people's tongue roots. Look at those two families, they are relatives, but he didn't come to the table, and no matter how many enemies he has, you should do enough to save face and not let outsiders grab the conversation.

If the enemy is badly hurt and outsiders know it, don't go. Out of sight, out of mind. . .