Do you believe in the word "No Ji Tai Lai"?

I accidentally opened the space and saw a comment: Do you believe in the word "Fu Ji Tai Lai"? Anyway, I always believed it before. The general meaning of this sentence is: I'm a little doubtful now, right? In my understanding, "failed to achieve great success" should be a complimentary word. Not sure what it meant, I googled it: When bad things come to an end, good things will come. Tang Bai Juyi's poem "Qinghuai": "When happiness goes, it will be sad, but when it comes, it is still not the best." Fou (pǐ): refers to defeat. Tai: refers to success. Fu and Tai are two hexagram names in the Book of Changes. I thought to myself: Isn’t this similar to phrases such as “All hardships come with joy”, “A blessing in disguise”, “You will gain only if you put in the effort”, etc.? So, I wrote a comment: When I listened to a person tell me about his situation for ten years, I realized that the pain we have experienced has just begun. Life is tempering us step by step. All good things will come as expected, just wait patiently.

We are still working part-time before we have an internship, but we feel physically and mentally exhausted. This shows how difficult it is to live in society. The person mentioned above who told me about his changes over the past ten years is a guitar teacher I met during my part-time job. He is about 30 years old, from Hainan, and is living alone in Wuhan. In terms of music, he is not a professional, but his level is still good. The teacher here said that he is self-taught, and I admire him from the bottom of my heart. After all, music has not been systematically learned since childhood, and it will not be easy to learn by yourself in the future. Listen to what he said: He majored in construction engineering and was eliminated in the interview. Feeling that life was very tiring, I went to work as an assistant in a piano class, then learned to read music and practiced by myself at night, which took a lot of time. I also figured out the guitar step by step. I worked for my boss for several years, but my salary never increased, so last year I opened my own shop and became the owner. My salary has increased from 700 to 800 per month at the beginning to more than 10,000 now. What exactly makes him so explosive? It turned out that during these ten years, his girlfriend of more than four years left him. At that time, he suffered a heavy blow. In the days when he was broken up, he thought repeatedly and suddenly realized that he was almost thirty years old, his family was destitute, and he had nothing. No wonder his girlfriend left him and ran away with someone else. As a result, he worked hard and achieved the life he has now. Although it is not particularly good, it is developing in a good direction.

To be honest, this guitar teacher is quite funny. When you first meet him, you will find that he is very rude and his smile is unreal. And when he laughs, he will stare at you and shake his head, as if he wants to take advantage of you. But if you think about it carefully, if he is really the kind of person described, how could he have such an understanding and do such a good job in his career? From this point of view, he is definitely not a simple character.

He smiled and talked to me, and then praised me. Because he is the kind of person who flatters everyone when he meets him, so I said: You can become an actor. Maybe make more money than now. He said: Yes! At first, it cost 80 yuan a day to be a group performer. After saying that, he also made a pose. Then I said with an unwilling tone: I don’t even have 80 yuan a day! He added: I had to pay the price with my life. Although the gun was fake, the shock was real. I was taking an English test paper and he said why I made so many mistakes. I said that after two years, I have forgotten most of the voice and tense. Later, we talked about my boyfriend again. He was sorry to learn that I had never had a boyfriend. He also said, why did you go to high school? I said that I was in a key high school at that time, and our education was very strict. I had no time to fall in love, and I didn’t even dare to think about it. As a result, he asked me, "Why did you do so poorly in the exam?" I reluctantly said that I like to think wildly, have poor mental quality, and am easily worried and anxious. So I didn’t do well in the exam. After that, he said something: It's useless for you to worry, you might as well learn everything you can learn now. You wonder why you met me and not someone else. Somewhere along the way, God will lead you to where you should go. I once had nothing, but through my own efforts, haven’t I become better now? So, calm down, don’t worry too much, take one step at a time, be down-to-earth, and you will have the life you want. After that, he said a joke, "I've booked you now. If you want me to be your boyfriend in the future, you can come to my store to find me." I was so stupid at the time, knowing that it was a joke, Seriously, you are just an older brother at best. He smiled and said, OK, then you can call me (name + brother) from now on. I shouldn't have said that, it made me look down on him.

After all, he lost the person he loved deeply. How could I shatter this beautiful dream he told me!

I finally understood that "No Ji Tai Lai" is for everyone, but it is not for everyone. Not everyone will have a solid line. You may not get anything if you work hard, but you won't get anything if you don't work hard. Only those who know how to persevere and work hard without forgetting their original aspirations will have good luck following them. Therefore, luck is accumulated bit by bit by people~