From June to July, the reading camp resumed the "Oh Card Mental Healing".

The first time I came into contact with this book was in the final book recommendation of the college students' mental growth camp, because my direction is painting psychology. I have heard of OH card but have never experienced it, so I don't know much about it. When I first opened this book, I was attracted by the cases in it, especially the cases combined with painting therapy, which made me fondle admiringly! To be different, I must combine with other schools, give full play to the function of painting, and give painters a deeper experience!

Later, I borrowed this little book from the library and couldn't wait to read it. What is the OH card in this book? Oh, the principle of cards? Oh, card classification? And the application cases of OH card in various fields? In several aspects, it shows us the magic card!

Let's talk about my feelings about reading the whole book! I only watched half of Greed last month. At the beginning of the month, I struggled to return it. Fortunately, I returned all the other books, except this little one. Small is on the one hand, you can watch it on the train back to your hometown and carry it when you go out for study and training; On the other hand, I think the gold content of this book is small and refined, and it is worth it!

The author himself is a master of spiritual healing. With delicate writing, she wrote her own understanding of family background, intimate relationship, parent-child relationship, relationship with inner children, relationship with money and so on. Basically, every paragraph is a golden sentence! There are many cases listed in the book, all of which are deep-rooted without superficial formality, giving me an emotional and touching feeling! At the same time, I have also consulted or used the oh card as a reference. I don't have such a set of cards in my hand at present. I really want to try it. I can't wait to use it right away!

The following is the specific content of reading in June:

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Oh, the card is an incredible self-help tool, which comes from "Oh, that's incredible!" It is the best tool to prove that "all laws are against people's will". The same card is interpreted by the same owner at different times, and its image and meaning are completely different. It is a mirror that shines into our subconscious, and can be used together with tools such as painting, music, dance, hypnosis and family planning.

The book lists several pictures. Different cases have completely different feelings and ideas at different times, which leads to their own inner stories and opens a window for healing.

Oh, the card is open, right or wrong, and has no fixed meaning ... it is a very good tool to present the inner truth. It is helpful to break the inherent thinking mode, express style and open people's sympathy and empathy.

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The psychological principle of Oh card;

1. iceberg theory-consciousness, pre-consciousness, subconscious; Id, ego, superego. People's psychology is like an iceberg floating on the sea, and a small part of it exposed to the water is consciousness, that is, the psychological part that can be perceived at any time; Most of what is hidden under the water is the subconscious, which is the basis of consciousness and the internal driving force behind the instinct and desire that drives our behavior; Pre-consciousness is between subconscious and consciousness, and it stores the memories that we won't realize at a certain moment, but can easily summon consciousness. Id is the most primitive instinct of human beings, and it is unconscious. Self is the conscious part of personality, and it is the rational, conscious and realistic id. The superego is the moralized self that is different from the self. Freud believed that these three systems are a harmonious and unified whole for a mentally sound person; On the other hand, if the three systems of personality are difficult to coordinate and conflict with each other, people will often be in an abnormal state, the efficiency of activities will be reduced, and even the survival and development of people will be endangered.

2. Emotional ABC theory-Stimulating event A is only the indirect cause of result C, and the direct cause of stimulating event C is the belief generated by individual's cognition and evaluation of stimulating event A. For the same event A, because different people have different beliefs and explanations, they will also get different results c 1c2. When people persist in some unreasonable beliefs and stay in a bad emotional state for a long time, it will eventually lead to emotional disorders.

3. Empathy and projection. Empathy is an unconscious experience of the status quo, with an early model, and empathy is an emotion. Projection is a psychological process of attributing unacceptable thoughts, feelings and behaviors to others. Projection is a kind of cognition. Empathy and projection are independent but influence each other, and often accompany each other.

In fact, the principle of painting psychology and oh card is exactly the same.

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How to use the oh card:

Prepare (environment, mood)

Shuffle (break up, shuffle, arc, spread out),

Draw a card, (left hand, subconscious)

Select the card, (right hand, consciousness)

Arrangements, (at any angle, have the right not to open or explain)

Arrangement, (the arrangement can be fixed or arranged at will according to the needs of users)

Interpretation (What do you see? what do you think? How do you feel? )

Oh, card reading technology;

1. Association method-Relate some characters to the scene, describe what happened in the scene, and perceive the emotional changes, feelings and understanding in the process.

2. Construction method-combining painting, put the picture card in a proper position on the paper, and then unfold a picture and tell a story according to the picture card.

3. Completion method-suitable for group games, according to the map card, free play, quickly add a sentence, a question, a story, etc.

4. Change your mind-think about the problem you want to explore, draw a word card (or write), draw a picture card, and associate feelings. Ask yourself, "Really? Are you absolutely sure this is true? How do you react when you have this idea? What benefits will it bring you? How do you feel when you don't think so What would you do? What kind of person are you? "

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Life is always in the process of breakthrough. If it doesn't pass, it will reappear in another environment, and it will continue to be ng. Psychoanalysis also explains this. A better environment can only provide a better job, and living conditions cannot make one's internal development better. Life is displayed from the inside out, creating by hook or by crook, happening now and accepting now, which is beautiful.

Mr. Feng Zikai divides people's life into three layers: material life, spiritual life and soul life.

The author of this book divides work into three layers: work ~ career ~ ambition. On the first floor, busy work is to support the family. Second, invest time, energy and money to create inner ideals and goals, and enjoy the joy of creation, but seeking outside will be swallowed up by material desires. You are like a hamster spinning on the rim. On the third level, the painful environment forces them to go deeper into their hearts, get close to and perceive their true selves, constantly improve their consciousness, enrich their experiences and increase their wisdom. They realize that the inner mission of life journey is awakening and unity, and understand the ultimate goal and vision of this life, so they can really experience their inner satisfaction. The third level is what we call practice, and work is one of the best practice Dojo.

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Oh, card, the journey of life

1. I

2. Resources and dignitaries that can be integrated

3. Violation of fate or obstacles encountered in the journey.

4. Solutions and methods

5. The purpose and meaning of life

Explore, perceive, feel, and talk to the subconscious.

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Many people hurt themselves because of some unfortunate childhood experiences or the way their parents handled it at that time, so they hid their unfortunate childhood in the subconscious and had confrontation, resistance and even hatred for their parents.

Go make peace with your parents! No matter what your parents did for you at that time, they made the best choice and arrangement at that time in that situation.

See those parents who caused their own misfortune. They don't want to be the ones who hurt you and ruin your childhood. It's just that they haven't learned to love and don't know how to express it. Even if they make you unhappy at first, the inner motivation actually comes from love and protection.

Everyone comes to this world only through the channels of their parents, bearing the energy of their parents. Parents are the source of life. If you hate your parents, you can't connect with the source of your own life, you can't find the way back to the root, and you can't be happy.

It is possible that your parents are not as perfect and considerate as others, but they gave you life, which is the greatest gift in this life. They are the most suitable parents.

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Healing the relationship with mom is to heal the relationship with everyone.

Healing the relationship with dad is the relationship between healing and money career.

When you feel uncomfortable, take out your oh card and talk to yourself!

Reflection: These two books by Ben Harle are very classic. Perhaps because of my greed and limited time, I haven't finished reading them, so I still have to learn from them. If I spend 15 minutes every day and read only one book, it will be more complete!

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There are three ways for animals to cope with danger: fighting, running away and freezing (numbness). Sometimes numbness is the most appropriate means of self-protection, which can make us feel neither pain nor joy. Remember to thaw.

When you grow up, when you can look at the past in a different way, when you have a heart that can empathize with others. Just as life is at different stages, the pain that was considered unbearable at that time has already turned into a long sweetness. As long as you are willing to turn this heart, as long as you are no longer tossing and turning in the game between the victim and the rescuer.

The healing of the planetary energy hymn bowl

Empty chair therapy

Oh, card mind map card

Family system arrangement

Oh, card, explore and solve problems

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Nine pits in intimate relationships.

The first one must find the right person from the beginning.

In fact, everyone is the same, and finally we have to face ourselves.

The second one. Change the object.

You changed your marriage partner, and the problem still exists. It's just that his question has been postponed. It's just that we seem to have a problem on the surface. In fact, as time goes on, real problems will arise. There is no way.

Third. I have to save this marriage.

Actually, it doesn't matter if you can get it back. The important thing is to be kind to yourself when you meet anything. Your marriage naturally has a direction.

Fourth, it's all his fault. Each of us should be responsible for ourselves, don't blame others blindly. We must deal with our emotions.

The fifth marriage is like a stagnant pool, which can only be aroused by finding an affair.

In fact, what we need is not an affair, but courage. You need courage to break through your comfort zone and enter a new field, so that you can meet and see a new world.

The sixth. True love. When I found the perfect partner, true love really came. There is no perfect partner in the world. Only by filling your own shortcomings can you get a satisfactory marriage.

Seventh, I want a harmonious family atmosphere. I don't want to quarrel. As soon as we fight, I run.

In fact, quarreling is normal, so you should know how to deal with emotions.

The eighth. I can't tell him the truth. Telling the truth hurts.

In fact, if you don't tell, the other party will never know. Sometimes you have to tell the truth. Just say it, and we'll say it in a reasonable way. And then let off steam.

Ninth, I have to follow him in everything.

This is not right, blindly accommodating will make you feel wronged. All kinds of grievances in my heart. So be brave enough to say no.

In fact, many people don't know it in the pit.

The last sentence you said was so good that I can't remember it clearly, except for two sentences: there is no one in the world who is completely suitable for us. Only by loving yourself and accepting your inner perfection can you have enough energy to love others, see others pleasing to the eye and love the world.

Explore the intimate relationship with oh card;

1. Draw a card from the adult card to represent yourself.

2. Then select a representative partner from the adult card.

3. Take out a picture card from the relationship interactive card of the adult card and put it between the above two cards, representing the partner mode of two people.

4. Take one from Tuccari, the partner card. Represents the current intimate relationship between yourself and your partner.

5. Draw a card from the signpost card of your partner card to represent your relationship with your partner and adjust your direction.

6. Think about how to achieve a balanced and harmonious intimate relationship.

Case 1, female man and weak husband, the dislocation of intimate relationship, do not know how to let go, but both sides are very painful.

In the second case, the husband cheated on 16, and the son was addicted to the internet all day, and he was a big momma for the family. He endured humiliation for more than ten years and was miserable.

Choose the card in the word card to represent the theme she wants to explore. The "victim" drawn from the children's card is actually a little girl who loves to laugh. Looking at the girl quietly, I found that I always thought I was a victim. In fact, I was an offender and my husband was also a victim. Continue to draw cards from the children's cards. As your inner child, draw another child's card to represent your husband's children. Feel the map card, understand your husband, and see your own shortcomings and her husband's needs.

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Children are not our accessories, they just come into this world through us. The premise of establishing a good parent-child relationship is that parents learn to grow up first.

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Accepting my mother has crossed 30 years of fear.

Give up the mother who always expects herself to be knowledgeable and reasonable, and give up the inner child who pursues to make herself better.

When our bodies are getting taller, our skin is getting wrinkled and our age is getting older, does our heart really grow up? When we are trapped in the injured inner child, we still look at our parents with the eyes of that era, cling to the prejudice against our parents, and let ourselves curl up in the role of victims, then we lose many opportunities to grow up and become ourselves.

Talk to yourself with the oh card, link with the subconscious self, find the root of the matter, talk to yourself and heal yourself.

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Worried that my parents are not doing well, I chose to break up with my boyfriend.

The cure begins with a painting.

Choose any color and draw your current state.

Black is a kind of heavy energy. Dreaming more is the result of suppressing usual depression. The subconscious is presented in the form of dreams. Request to be seen released)

(Big stick figure, this is an adult stuck in childhood. Naive, unhappy and insecure. I can't see the gender, and I don't agree that I am a woman. I hope I can bear the burden of the family like a son and let my parents live a good life. )

Drawing cards from children's cards represents inner children. Put it anywhere on the picture, connect it with the picture and the picture card, and guide him to speak subconsciously. Is the child in the photo you? How old are you in the intuitive picture? Are you happy at four o'clock? You are far from home in the photo. Do you want to go home? Feel it. Where do you want to go? )

Draw a card from the adult card to represent your boyfriend. Put it anywhere in the picture.

Draw a close relationship with your boyfriend.

What kind of inner world do you feel when you enter your boyfriend's body? What will he say to you?

Two chairs, the left represents the ex-boyfriend and the right represents the new possibility. Try to walk slowly, you may not get any results. Listen to your inner voice and give yourself more time.

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Parent-child relationship, card

1. Select a card, the current interactive mode with children (adult card interactive card).

? Points represent several people, and hairstyles represent members.

2. Draw cards according to the score.

Me (adult tuka or oh tuka)

Children (children's map card or oh map card)

3. Contact everyone, check your psychological reaction and feel everyone's emotional changes.

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Healing the relationship between husband and wife from parent-child relationship

Children are the mirror of the family, and parents' problems are reflected in children. In a partnership, no matter what choice you and your husband make, you need to tell your children that no matter what happens to us, we love you and our own destiny is up to us. You just need to be a child with peace of mind.

With your permission and blessing, let the children move forward with confidence and live happily. This is something that parents can do. As for your relationship, you have to work hard to solve it yourself!

Case:

Why choose this interactive mode?

Parents are on both sides of the child, with two arrows.

Let the mother realize that she is alienated from her husband, and she is too lazy to communicate directly, all in order to let the children take a message.

The couple are not only far apart, but also face in opposite directions.

The son, who had been standing among them, was very angry and shouted, don't be so noisy again!

Thinking that the cold war has made my son so miserable in recent years, I have been calling on my parents to pay attention to him in various ways, even using extreme behaviors such as smoking, truancy, internet addiction, puppy love and fighting to attract their attention and save my marriage.

"Zero Limit" Dialogue

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A caring child usually rushes to fill the vacancy of a partner next to a single parent.

If it is a child of the opposite sex, this child can easily become an emotional spouse of a single parent. So there may be a daughter who is sensible and precocious. Or a precocious son. In fact, being sensible and precocious is not necessarily a good thing. Many emotions are suppressed and can't be seen.

Single parents and same-sex children are also easy to form a pattern of confrontation and entanglement.

Such dislocation can easily cause trouble to the emotional life of parents and children, especially the intimate relationship of children.

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Every child loves his father and mother. If these two forces are combined because of parents' love and good interaction, children will be healthy, happy, harmonious, cheerful and sunny. If one of these two forces is lacking, or if it is maliciously restricted by single parents to fight against slander, the child will have a torn wound in his heart.

Children use their own life course of struggle, struggle, anger and reconciliation to express the hidden secrets of children in a divorced family, which is a different expression of longing for love and hoping to be concerned by their parents.

In a broken family, parents are the first to mature. Respect each other's company, understand each other's limitations and accept each other as they are. Instead of slandering each other and limiting the way children communicate with each other, they can stop and deny previous contacts. Please take good care of the child and tell him sincerely that you just need to be a child and we will solve our own problems. Whatever happens between us, please believe that we all love you. We will keep a child's position for you in our hearts, and please keep a parent's position for us in our hearts.

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The child's wrong behavior may reflect the relationship between parents. The child stood between his parents and refused to leave. In fact, he is worried about the relationship between his parents and wants to isolate them.

Seeing is the beginning of healing, and returning to everyone is the starting point of harmony and smoothness.

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Explore my relationship with money

Many of us have this feeling. When it comes to money, we always feel insecure: either you think money is scarce and always not enough; Either it is difficult to make money, and hard work really can't be rewarded; Either try to make money, but with money, you won't feel happy; Or afraid that money will make the men in the family bad ... and so on.

These feelings about money may be related to the projection of our parents' attitude towards money in childhood.

Through superficial dialogue, we can understand what happened when we were young, which led to our attitude towards money now, and examine how our parents' view of money influenced us.

Repairing the trauma connected with our father, regaining the power transmitted by our father and reconciling with money will make us more confident and powerful on the road of life!

Look, the treatment is about to start! Pain needs to surface, need to be seen, need to be cured, and finally it is discovered that all pain is behind the desire for love.

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Why can't I keep the money?

Money is not a pile, but emotional energy, which will flow to places with love.

Many times, money has something to do with some people in family of origin. When we open our hearts, respect him, allow him to flow freely, stop grabbing and controlling, and untie the rope that suffocates him, richness and abundance will really appear in our lives.

Just relax。

Choose three word cards. (If not, write it on a blank card. )

Draw three cards

Feel how each card makes you feel.

Continue to draw cards and understand why the relationship with money is stormy.

Draw a map card to represent the boss and himself.

Draw a partner card to represent the relationship between the boss and himself.

Select the internal daughter card.

Feel the feeling of each card.

Take out the oh card and find out why my mother is holding me and shaking with fear.

Hypnosis Look at what happened when I was ten years old, over one year old, and when I was a child.

Spiritual arrangement.

Stand in front of the money and show him who is opposite. Do you want to go by yourself?

Stand in front of your ancestors, will they bless you? Willing to let you live a different life from them?

Go to your parents, will they bless you? Willing to let you live a different life from them? My mother's attitude is different. After repeating it three or four times, she was unwilling to accept the role of daughter. After difficult communication and reconciliation, my mother reluctantly agreed.

Look at yourself in the future after two years. What kind of picture do you see? Please remember this photo, it will be the source of your strength.

Looking back at these cards, does each card have a different feeling?

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Find your lost self and call back your inner child.

Many people passively accept the "obedient, obedient" instilled by their parents and teachers as the evaluation standard of good children. They "don't be naive" prematurely, resist the true feelings of young hearts, and "be mature". They are gradually separated from their inner children and lost, which leads to negative childhood experiences and continues to interfere with the lives of adults. When these painful old scars are uncovered, they usually blame others, close themselves up and respond hysterically, causing greater entanglement and confusion. If the inner child is not treated and cleaned up in time, it will often cause difficulties and obstacles in various relationships in adulthood. The ability to care for and care for others is not developed, and the ability to love oneself and respect others is also lacking. After becoming a parent, it is difficult to play a nourishing parent, and even form a cycle of abuse.

Therefore, it is necessary to talk to the subconscious, enter the subconscious to find suitable scenes, and reshape the feelings that people once had in childhood, especially the feelings about getting along with their parents. For example, when I was a child, some basic needs were not met, but I had experiences of horror, regret, fright, abandonment and discrimination. So I saw the injured inner child wrapped in fear, anxiety, worry, fear, shame, guilt, injustice and other emotions, hiding somewhere crying, shrinking, expecting to be seen, heard, accepted, hugged, loved, cared for and brought back.

When the inner children feel concerned and safe company, they will naturally enhance their individual self-esteem and sense of individual value, reduce self-pity and self-hatred, and enhance their ability of self-love and masturbation through negative emotions in shallow consciousness. So as to be able to relax freely, achieve complete physical and mental integration with adults themselves, get out of the illusion of maturity and move towards real maturity.

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Tracing back to the source, connecting the inner children in all directions.

Word selection card

What do you see? what do you think?

How do you feel? Is it uncomfortable?

Draw children's cards and explore the obstacles and roots in "growth" and "success"

Who is this? What do you think?

What did you see and hear? What kind of dialogue do you have?

Now go and see why success makes you uncomfortable.

Who is this? How old is it?

Ask her what she is doing.

Ask her where her father went.

Ask the little girl how she feels now.

What does it feel like to look at those cards again?

Reconciliation with inner children

Gratitude, accompany growth

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Entering the subconscious with the license plate of the oh card, I traveled back 30 years and saw the inner child who felt guilty because he couldn't say his last words to his mother. He stood where he was, shrouded in fear. When he brought the inner child home and became one with her, she found the source of potential strength.

Brave heart, as bright as sunshine, a thousand years of dark room, a lamp is bright.

Take you face to face with life and be responsible for your choice now. There is no fixed card meaning, go deep into the subconscious. He not only lets you see the superficial phenomenon of events, but more likely, he can let you know the internal reasons and motives.

The script of life is written, directed, performed and watched by us. The oh card allows you to see clearly which drama and scene is being staged at the moment. If you don't want to repeat the cycle, it's time to revise the script of the old play.

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An uncontrollable sense of material deprivation in the heart.

Also derived from cowardice, poor execution, care about paying, unwilling to share, jealousy and so on.

Draw your current feelings about money.

Draw your ideal money state.

Ask your parents and yourself if they are children or adults.

Choose yourself in turn, mom and dad.

To connect with each card, what does it feel like to see the map card? Look where their eyes are. What did they see?

Arrange these three cards (family arrangement)

Draw grandpa, grandma, grandpa, grandma.

Feel every card.

Stick these seven pictures on the table and arrange them.

(subconsciously throwing grandpa and grandpa's cards out, so disgusting. )

Continue to draw cards to represent the ancestors of the paternal family.

Rearrange all the cards.

After the cure, I can accept grandpa and grandpa's tuka.

Now all the family members solemnly introduce themselves in front of them: "I am someone and someone's child, and I am a girl." You are older than me. Thank you for passing on your life from generation to generation. I will pass on your support and love to my descendants. I will use the resources and wealth you gave me to help others. If my life is different from yours, please allow me. I really miss live high! "

Stand up and turn to face your future.

Put the ideal state of money you just drew where you have taken a few steps forward and see if you can get closer to it.

Stand here, close your eyes and see who is by your side. Where are you? What are you doing? What is it like?

Whenever you need support in the future, remember the feeling at this time. The warmth and strength on your back will make you return to a state full of energy at this moment!

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Describe your inner child in the form of painting and feel how old she is. Then what happened?

Draw your own, parents' cards (from family), contact them and feel the reactions of different parts of your body.

Draw a picture of home in your mind.

Draw the cards of current family members (reborn family), my husband and I, my parents, my husband's parents and our two children.

Put them in the position they think is suitable, and feel everyone's feelings and moods in that position.

Heal the inner child, re-introduce yourself in front of your ancestors, and introduce your husband and children. )

Reorder the cards and experience everyone's feelings and situations.

Once again, the painter appeared.

You will find that everything will be different and your inner child will grow up!

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Before the case:? Very anxious, almost 29 years old, I feel that my life has reached a bottleneck, and my feelings and work are not satisfactory.

Draw children's cards and parents' cards.

Contact with parents

Draw grandparents' cards

Make a family system arrangement

Choose five cards "dream, fatigue, mother, affection, apology"

Draw five cards in turn and link them separately.

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Obey reconciliation, respect and acceptance, and take this as a starting point.

Six character cards are screened out and the corresponding graphic cards are extracted.

Relax and feel every card and every word.

Are you in there? What are you doing? Why did you stab dad with a dagger? What kind of anger and resentment is that? What does it remind you of?

Guide back to the mother's womb, re-heal the unexpected and unwelcome wounds at birth, lie in the mother's stomach, and play happily with four feet up, feeling very safe. When I was born, my teacher instructed me to climb over the dark and long birth canal with my feet down, and I had to walk out with difficulty. I saw the welcome and blessings from my parents and many people. ...

Listen to your partner's heart and see that he is also a child suffering. The injury of coming from a family made him hide in the dark world and couldn't get out. The previous understanding was too superficial, and he would only ask for his love with complaints and accusations. How do two children with inner deficiency give each other warmth? Two people who can't express and lack love are just children who are deeply eager for love and warmth!

Gratitude releases resentment towards parents, learns to accept and yield, and lets go of the unbearable. ...