Talk to the ceremony

There are many customs and habits circulating in rural areas of our country, among which accompanying ceremony has become an unwritten rule. Anyone who has a happy event or a funeral will come to congratulate, get together, have a drink, chat at home and accompany a ceremony. Even in our daily life, we often encounter the situation of obeying etiquette, which has now become a very common phenomenon.

However, following the ceremony is also a science, not so simple, and there are many stresses. We can not follow the ceremony, but we must not follow the ceremony in disorder. If you don't pay attention to the etiquette mistakes, it will be embarrassing, which will not only make the host unhappy, but also lead to a bad ending sometimes. Our ancestors also summed up a common saying about following the ceremony, including one: "Don't send cigarettes in the world, make it up after the funeral." What do you mean? With the ceremony, I also learned, and my knowledge increased.

Let's talk about the reasons for not sending cigarettes first. In everyone's eyes, 60 years old has entered old age, which was considered to be a long life in the past. At this time, the family will plan to celebrate the birthday of the elderly, which is also a happy event. Relatives and friends will also come to congratulate him and have dinner together. At this time, everyone will come up with their own gifts to congratulate the elderly on their longevity. Some people give money directly, mostly carefully selected gifts, but there is one thing that can't be given, and that is cigarettes. Why?

In fact, the ancients had many taboos. You can't send cigarettes because cigarettes and the word "pharynx" of death are the same pronunciation, so it is very unlucky to send cigarettes. In the eyes of the ancients, it means to let him die early. Therefore, the elderly must not give cigarettes on their birthdays. This is a big no-no. If the old man sees it, he will think it is cursing him and will make the old man unhappy. It was originally a happy event, but it may end in discord and offend people. Therefore, no matter how expensive cigarettes are, I know they are well-intentioned, but I can't send them at this time.

How to understand the loss without making up for it? Funeral means the death of a family member, which is very sad for a family. As the last ceremony of life, family members usually attach great importance to it and hold a grand funeral. When friends and relatives learn the news, they will come to attend and express their condolences to their loved ones. However, when you go to the funeral, you should also follow the ceremony, but if someone goes in a hurry or forgets to follow the ceremony for other reasons, don't make up for it after the funeral.

Then why not make it up later? In fact, if you think about it carefully, you will understand. After all, it is a painful thing for others to leave their loved ones. If we go to the ceremony after the funeral, it will remind others of the pain of leaving their loved ones. Another point is that it will make others mistakenly think that bad things will happen at home. This is a taboo and is rejected by others. This is the origin of making up for the loss.

In fact, etiquette is also a science, which contains a lot of attention. The proverbs summed up by these ancestors are still worth learning. Knowing more about these proverbs will still be of great help to our lives, otherwise we will be rejected by others when the money is spent in the end. We'd better not do such thankless things.