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When your 80-year-old parents live with you, do you feel happy or burdened?
My father is 75-87 years old and supports the elderly in my home.
Old people never make trouble. Get along with your son-in-law.
Every day when I come home from work, I see my old father sitting in the square hall watching TV, as if an old man in a town house was guarding my home. Peace of mind!
Let's go to work, and the old man heats his meal in the microwave. Drink water, eat, take a bath, change clothes and take care of yourself. I just washed his clothes.
Dad is 87 years old and driving a crane to the west. No one has a house. I always feel empty at home, and I always feel distracted. I always look for my father in his room!
My father, 70 years old, was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease by the Department of Neurology of Harbin Medical University. I used the theory of traditional Chinese medicine to supplement some ginseng for the elderly, which was under control and didn't develop any more!
Many Alzheimer's diseases are caused by taking drugs on the market. After my father was diagnosed, I cleaned up my parents' house and found that my father had eaten more than 20 bottles of "Yanshengbaoye" advertised by CCTV at that time. According to my guess, there may be androgen in the liquid. However, a person who takes foreign androgens is likely to lead to his testicular atrophy's disease, and the androgen secretion is too low, thus leading to Alzheimer's disease. Therefore, I used China traditional ginseng to stimulate his own androgen secretion. The effect is very good.
Dad had high blood pressure, and I cured him. There was an accident, and my second brother came to wait on me at the critical moment. I live in ICU, and my second brother came to wait on me for a few days. Usually I often rub my father's back, buy a foot massager and massage my feet. Father bathed himself and scalded his feet with hot water.
My parents are at my brother's sister-in-law's, and I'm a little confused. Come to me and be obedient! The key is the old child!
I also advised a middle-aged child. I said that if you manage your parents well, your parents will not be ignorant. As a result, he said, I don't care about my parents My parents care about me. If the old people are confused, the middle-aged people will leave it alone and the family will be in chaos.
I lost all my family happiness!
As middle-aged children, we should remember that old people can be confused and children can't understand. It's just that we need some knowledge and determination to support this family fairly and correctly!
Whether it is happiness or burdensome depends on specific problems! Let's talk about my home!
In my opinion, parents and grandparents are home when they are here, but they don't feel at home when they are away! I don't know where my home is. Although there are brothers and sisters, they all have families, and they are not as close to themselves as the old people, so they pay special attention to whether the old people are there.
My father-in-law is almost 80 years old! Can't cook, give it to the child when he is ready, don't want it, set the meal for him! Now live in my house! People ask why they live in my house.
Because my father-in-law likes watching TV when he has nothing to do, he used to live in his uncle and aunt's house, and the house was big and comfortable. He doesn't want to come to my house, and he can't even call! It doesn't matter if people live in other people's homes.
Now people's children have grown up, and it's a critical moment for the senior high school entrance examination and the college entrance examination. When he lives in someone else's house, he turns on the TV, which is very loud and affects the children's study. Living in someone else's house is tedious;
Living in my house, because he has diabetes and high blood pressure, I limit him to eat meat and sugar, and outsiders always bury me!
When I married my wife in my early years, our family was very difficult at that time. At that time, my mother had a stroke to collect the wedding expenses for my brother. My father is waiting for my mother, and my grandparents in their nineties need support. My family really can't afford my wedding expenses. My father-in-law took a fancy to my sense of responsibility to the old man above and didn't ask me for a penny as a bride price. At this time, it is time to repay him. My children are all older, going to graduate school and going to work. He watched TV at my house all day, and no one interfered with him. I cooked him three meals a day, set dinner for him, and began to bury this one after eating every day. If he is old, he will talk a lot. Let him say something! I think it is a kind of happiness to support him and repay him!
Father is 83 years old and mother is 74 years old. They both live in my house. My mother had a brain tumor operation. My father was hospitalized seven times a year. 10 came home from the hospital. I cooked a meal to pick up my nephew and went out for 15 minutes. When I got home and saw my father lying on the table, I smelled alcohol. I hung up on sulbactam before leaving the hospital. I drove to the hospital and informed the doctor. The hospital is full of colleagues, so I didn't waste time going to the emergency room. After coming home from the hospital, it took me an hour to get back to the hospital. I asked for leave to take care of my parents and stayed in the hospital for 24 hours. My sister is abroad, and I won't let her come back. My brother is far away, so I won't let him come back. Later, my brother bought a house in our city, and my brother took care of it for me when my father was in hospital. As soon as my brother came, my father kicked him out, saying that he was busy. I am here. However, our sisters have a very good relationship. Dad gave it to his son when he had money, and blamed his sister for not giving his brother more than a dozen suites at home and abroad. In 2009, my sister spent 830,000 yuan to buy 150 flat-belt quadrangles with basements for her parents, and spent hundreds of thousands on renovation. I bought all the electrical appliances, so I am such a father. If I had money, I would give it to my son. If there is anything, I will contribute my sister to pay for it. Dad's mantra is that a son-in-law is good. I often say that people don't like your daughter. Who knows you? Me, my sister and my husband treat my dad like a child, but he is sick and distressed. My husband takes him to take a bath, and I cut my nails, shave and clean his room. I can survive the next six critically ill times. I give him good medicine every day, take his blood pressure, and feed him water at home if he feels uncomfortable. Mom is better than him 10 times. My parents raised my son and you raised me. Who didn't make adults angry when I was a child! Dad is 83 years old and ill. Taking care of sick parents is happy even if they are hard and involved, because I can keep them alive, because my younger brothers and sisters can go to work with peace of mind, because I have a good husband!
Honestly,
I've thought about this question before. If 80-year-old parents can still move freely and don't need someone to wait on them to eat and drink Lazar, then it will definitely be easier for children to live together and take care of them. After all, children of that age have their own jobs.
But if my 80-year-old parents are disabled and need to wait for more than ten years, I think I will definitely feel tired at that time, but I will be tired. After all, when people reach middle age, there are more and more trivial things at home, and I am exhausted.
However, some time ago, I saw a sentence, "When parents are here, there is still a place to go in life. When parents are gone, there is only one way to go home." My tears came out in an instant.
I am filled with emotion, yes! As long as your parents are here, even if you are 60 years old, there is still a place in your life. With parents gone, there is only one way home in life.
My mother went through a lot of hardships to bring me into this world when she was pregnant in October, and she especially likes people like me who were born with a flat abdomen.
I was just born at that time, and I tossed my mother for the first time for nearly a day. In the end, there was nothing to do. I was too old to be born, so I went to the hospital to dig me up.
They raised me from dozens of centimeters with a handful of shit and urine, and they have been on me all their lives. How can I dislike them when they are old? That's a waste of time as a son and unworthy of being a man.
Besides, when people reach middle age, as long as they have parents, they can still complain about their unhappiness and unhappiness with their elderly parents. In front of them, you will always be a child, and you can be spoiled and forget the hardships of life for the time being. You are still the injured and loved baby. Not the parents of the children, but the pillars of the family!
I won't feel burdensome, but I will feel very happy. Listen to me slowly. My current family situation is like this: my mother is 69 years old and my father is three years older. Both of them live in an old house in the country and will be demolished at the end of this year. Before writing this article, my mother just chatted with me on WeChat voice, saying that she had just received a notice and was going to move soon! Last year, because of my mother's operation, my brother arranged for them to live in a house in the city, across the road from the villa where my brother lives now, five minutes away, belonging to the same garden community.
My brother immediately hired a full-time nanny to take care of them, and I went to the city every once in a while to chat with my mother. Our brother and sister are busy with their careers, so we go there every once in a while. We usually call WeChat to ask about the warmth and coldness. If we want to go to the hospital for a follow-up visit or write a prescription, my mother will call and we will drive her to the hospital at any time. About a year later, my mother recovered completely and could take care of herself, so she stopped hiring people. My mother, who is very attached to me, told me everything in her heart, only my only daughter. I don't know who to talk to. I am a man. As soon as my mother starts talking, she basically wants to talk for a long time, so I will talk to her. Although my family conditions are good now, my mother lives well. She travels abroad and at home several times a year. In fact, my mother didn't have a good life at her grandmother's house when she was a child, because her grandmother's house was poor and she was the poorest in the village. My mother is the eldest daughter and has three brothers and sisters. She didn't drop out of school until the third grade. When I was a child, I was weak and didn't get sick, saying that I was poor and had no money to treat her. Therefore, my mother was sick from childhood until she married my father. My family's economic conditions are good, and grandpa is a national cadre. At that time, our family tried their best to treat my mother, but they were all eradicated.
My mother often asks me to teach her to read because of her low education level and few words. She sometimes reads some heart sutras or something. If she doesn't know some words in the scriptures, let me read them to her and mark them in white for her to read. She is very studious. She had a touch-screen mobile phone a few years ago. Unlike other old ladies, she only uses her old mobile phone and just makes a phone call. There are many apps on my mother's mobile phone. Usually she often chats with me on WeChat. After a while, she sends me greetings every morning. You said it was annoying. Others may think her mother is boring, but I won't. This is a greeting from a mother who is attached to her daughter. How could I hate her!
Actually, I also think my mother is like a child in front of me now. She has something happy. Sometimes when the phone calls, the giggle on the other end of the phone infects me. Sometimes, if she has something sad, she calls me and cries. I comforted her and praised her like a bosom sister until she laughed.
Most old people prefer boys to girls, but my mother says that children are the same. She never favors one over the other for my brother and me. Although my brother has a successful factory career and is extremely filial to my mother, she never goes against my mother's wishes. My mother is very satisfied with her son, and my career is not as good as my brother's, but I can see that she cares more about me, supports me in many ways, and is not stingy.
Father doesn't talk much and doesn't take care of things. My mother is in charge of the family and worries about it. If one day they are old, I hope they can listen to their mother's nagging every day, sometimes go shopping with their mother and cook some delicious dishes for them to taste more. I look forward to this life. I'm glad to have parents who love me, and I love them, too! There is no reward for the kindness of parenting. Every family is different. No matter whether parents are in good health or not in the future, children have this filial piety and do their best to take care of the older generation with a clear conscience. Each of us will be old one day.
Of course, it is a great happiness for parents to live together. Unfortunately, my father has been gone for fifteen years, and I have no chance to serve and honor him. This is my lifelong regret. My mother is still in good health. She has lived alone for many years, but I dare not live with her. I go to see her once a week, but I must be nervous before I come in. I don't know what she looked like when I came in. She is so powerful that I have to do everything in front of her. Only Nuo Nuo and I dare not make any noise. She likes to tell everything what to do and express her views on everything, even though her views are so ridiculous; She is very stingy. If a word is wrong, sometimes even a tone is wrong, she will get angry and become too emotional. She can find fault with everything. No matter what you buy her, she won't say a good word. If you don't buy it, she says you don't care about her and it's not good for her. She will never believe me. In her eyes, I am worthless. The closer people are to her, the better she is, and the more she bullies others. She never cares about my problems and never worries about me. Every time I meet, I have to listen to her talk about those old things from beginning to end, and I have to respond in time. I had to sit on pins and needles and listen for four or five hours. She is very happy. I'm so afraid that she will say something to me inexplicably. She is my mother. It's not that I don't like her, but it's too difficult to get along with her. I am in my fifties, and I am going through menopause myself. After a week of intense work, I also need to relax and hope that my family can live happily together. Why is it so difficult? How I envy the kindness and filial piety of others' mothers. It's almost the weekend, and I'm struggling again.
If your parents are eighty, then you are about fifty.
From this perspective, there may be a more realistic answer.
After the age of 50, it is close to the state of middle-aged and elderly people. At that time, most ordinary people were still struggling in the workplace. The child may have just graduated from college, or the family may have just paid off the mortgage and car loan, and the savings are not too much. They want the whole family to be healthy, and no one, especially parents, is seriously ill. There is a disease that may go back to before liberation.
Fifty years old, both physically and psychologically, we all have a heavy burden. At this time, if the 80-year-old parents are "willful", it is not a burden, but it will increase the burden.
My husband's grandmother is in her eighties this year and lives with her unmarried little brother who is nearly fifty.
Grandma is hard and strong. The older you get, the stronger you get. Six months ago, I had a car accident and my thigh bone was broken. I had an operation and was fixed with a steel plate, so I need the patient to stay in bed.
A few days after leaving the hospital, the old lady relied on her own strength to make the family and even the entire inpatient department fidget. She screamed, cursed, spat at her relatives and even hit the nurse, suspecting that someone was hurting her and unwilling to lie in the hospital bed. The action is very big, and the two uncles who have been soldiers can't stay up, and the fracture is more serious.
In those days, all the adults in the family were exhausted. I finally got out of the hospital. The old lady always feels fine when she is in a wheelchair. She always wants to stand up. When she stood up, her bone was dislocated and she went to the hospital again. Over and over again several times. All the adults are very angry.
My mother-in-law is 56 years old this year. She helps us take care of the children at home on weekdays and goes back to grandma's house with menstruation on weekends. It took them nearly two hours to get home by bus and take care of their grandmother for their younger brother. Our younger generation will go back when they have time, but it won't help. The old lady is in good spirits, just watching her motionless and listening to her singing at the top of her lungs. In the words of the old man at home, it is "listening to the old woman's concert."
Mother-in-law often complains why her mother is so old that she still won't let them go.
I can't feel it.
I just feel that the old lady is very poor and lonely.
I don't want my parents to become like this when they are 70 or 80 years old, and I don't want them to feel that they have become a burden or even a burden to their children.
Therefore, I always tell myself that when I still have the ability to do more for my parents, I must work hard and not slack off. Otherwise, when you get old, you may have to take care of yourself as well as your parents.
Is it happiness or burden for your 80-year-old parents to live with you?
To be fair, parents in their eighties live with themselves. If there is no burden, no worry, no burden, then it is not telling the truth, it is playing a lie. After all, the living habits, laws, schedules and so on of the two generations are different.
However, if you say something unpleasant, no one will jump out of the cracks in the stone. The people hatched in the old grass chicken nest are all raised by their parents. There is a good saying: people don't know where to go, but they must know where to come from. There is also the most thrilling sentence: parents are the wall between you and death, and your parents' present is your future. This time will not be too long. So, everyone is old and taken care of. Filial piety to parents is the duty of being a human being, which is justified and passed down from generation to generation. I have always felt that one person is not good for parents. Is it possible for you to say that you are loyal to your country, sincere to your leaders and loyal to your friends? Isn't it a trick to burn newspapers in front of the grave?
I was born in 55 years, 65 weeks this year, and my parents are nearly 90 years old. Although I have four brothers and sisters, I have taken my parents from my hometown in Shandong to my hometown in Hebei every winter for more than four months. Many friends and former colleagues envy me and say how happy you are with your parents at that age!
Indeed, having parents, although a little troublesome and not casual, can bring happiness and happiness to oneself, far exceeding those insignificant troubles and burdens.
I have been living with my parents, who are in their fifties, but I still have a grandmother who is almost ninety years old at home. People are old and weak, hygiene can't keep up, and there are too many words. But my family is very kind to my grandmother. I am generally responsible for her health problems, and sometimes I am annoyed, but I am more afraid of her disappearance than annoying. Last year, my grandmother was hospitalized, and the doctor said that it could not be cured. I cried. Later, after she was transferred to another hospital, she recovered. After she was discharged from the hospital, I cherished my time with her more.
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