What psychological problems do empty nesters who have no children to accompany them for a long time tend to have?

I know several elderly people who live alone, and they generally feel that they have problems: extremely autistic, suspicious and distorted, and there is no difference between Chinese and foreign elderly people.

My American neighbor, an old man, is 82 years old, divorced, living alone, and 66 years old. He is withdrawn and doesn't have many friends, but once he meets someone he thinks he can talk to, whether you are busy or not, he will talk endlessly. Sometimes when he sees others whispering, he will get suspicious and say that he is poorly dressed or stumbling. He hasn't seen his only son for more than ten years. His son's family came all the way to avoid seeing him. He threw his son's Christmas card into the trash can.

A domestic neighbor, a 68-year-old elegant painter, divorced the dancer's wife after a long separation in his early years and was single for more than 20 years. He was immersed in artistic creation and made a lot of real money. He is withdrawn, he doesn't associate with anyone and doesn't greet acquaintances. I live frugally and eat irregularly. I only eat when I am hungry, and sometimes I don't eat when I am hungry. Full of affection for their comfort zone, they often spend a lot of money to transform the interior, add new furniture and push the newly renovated living room to a new level. When my son came home, he was surprised and thought it was completely unnecessary. What's more, the old man who was nearly seventy years old didn't have to toss about, and it wasn't worth the money and energy. For a time, he was crazy about selling health products because he trusted a little girl who helped him buy food in the supermarket. After a few years, he bought hundreds of thousands of health products for the little girl. He insists that most health care products are beneficial, not beneficial or harmful. Besides, I'm happy to listen to the little girl.

I feel that if a person lives for a long time and no one communicates, his thinking will slow down and his actions will be slow. In the long run, it will lead to depression and even Alzheimer's disease. Therefore, it is best for the elderly not to live alone. Even if they can take care of themselves, their children should visit them often and help them make some old friends. Talking about the past and discussing the present is definitely good for their health.

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Nowadays, in the vast rural areas, most young people go out to work to earn money to make a living, and some even travel together. The rest of the village are basically empty nesters and some children who can't go out with their parents.

As far as I know, the life of empty nesters is very difficult. Most of them are old, and some are still sick. Usually, those who have children, in addition to looking after the children, have to finish the knot of "inseparable from the land" and have time to go around their contracted land. Although they are old and weak, they are not willing to be idle, doing what they can, such as pulling weeds, helping fallen crops, catching insects, birds that are harmful to grain and so on. Sometimes they see crops that should be sprayed with drugs or weeded. Fortunately, some people in the village do OEM work. As long as we agree on the price, we don't have to worry about it. Then someone will do the work for you. In the end, you just settle your salary after acceptance.

As the saying goes, "Old people don't rest, and young people don't hesitate to try their best." Old people have worked hard all their lives. Although they are "half buried in the soil" and their bodies are no longer in charge, their thoughts are never idle. For example, if the house leaks when it rains, the two acres of contracted land left by the children should be cultivated, watered, managed and harvested. How are the children living and working outside? What about the sick old people in the village and so on. At sixes and sevens, some are gone, the original, the present, the old millet rotten sesame seeds, the eight poles out of reach, and so on. Everything is flooding in my mind, and I always want to straighten it out and find a clue in my mind, but it's all a mess. How can we find clues? After thinking for a long time, I found nothing, and finally I had to sigh helplessly and stop thinking about these bad things. They also know that this is not good, but they still worry and worry about these miscellaneous things day after day. This is probably the nature of people when they are old! If the body is inconvenient to move and the brain doesn't think about something, what is the difference between it and the "living dead"? Isn't this all forced "suppression"?

This is the case with a cousin in his seventies in my rural hometown. His wife died in her sixties, and he lived with his son and daughter-in-law. Originally, his old age was ok. Later, his son and daughter-in-law all went to Beijing to work for their grandchildren, leaving only a father in his seventies at home, who lived alone. Every year I go back to my hometown in Tomb-Sweeping Day to burn paper, so I see my cousin once a year. Let's say the year before last, I went back to my hometown in Tomb-Sweeping Day to find my cousin. I saw his door locked, and I knew he was not at home. I was about to turn around when my cousin came back with a hoe. I asked him why he left, and he said, what else can he do? He planted some vegetables in the contracted land, and when it rained, weeds grew barren, so he went to weed. I said at your age, it's time to rest. Why do you want to grow some broken vegetables? Thanks a lot! Cousin said, no way. Suppose it's growing vegetables. Actually, I just found myself a little job. When people are old, they just rest and wait for death. Besides, it's not that they don't want to die when they are idle, but they have a lot of miscellaneous things and headaches! Ordering food means working hard and not thinking about those annoying things. To put it bluntly, it is boring!

Cousin said, did you see it? Now there are only some old children left in the village. Why go there every day? Two things: one is to stay at home honestly, and the other is to stay under the north wall of the village entrance and the big willow tree, join the "waiting team" in the village and go to these places to die! The north wall is a place to wait for death in winter, and under the big willow tree is a place to wait for death in summer. Those two places are the terminal of the old people in the village. Meeting someone today proves that you are still alive. If you meet someone tomorrow, it goes without saying that you are farting! So, on the whole, I don't want to join the "waiting team" because sometimes it's too sad! Today, Tom, Dick and Harry are still talking happily with everyone. I won't see anyone as soon as I get there tomorrow. When I find out, I'm dead. Are you sad? Alas! So, I went out several times from the beginning, and the dead died too miserably, so I didn't go, so I planted two kinds of vegetables to relieve boredom. When people are old, they will die. I dare not say which gust of wind blows and they will die! Live for a while and count for a while!

Seeing that it was time for lunch, I took out a bottle of wine and several packages of cooked vegetables from the trunk of the car and took my cousin to the house for two drinks. I remember that my cousin was quite able to drink when he was young, and he can drink a little when he is old, and I have to drink a few cups every year when I go back. My cousin didn't refuse, so he moved a kang table to the house and put it on the kang. I cooked the meal, and both of them got on the kang, sitting opposite the kang table and drinking. Talking about the past while drinking.

In the 1970s, educated youth went to the countryside, and I worked in my hometown for four years. I remember my cousin was in his prime, not only burly, but also powerful. He is a good worker in the production team and is often rated as a model worker by our team. Because of my strength, I bet with the people in the production team that I have never lost in lifting the wheel.

At that time, there was often a big stone wheel on the threshing floor of the team, which was used by animals to pull and grind the wheat at the time of wheat harvest. In fact, it was a big stone roller weighing five or six hundred kilograms. At that time, the young people in the team were very idle and often gambled on it to win or lose. The condition of betting is very simple, that is, lift the lying big stone roller and stand upright on the ground. The conditions seem simple, but the person who bets each time loses more and wins less. The point is that this stone roller is too big! Lying on the ground is almost fifty centimeters high. Besides, this thing is round. When people lift it, the place where they don't interfere is very slippery. So there are more than 30 strong laborers in the team, and few people can lift them. Therefore, this thing has become a permanent bet. As long as the young man lifts the bar, he will treat it as something and say, "If you don't lift the bar to death, you can lift the wheel of the wheat field in the east of the village and I will take your urine!" " . At that time, there were many stubborn people in the village who quarreled and made bets when they disagreed. The bet is often that the loser apologizes to the winner and shouts three times in front of everyone: "I am a coward!" " ",made everyone laugh, and lost the" coward "as a result. I was so ashamed that my face turned purple into pig liver color, and I found a place with few people in my head. I squatted on the ground and smoked stuffy cigarettes, my eyes didn't dare to look at people, and my head was stuck in my crotch. I think this is a great shame and disappointment!

At that time, my cousin was in his forties, young and strong. He never serves anyone when he carries this thing, and no one on the team dares to bet with him. Just having fun and encouraging him to show off during the break. Cousin is also unambiguous, and his arms and sleeves are rolled up. "Hey!" "Spit into the palm of your hand, rub your hands together, bend down and grab the edge of the stone that rolled to the ground with your hands, pout your ass, suddenly exert yourself and shout" Get up! " The big stone roller was lifted and stood firmly on the ground! I will win applause and cheers immediately! At that time, my cousin's "divine power" was famous in the village. Speaking of "the third golden boy", there is nothing I don't know.

At that time, my cousin was strong and often did the work of "smashing rammers", which was never seen by modern people at that time. That is, someone builds a new house, ditches and lays a foundation, and the foundation must be compacted. There are two kinds of foundation rammers, one is a wooden rammer that is more than one person's height, that is, a thick log with four handles in the middle, and one person hits it. One is a stone rammer, that is, a stone mill with a thickness of 30 to 40 centimeters is used, and two wooden poles or four wooden poles are tied to the stone mill, and many people carry it. This kind of stone rammer is divided into four or eight people. When tamping, someone must take the lead in shouting tamping songs, and Qi Xin can lift the rammer and smash it together. Otherwise, the rammer can't beat it!

At that time, whoever built a new house and rammed the foundation must have my cousin, because he was not only strong, but also a singer who cried out for tamping, and could not do without him. Whenever he rammed, he must have hit the big stone rammer carried by the eight men, while carrying the rammer and shouting the rammer song. With the rhythm of the song, people Qi Xin held the rammer high and smashed it together. What a spectacle! Although decades have passed, I still clearly remember my cousin's spectacular scene when tamping soil and my third brother's voice calling for tamping soil!

"Hey-big-drink! Everybody lift it together! Let's all work harder! A sheep gets a poor sheep! Don't smash the horseshoe! . . . ""fluttering! Get high! -fluttering! " . . . After so many years, my cousin had a warm scene of shouting songs and bringing people ram. He was still dangling in front of my eyes, drinking with my cousin. However, things have changed. I glanced at my cousin opposite, alas! Is this still the powerful and magical cousin of that year? The person opposite has already turned into a bald, dim-eyed, sunken cheeks, prominent cheekbones and skinny, as if a gust of wind could blow it down and never stand up again, an elderly man! It's hard to find any shadow in him for his bravery in those days! Time waits for no one! It's only been a few days. That's it!

While drinking wine slowly, I asked about my cousin's life and the situation of empty nesters in the village. Cousin sighed and said, difficult, not just ordinary! In recent years, your nephew and others have gone to Beijing to work, and basically come back only once during the New Year. I am a lonely old man, so I can only make do by myself. Fortunately, I am in good health and can make a living by myself. There is nothing wrong with going around the fields when you are bored, raising a few chickens and planting two beds of vegetables. The only thing to remember is that children who go out to work are doing well, but it is difficult to go out! No matter how poor the family is, it is also a family. Better than going out. Especially the daughter-in-law, when she left years later, she was pregnant with a second child and had a big belly. How does she go to work? What a worry! A line of words, hazy old eyes still holding two drops of muddy tears. . . Speaking of empty nesters in the village, my cousin said that most of the situation was similar to his. Except for those who can't move when they are sick, those who can move are basically eating and waiting for death. They have been dead for a year. Just in the few days of the Chinese New Year, the working children will be a little angry when they come back, and they will recover as soon as they leave. Usually, it is normal to be depressed and troubled, and you are not young. What else can you do? Honestly "nest" at home! In this society, children can't earn money without the support of the elderly. Not dragging them down is the greatest contribution. Anyway, this generation has suffered all kinds of hardships and suffered all kinds of sins, and it is nothing to be lonely in their later years. It's worth it for the children!

Conclusion:

Empty nesters in rural areas are a special group in China and the most lonely and depressed group, so their psychological problems are certain! They worked hard all their lives and finally reached old age. Originally, they should be children and grandchildren around their knees, supporting their lives and enjoying a happy life with their families. However, for the sake of their children's happiness, they resolutely abandoned their happy life, willingly endured unimaginable depression and loneliness, stuck to the last empty nest of their lives, and silently supported their children's career! Therefore, their contribution is enormous, tragic and commendable!

I think, what can our whole society do for them? How should those children who work outside the home repay and be kind to them? This should be a question that each of us should ponder deeply!

Empty nesters are children who have been away for a long time. With the growth of children's age, work and family affairs are getting busier and busier, and time spent with the elderly is getting less and less, so many elderly people become empty nesters. Most empty nesters have some psychological problems. What are the specific problems?

1, loneliness is relatively strong, especially for elderly people living alone. Being far away from children, getting older and having nothing to do will enhance the loneliness of the elderly;

2. Depression is the most common mental illness among empty nesters.

3. There is a strong sense of loss, mostly among the newly retired elderly. Long-term regular arrangements suddenly become idle because of retirement, and suddenly busy, full and regular life becomes disorderly. The sense of loss caused by psychological gap is more serious;

As you get older, you will feel that your physical strength and energy will be worse than before, and a strong sense of incompetence will aggravate the sense of aging of the elderly.

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Hello, teacher, this question is determined by the personality of empty nesters. Not all empty nesters have psychological problems. No one will accompany you for life. Children have their own homes. Parents should understand this. No matter how good the relationship between parents is, one goes first. I know there will be no psychological problems, but I want to open my heart, open my heart and live a strong life. Equally wonderful. This is life. I am also an empty nester, and I will arrange my life every day. Pay attention to your health, have a good rest and eat what you eat. Go out for a walk often. In the same good mood. There is nothing wrong with my heart! This is my own experience. I wonder if the answer is right?

Anyone may have psychological problems, no matter how bad the environment is, he can keep a healthy mind. Empty nesters often feel lonely and fear loneliness. However, this is completely self-regulation.

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Empty nesters are prone to many problems because they have no children to accompany them for a long time. (1) Loneliness, strong sense of loss. Because children don't live, study, live and work with the elderly, empty nesters have a strong sense of loss. (2) It is easy to produce pessimism. Usually sick, the children are not around, and there is not even a person who serves tea and cooks. Some empty nesters have negative feelings about life and even commit suicide. Some empty nesters died at home and were discovered many days later, which caused fear to empty nesters. (3) Empty nesters are unstable and sometimes look like children. (4) Empty nesters are a social phenomenon. Empty nesters need the care of the whole society and their children.