What happened to the mothers who didn't accompany their babies to do their homework?

What happened to the child who didn't accompany the baby to do his homework?

I have my own personal feelings about this and can give an answer.

First of all, I am Bauer's mother. Two sons.

When my eldest son was a child, I was busy with my work. When I was a child, I was playful and hardly did my homework with him.

At that time, there was no WeChat, and there was no contact between teachers and parents. I don't know what homework to assign every day.

After school, the children go to the small table to eat and take home their homework.

I haven't seen you for a day, how can I let my children study again? I just occasionally think of asking: Have you finished your homework?

Every time, the child replied: I finished writing.

As for doing right or wrong, I rely on the teacher at the small table, thinking that they have checked and there should be no problem.

At that time, the teacher at the small table was not as responsible as the teacher at the small table now, because there were few small tables at that time, and there was no pressure without competition.

And the result? The child's grades can be imagined.

So I'm the mother who didn't accompany the children to do their homework! what can I do? It's too late to regret. I can only concentrate on doing my homework with these two treasures.

1. The baby's homework skills cannot be improved without accompanying him.

School will start again the day after tomorrow, and there will be homework at school.

My baby is in the second grade this year, and now there is basically no homework in school quality education.

I don't want my children to repeat the mistakes of my childhood and make the whole childhood full of endless homework nagging, so my point is that children's homework is their own responsibility, and I only care about things outside school, such as reading. However, after a year of practice, I found that this view is wrong.

Because the current education method is still somewhat different from that of us at that time, Wa's school is not allowed to assign homework to senior one and senior two. After school at three o'clock every day, Wa is very relaxed, but the school will also do some inspections. If something goes wrong, the problem will come out.

Writing is so slow that I can't finish every exam. Besides, I haven't written all the pictures, as long as most of them are written correctly.

Maybe you think the child is still young, so it doesn't matter if you give him some time.

I used to feel the same way. In fact, the child's teacher also talked about the child's problem before, saying that Kao Ge knew the answer, but the writing speed was too slow for me to finish, so I had to speed up writing.

I didn't take it seriously until I saw the papers of other students in their class, because there are only a few children who can't finish the papers, and my brother is one of them, and the writing speed is not a matter of knowledge, but a matter of skill.

Quality education is now emphasized, and the focus of education is the understanding of knowledge. However, if you understand the knowledge, you can't write it. For technical problems, we must write more and practice more. The school doesn't assign such homework, so parents should give their children extra stoves, write more and practice more.

2. If you don't do your homework with your baby, your baby may not be able to finish school homework.

My brother's school doesn't have rote homework, but occasionally there are some quality education homework, such as making handwritten newspapers and PPT reports. This kind of homework cannot be done without the help of parents. Children in Grade One and Grade Two can't do PPT yet, so they need parents to teach them and accompany them.

There is a big problem in doing homework with the baby.

Ok, then accompany me, but it is not easy to accompany the baby to do homework.

Not long ago, I saw parents in a circle of friends turn to accompany their children to write homework and spit words. It's really a tearjerker.

It can be seen that it is not an easy task to accompany the baby to do homework, and parents must be patient.

Before, my baby would ask me homework that I couldn't do, so it was difficult for me to accompany him patiently.

So, how can we make children progress without internal injuries?

Actually, there are some tips.

4. Accompany your baby to do homework. No internal injuries are allowed.

First, make a homework list with your child;

Find a fixed time every day, sit with the baby, make a list of the homework to be written today, including the homework assigned by the school teacher and the children's own meal-adding homework, prioritize, remember the time, when to start and when to end.

Second, before and after comparison;

Compare the daily homework and homework time with the previous day, and let the children compare themselves to see if there is progress.

Third, don't nag a few.

Don't ask your child if he has any homework as soon as he comes back;

Don't always ask if you have finished your homework;

Don't say I have told you many times that you didn't do your homework;

Don't say that I won't let you do anything until you finish your homework.

Instead, as I said before, I find a fixed time to do my homework every day, and try not to mention my homework at other times. Imagine how you feel when the company asks you to go to work while you are having fun.

Finally, I want to say that children really have to accompany them in their homework, but the correct posture is also very important.

Now I am reviewing my lessons with my baby. The hardest thing is to control your emotions. I know it's useless to be angry, it's useless to be angry, it's useless to be really angry, but I still can't help but feel that there is a nameless fire in my heart. Who let my child's forbearance character be too strong? I really can, no matter how angry you are. Slowly, I found that only when you and your child are calm can you say what you want to say, so that she can understand.

In fact, from the first grade of primary school, it is customary for the host to accompany the writing, and the companionship behind may be more of a help to the children, but it also has a little urging effect. Personally, I understand that children still need company, and they need to know more to know where her shortcomings are.

It is no exaggeration to say that the baby's mother has never done homework with her or even read a book. I have been taking care of my baby at home, and occasionally I will accompany my baby to correct his sitting posture and pen holding posture, but all of them fail. Now that I think about it, I feel that I have played a negative role ... My baby has been relatively independent since childhood and read a lot, so he can study well, and occasionally he can get the first place in the exam without adult supervision. Of course, I don't want to listen, and I won't see my homework. Now in the third grade, there are problems that I can't do, and I am very worried. My child is one of those unruly children. I'm going to send her to the Olympics class, which was also proposed by her. It's up to her to learn. I will try my best to create a good environment for her. As for what will happen in the future, I have to resign myself to fate.

When the baby was in the first grade, I accompanied her to do her homework. It is so difficult to ask her to correct her handwriting after seeing that she has written badly or made a mistake. I shouted several times to change, and the words were changed and erased several times, and my patience was running out every day. Looking back now, it was a painful day, and the family was restless. Downstairs are also children of the same age, and her family is also crying and scolding children. Later, I sent my children to the nursery in the evening, where I did my homework and went for a semester. In the second grade, the children ate at school at noon and didn't pick them up. When they came back this afternoon, they had finished their homework. Now I'm in grade three, and I don't do homework with my baby anymore. Her study habits are still good now. The key for children is to form good habits. If they can't help it, if they have professionals to teach them, they will be much easier.

My mother never does my homework with me. What happened now? Happy every day.

My sister and I both study well, go to school well, work well and have a good husband. So my mother is very happy.

Because she never cares about my study, we all care about ourselves and never rebel.

I envy my mother!

I am the father who accompanied my baby to do homework, and I am still the father who accompanied my baby to do homework, because I accompanied my eldest daughter and my youngest daughter. Those mothers who don't accompany their baby to do homework are probably replaced by mothers who accompany their baby to do homework, or most of them are worried about their children's study.

Tell me about your feelings about writing with your baby.

Having a second child feels like starting over. Many original life details have been repeated, but my mind has changed a lot.

When I do my homework with my boss, I am always anxious to get angry. To this end, my boss suffered some grievances, but fortunately, as a father, I also learned and matured in this process. Junior high school basically won't get angry, which means a little persuasion. In the high school stage, encouragement is the main thing, and criticism is no longer necessary.

Of course, I won't always be with you. I won't accompany you from elementary school to grade three, junior high school to senior one and senior high school. I can help you 1 grade at most. After the second year of high school, I can still answer questions and chat, so biogeography is not a problem at all, and my knowledge system has changed. English language children learn better than I did in those years, and there is no way to guide them. High school is dominated by ideological work, and the children are older.

The same is true of my little daughter, who has been with me for almost two and a half years. In the third semester, basically, she does her homework, I cook and I do mine. I can answer questions occasionally and check my homework. If you don't get full marks after the exam, see what's wrong and help adjust it. Very worry-free. During the whole process, I basically didn't get angry with my child. I have always felt that the second child is not in such a hurry, and our requirements are not high. The children are fine, although not outstanding, but they are basically the top three in the class.

After the two children came down, I had some experience in doing homework with them. Let's share it:

First, the most critical period is 1-3.

This period is an important period for children to change from kindergarten children to students, and parents still have to spend snacks. Because children don't know anything about primary schools and rely on teachers, teachers can't take care of every child, so many things are taught by parents. Of course, some parents basically ignore their children, but their children are excellent. But I dare not take the risk. After all, children neglected by their parents are rare. The classmates around us, regardless of their parents, are not as good as the children our parents value. And regardless of the grade 1-3, it takes a lot of effort to manage it in the later stage, and the effect is not good.

Second, the experts are right. The most important thing in lower grades is to form good habits.

I think the most important habits are the habit of doing homework before going home and the habit of doing homework carefully. Doing homework at home is to make children realize that learning is the first priority, and the habit of doing homework carefully is to improve the learning effect.

Third, parents should check their homework first.

Find something wrong and let the child correct it. The homework given to the teacher should be as excellent as possible, so it is easy to cultivate children's self-confidence. Slowly, you can reduce the number of inspections, let the children make more mistakes and let the teachers criticize more times, which is conducive to developing the habit of children's serious self-examination.

Fourth, children's bad study habits should be resolutely corrected in time; Parents should not worry about learning knowledge itself.

We can't ask children according to our own standards, and we can't always ask other people's children's children. After all, different children have different abilities to accept different knowledge. Parents are mainly counseling, they can teach if they can't, and give their children time. The more children criticize, the more stupid they will become, and so will many parents.

Parents should study with their children.

For problems that children can't learn, read the children's textbooks before teaching. You can't rely on experience or old books, because children don't necessarily learn the same methods as their parents, such as addition and subtraction. Now we have to make up ten laws and break ten laws. When I was a child, I recited formulas and thought differently. The two methods are easy to be confused for children in lower grades, so they should be followed by textbooks. After the second or third semester, you can teach a variety of problem-solving methods to broaden your mind.

6. Parents should not only accompany their baby to do homework, but also study with their children in daily life and instill all kinds of knowledge into their children through the details of life.

In fact, a child is like a bottomless sponge, and its absorption capacity is beyond your imagination. My youngest daughter accompanied me to watch the adult version of The Complete Works of Sherlock Holmes in the third grade, and I was surprised at that time. Now my mind is mature enough to be a little overwhelmed. Don't underestimate children.

Conclusion: It is best for children to be accompanied when doing their homework. After all, children are the future and hope of the family. You can't risk letting go too early. There is no regret medicine in the world!

As the saying goes, other stones can attack jade. Parents are welcome to learn from it, and those who are interested can discuss it in private.

1. Your homework is yours, not mine.

As soon as the children go to school, we tell them that the homework is your own. You should remember what you have, arrange your own time to finish it, correct your mistakes according to the teacher's requirements, don't accompany your parents when you write your homework, and ask your parents to sign it when you finish it. We keep our word and only help the baby when he needs it. He never accompanied him when he wrote. It is necessary for children to finish their homework independently every day, and parents should also believe that children actually have this ability.

2. Without accompanying homework, children will have five abilities.

Let children form the habit of doing homework independently from an early age. Children gain not only daily homework, but also the following five abilities that are crucial to his future study and life. Mom and dad get not only a few hours of free time every day, but also an independent baby.

(1) Ability to arrange tasks-complete them one by one according to the priority of operation tasks;

(2) the ability to manage time-arrange the time to start writing according to the workload and control the total duration;

(3) the ability to think independently-thinking independently from parents;

(4) the ability to solve problems-solve problems by yourself without relying on dad;

(5) Self-confidence-believe in yourself, I can do it!

3. Eight ways to accompany homework efficiently If the child has not developed the habit of writing homework independently, mom and dad have to accompany him. How can we be worry-free and efficient?

(1) Appointed time;

(2) put the phone down;

(3) Don't stare at children and do your own thing;

(4) Remind sitting posture from time to time;

(5) always judge right and wrong;

(6) demonstrate the stroke order, and so on, and complete it at one time when you start your homework;

(7) Quick response help;

(8) Check that the operation does not spit;

4. Do your homework too slowly? Parents "prescribe the right medicine" for children in grade one/grade two/grade three ... What should children in junior high school do if they write their homework too slowly? Anxious, angry, cursing, hitting people, and even like some mothers say, "I want to tear my homework every minute", it doesn't work. We must distinguish the situation and find the reasons one by one in order to "prescribe the right medicine".

Dawdle-agree on a suitable start time;

Play while writing, not concentrate-eliminate interference factors;

Writing and erasing, pursuing perfection-try to weaken the perfectionism of children and adults;

Unskilled or unskilled in homework-help children improve their knowledge;

Encounter homework that children are not good at-help children improve their ability;

The first life-saving secret of accompanying your baby with homework: pretend to be your child's teacher.

A mother who doesn't accompany her baby to do homework. Either you won't, or you are busy with your work, so give the children to the remedial class.

This kind of mother is very good and the children are very independent. And I am the mother who accompanies the children. From kindergarten to junior high school, I am very tired and full. I also learned a lot when teaching children.

In fact, it doesn't matter where mom goes, because it's good to have company and it's good to have no company.

1. First of all, every child is different. There is no standard answer to this question. Take myself as an example. When I was a child, my parents were busy with their work, and I never accompanied them to do their homework. But I got 633 points in the college entrance examination and got into a book in Beijing, so nothing is absolute.

Secondly, if you want to accompany me, you can accompany me from 1 to the third grade, but after the fourth grade, you'd better not accompany me. This is not what I said, but what an education expert said before. Why can primary schools accompany 1 to the age of 3? Because when children just transition from kindergarten to primary school, they don't really know how to learn. At this time, companionship is not supervision, but teaching children how to study, how to arrange their own time, and how to review and preview. ,

These habits have been formed, and parents don't have to accompany them when they are 4 years old.

3. Finally, this grade 1 to 3 is not absolute. For children with strong consciousness, parents can let go in advance. For children with poor self-awareness, the companionship of parents may need to be extended appropriately, so that children can develop self-discipline and good study habits and can write homework independently.

So don't worry, develop good habits for children, children are free, and mothers are free.