The person writing materials at my workplace feels like a machine every day and I really can’t do it anymore. What should I do?

There are several types of tolerance and concession, and it is obvious that you have them all, whether at work or in life. This statement may make you feel psychologically uncomfortable, but I hope it will be helpful to you. Don't be tolerant to anyone. The reason why a person is tolerant is not because he has a good temper and knows the general situation, but because of his incompetence.

1. Incompetence at work

What kind of person is the most helpless at work? Good old man! The more incompetent people are, the more they like to do piecemeal work. Of course, it does not mean that you are incompetent if you make materials, but that you have not fought for yourself at all. You tire yourself to the point of having a fever and still persevere, but your boss doesn’t sympathize with you. Why?

Because he thinks this is what you should do. As an employee, we always hope that our leaders can see our efforts. In fact, we were wrong. There are so many employees, and the leaders have their own work. How can they care about you? If what we do has nothing to do with the interests of the leaders, then even if we are exhausted, the leaders can only Express regret!

The less capable a person is, the less confident he is. Don't you even dare to ask for leave and push yourself to the brink of collapse? There is no such thing as easy in the world of adults. It is true that we face various pressures, but if we take a step back, what is the limit of life? Isn't it just relief? What can you do if you give yourself a holiday? I still don’t believe it. If your company leaves you, it can’t be transferred. Don’t take yourself too seriously, let alone think of yourself as important in the leader’s mind! Everyone is too busy to take care of so much. The leader is just a wage earner, just a little more senior than us.

2. Relatives have no opinion in front of us

Relatives always feel that they understand us, and then they will give me various suggestions. Although they seem to be good to us on the surface, this kind of It's easy to go to extremes. Just like parents who love their children, if they control them too tightly or too much, they become doting. In particular, some parents always criticize their children like this: "I know exactly what your abilities are, so you should just find a job honestly." ?They always think that their children are still teenagers, and they always think that their children will not grow up. This is a problem for parents.

Let’s look at our own problems. The reason why parents always don’t trust us is because we haven’t done anything to make them believe it. In addition, we rely on our parents and want to let them do everything. They help us make decisions, which makes us more and more dependent and less independent! Making decisions at critical moments, being assertive is not the result of a flash of inspiration but the result of constant attempts.

If you still don’t have your own opinion this time, you probably won’t be able to make your own decisions in this life. Although it’s very serious, it seems to scare you again. But if you think about it carefully, is this the truth? I have pushed myself to collapse and still dare not make my own decision. This is not called filial piety, let alone bearing the humiliation, but incompetence

3. My husband is impatient

The reason why my husband is impatient I believe he said this out of anger. Why doesn't he want you to have an easy job and make a lot of money? Another point, the reason why your husband said he doesn't support you is mainly because you have no direction at all. This involves a planning issue of your own. If you have no direction or plan, how can you make your husband feel at ease. After all, just say a word and I will support you. Quite simply, life is not that easy.

Supplement: Based on your own abilities, what you can do, what you are willing to do, and what jobs have prospects, you can make your own judgment, or you can ask your husband to help you make suggestions. Don't resign yourself first, just ask for leave, and then go for an interview midway. When you take the first step, find a job through your own abilities, and make money, believe me, your family's view of you will change a lot.