The Law of Self-Awareness: Why You Become What You Hated the Most

Self-awareness is our insight and understanding of ourselves. Everyone will grow in the process of self-awareness. The continuous improvement of self-awareness is a person's growth process. The law of self-awareness tells us that if we want to control our own life well, we must have correct self-awareness, learn to face ourselves in a city, position ourselves correctly, and learn to be responsible for ourselves.

Focus Law: You are not as important as you think

Are you annoyed all day long by the few drops of oil stains left on your clothes during breakfast?

Is it because you said the wrong thing in front of others and you can't let it go for a long time?

Or, because of a small gathering, you are struggling in front of the wardrobe?

If there is a similar situation, congratulations, you have just confirmed the law of focus!

We are always keenly aware of our own changes, but others may not be able to feel it.

We always feel that we are the center of the stage, but the fact is that to others, you are just a "passer-by".

The infinite magnification of the law of focus often causes social anxiety.

People with social phobia feel that they are the focus of the crowd and that everyone is looking at them, and they overestimate the impact of their social mistakes.

Below, we will use a real story to talk about the psychological impact that the law of focus brings to us.

Focus Law Case

Xingzi is the English class representative in the class and has had a crush on David from the next class for a long time. The classroom doors of the two classes are next to each other. One day before class, Xingzi took a stack of homework books from the teacher and hurried to the classroom. She rushed to the classroom podium and was about to hand out homework. Only then did she realize that she was in the wrong classroom, so she rushed out of the door in panic.

Afterwards, she kept thinking about the scene just now and felt that her embarrassment was completely exposed. David and his friends must be laughing at her. The more she thought about it, the more embarrassed she became, and she even cried sadly.

After many years, Xingzi realized her ideal of love and came together with David. The two were talking about the past, Xingzi's memory was particularly fresh, and he described the situation in detail, but David actually said that he had no idea such a thing happened. Xingzi was stunned and suddenly felt that he was being sentimental.

What Xingzi experienced was the pain caused by the Law of Focus. He thought that when he walked to the classroom podium, everyone would see him and laugh at his embarrassment... Facts have proved that every time Everyone has their own things to be busy with, so who has time to look after you?

In fact, often, even if someone sees something and even reacts to it immediately, it is nothing more than a cloud, because they will quickly forget it. After all, you are not the protagonist in other people's lives. Everyone only puts their limited thoughts on themselves.

From another perspective, it is understandable that we regard ourselves as the focus. However, if this kind of psychology is not controlled and becomes more and more intense, and even expands into the realm of others, and we feel that we are important in the eyes of others, then our inner pressure will become bigger and bigger like a snowball. Heavy.

Returning to ourselves and talking about the Law of Focus, it is not difficult to find that the more we weaken this psychological effect, the more relaxed we can be, the more we can truly live out ourselves and truly enjoy ourselves. Life.

Tagore said: "The reason why angels can fly is because they take themselves very seriously."

So, what should we do to weaken our own focus law? ?

Below we list several methods for reference only.

Psychological hint: I am just one of all living beings. Although I am unique, I am also ordinary.

Although we always sing "We are different", in fact, everyone is the same, and no one will always pay attention to your uniqueness. Celebrities and dignitaries still have their own little world, so you should relax and don't get upset over trivial mistakes. You can live your life without worrying too much about what others think. Because maybe others have no idea at all.

Put yourself in someone else’s shoes: Don’t be nervous in public situations, the only thing you care about is yourself

Some people are afraid of speaking in public because they always make mistakes because they are nervous. In fact, this is because of you Subconsciously, I feel that others are also weighing every word and listening carefully.

In fact, the only one you really care about is yourself.

Peace of mind: take a deep breath and relax

Facing everything with ease will make you more likely to succeed. When you feel stressed due to the Law of Focus, someone else's casual words can be the straw that breaks the camel's back. So take a deep breath and relax.

At the 2017 Victoria's Secret supermodel show in Shanghai, Xi Mengyao accidentally fell down and then finished the show with a smile. She did not get depressed because of this "Victoria's Secret accident", but was calm and calm. Fell to fame.

Looking at our lives, even if you appear on the "Victoria's Secret Show", it is not a big deal. Even if everyone is paying attention, you will not always be the focus. So, relax, say "goodbye" to the law of focus, and travel lightly so that you can live calmly and comfortably.