"Son-in-law, your spare room is just for your brother-in-law to get married." As a son-in-law, should I refuse?

There is an old saying that "women don't marry a horse-haired man, and men don't marry girls with brothers." In my opinion, the first half of this sentence is quite reasonable, but the second half is too absolute.

Why can't you marry Ma Baonan? Many people know that a man like him talks about his mother all the time. Once the mother-in-law conflicts, his first concern is his mother. Few women can really be happy for life when they marry such a man. Many times, women have to struggle with their mother-in-law and have disputes and contradictions with their husbands. The whole family has no harmonious and beautiful atmosphere at all. Living with such a man, women can't get real happiness.

The question of whether a younger brother or daughter can get married should be treated in two ways. Because not all brothers and sisters are confused, some women can keep proper limit in their behavior even if they care about their parents' families, and put their parents' families and their husbands' families at the same level, and they have never been unbalanced. Such a woman can be married.

Another part of women who dare not marry are not only brothers and daughters, but also brothers and demons. This kind of woman will only focus on her family. Even if they get married, they refuse to plan for their small family, but devote their lives to their parents and brothers. What is even more frightening for them is that they are not only not ashamed of it, but proud of it and complacent about their greatness.

But such people, in our eyes, are both terrible and pitiful. The terrible thing is that if a man meets her in marriage, I'm afraid it's hard to be happy again. Sadly, they can't live for themselves all their lives.

If the brother Wang is pitiful, then the person standing behind the brother Wang is really hateful. Everyone is born selfish, and Brother Wang is not born so great. She can become what she is today, thanks to the so-called "helping brothers" theory. It is a woman's misfortune to meet such a family.

If a man meets such a family, it is recommended not to be soft-hearted because of his wife. Sometimes, men can directly veto things that women cannot refuse. If they can't respect themselves, why should you leave them with dignity?

Before marrying Xin Wei, Jiang Yang's parents advised Jiang Yang: Xin Wei is a child and looks good, but the big family behind her is not easy. I heard that after Xin Wei graduated from work, all her salary was taken away by her mother, saying that she would leave it to her brother. If you two get married, their families will support you one day. Don't blame mom for not speaking well. It's all true.

Jiang Yang certainly considered such consequences, but for him, Xin Wei is the woman he really loves, and he doesn't want to give up a sincere relationship because of this problem. However, for the happiness of marriage in the future, Jiang Yang found Xin Wei and had a thorough conversation with her on this issue.

In fact, Xin Wei doesn't want to be everyone's "brother assistant", but she really doesn't know how to refuse. After all, it was not easy for her parents to raise her that big. Every time she wanted to refuse, but at the sight of her parents' tears, she couldn't help it any more. However, for the happiness of marriage, Xin Wei promised Jiang Yang that after marriage, she must put her small family first, discuss everything with her husband, and never make a decision for her family.

Because of such a heart-to-heart talk, Jiang Yang and Xin Wei reached a tacit understanding, and their married life was simple and happy. Unexpectedly, such happiness lasted less than half a year, and some problems appeared.

Xin Wei's younger brother is getting married, but the woman asked his family to take out a wedding room as a bride price. But Xin Wei's parents couldn't get it out, so they brought the idea to Xin Wei. Because there are just two suites under Jiang Yang's name, one is occupied and the other is idle, and there is no plan to rent or sell it.

On that day, Xin Wei's parents went to Xin Wei and complained that her brother could not even marry a daughter-in-law. What should we do?

Hearing this, Xin Wei was also worried. So she told her parents that her sister could also help her brother buy a house, but she didn't have much money and could only spend 20 thousand to 30 thousand.

Xin Wei means that she secretly gave her money behind her husband's back, and she won't pay it back in the future. But her parents were not satisfied, so they directly explained their purpose and asked Xin Wei to lend Jiang Yang's vacant house to his younger brother as a wedding room.

Xin Wei thought of her promise with her husband, but she didn't dare to promise. I can watch my elderly parents cry in front of me, with a lot of runny nose and tears, which makes people feel distressed. Xin Wei's heart is still soft. However, she is still rational and only tells her parents that she will ask her husband.

Jiang Yang heard Xin Wei say that he would lend his spare suite to his brother-in-law for marriage, but he refused without thinking. Joke, although ostensibly borrowed, but in the end I don't know what the consequences will be! He doesn't want to ask for trouble. He is willing to help his parents-in-law when they are in trouble, but he will not be so kind about the big things about the house.

Xin Wei was disappointed and angry at Jiang Yang's refusal. She completely forgot the promise she made with her husband before, and only thought about the poor appearance of her parents when they cried. So she accused her husband of being too indifferent. I don't live in that house anyway, let alone borrow it. What if I give it? Anyway, Jiang Yang's family has money. Do you still care about one or two houses?

Xin Wei's accusation made Jiang Yang disappointed with his marriage for the first time. What do you mean, "What if you give it?" What makes him "indifferent" He earned this house by himself. He can give it to whoever he wants, and he won't give it if he doesn't want to. What makes her say that? Besides, both of them have made three chapters before marriage. Why is she relapse now?

Xin Wei and Jiang Yang quarreled for the first time because of their parents' family. Finally, Xin Wei returned to her mother's house angrily and threatened her husband to bow his head.

But Jiang Yang has a lot of backbone. He ignored Miaomiao for several days in a row. He should go to work and eat. Although he was upset, he didn't show it on the surface.

Later, Xin Wei's parents finally could not wait. They came to Jiang Yang's home together at the weekend. Before Jiang Yang could ask her what she was doing here, Xin Wei's mother said directly, Son-in-law, your spare room is for your brother-in-law to get married. We are all family, we can't share you and me! Anyway, there is dust. Let the young couple move in and help you look after the house!

Hearing this, Jiang Yang was simply impressed by their impudence. According to what they said, he seems to have to thank them? What a cheek. Jiang Yang's anger was nowhere to be sent, and he replied directly: Get out!

Xin Wei's parents never thought that their son-in-law would be so rude. Immediately, they also thought of the house, but said, pointing to Jiang Yang, let him wait, let Xin Wei divorce him when he comes back, and let him be a bachelor all his life!

Jiang Yang was unmoved. If Xin Wei really divorced because of her parents' words, it would be good to leave. Such a wife can't be happy together in the future.

As the saying goes, a leopard cannot change his spots. The reason why "Brother Helper" is hated by many people is that she lacks the sense of self-independence and only listens to her parents and brother. Even if she knows she is wrong, she can't change it. After all, the habits that have been formed for more than 20 years cannot be changed overnight. What's more, she may not really want to change from the heart.

For such a woman, it is hard for a man to stand it any longer. For the woman's parents, men can't give corresponding respect.