Why has the custom of bride price been passed down to this day? Should young people get married with a bride price?

First, existence is the reason. There is a popular saying that "existence is the cause", which is a dialectical principle with profound truth and practical significance. The fact of the evolution and development of nature proves that anything that is outdated and has no value and significance will be abandoned or eliminated. As long as it exists, it has its own reasons and reasons. The same is true of bride price marriage. The origin of bride price custom can be traced back to the Western Zhou Dynasty, which experienced various dynasties. After different historical periods, it has lasted for thousands of years and has never been abandoned. Even at one time, the marriage related to bride price was criticized and once abolished, but it has been persisted among the people and continues to this day. Moreover, the custom of bride price has not disappeared, but it is getting worse. Moreover, with the improvement of people's living standards, the wedding bride price is also rising all the way, which is similar to this process. So why is this magical and incredible phenomenon? It fully shows that the existence of bride price has been proved by time and reality and has its rationality. Otherwise, if it is useless, it may have been ruthlessly eliminated with the development of the times and disappeared for a long time, just like some old customs abandoned by people. This verifies the argument that existence is the cause from a certain angle. In this case, it is not unreasonable to accept the bride price.

Secondly, the custom of bride price, which proves and restricts the collection of bride price, lasts for a long time, indicating that bride price plays a positive role in marriage and has a certain promotion effect on marriage. Since ancient times, the reasons for collecting bride price are nothing more than the following aspects. For the woman, in order to fulfill their last responsibility and show their love and care for their daughter, parents can prove their attention and care for their daughter through bride price, measure the importance of their daughter in each other's family life, and prove their value and status in disguise. Secondly, through the amount of bride price from a certain angle and side, indirectly verify the economic strength and life support ability of the man's family, so as to prevent the daughter from being wronged when she married in that year and suffering for it, leading to the tragedy of marrying the wrong person. For the man, the first is the recognition and acceptance of marriage. Through the number of bride price, to show his attitude and views on marriage. The second is to show your sincerity through the giving of bride price. At the same time, it also conveys gratitude through a material form and expresses the gratitude of the woman's family for raising her daughter to grow up. In addition, for both men and women, through the form of bride price, an invisible contract model has been formed, which has played a binding role in fulfilling the marriage promise, so once the bride price is accepted, it means that the marriage is recognized and becomes an agreement, and it is no longer easy to change. As long as the contract is broken, it will play a certain binding role through the bride price, just like the current contract signing. The bride price is equivalent to the contract deposit, which constrains and facilitates the performance of marriage by both parties. Once breached, it is necessary. There is also this phenomenon in life, that is, the less people pay attention to what is easy to get, the more they pay, the more they cherish it. Some people don't want the bride price. The man thinks the daughter-in-law is easy to marry and cheap, and he doesn't cherish it when he thinks it's easy, and even looks down on the woman and marriage. This is confirmed by countless vivid examples in life, and it is also the root of many women's attention and attention to bride price. Facts have proved that the bride price has played a certain role in promoting and stabilizing marriage.

Third, the bride price is a ceremony, but it must be measured. China is a country of etiquette, which pays attention to etiquette and ceremonies, and embodies a kind of etiquette culture in all aspects. It cares about a sense of ceremony. As the name implies, the bride price is a kind of bride price and etiquette embodied in marriage, and it is also a wedding custom. As a form of pre-marriage, it has little to do with future marital happiness, and has no direct relationship with future family happiness. We must combine the conditions of each family and pay a certain bride price within the range we can afford. Enough is enough, but it doesn't hurt. We must not unilaterally pursue the high bride price, blindly thinking that the more the bride price is, the better, which is beyond the family's ability to bear, making the bride price a huge economic burden for the other party, even an unbearable weight. This will lose the meaning of the bride price, even backfire, affect the feelings of both parties, and even bring trouble to their marriage, which will be counterproductive and not worth the candle. In this regard, it is neither desirable nor polite to be unwilling to pay a moderate bride price because of good family conditions and rich family. Similarly, we can't ask exorbitant prices just because the family is difficult and we don't have enough money, so that the other party can try to collect enough bride price, or even borrow money for the bride price, which will hurt the family and hurt its vitality. In this way, the burden will eventually fall on them and make their lives difficult, which deviates from the meaning of the bride price itself. Therefore, the bride price should be based on a basic principle, that is, it is a gift, but it must be measured, reasonable, and do what you can. Just as the saying goes, "Eat and wear, take care of your own property" must not become a pure interest transaction and business relationship, completely changing the nature of the bride price form, and that is another matter. It is completely unnecessary to criticize and oppose the moderate collection of a bride price. As a marriage custom, whether the bride price is necessary is reasonable, as long as it does not do more harm than good. The slogan is "This is OK".