How to talk may be annoying.

1. The tone of voice is "aggressive" and even accuses others.

Some people always want to suppress others with their voices when talking, and even yell at others to shut up and listen to him alone. When he speaks, he always uses language, forcing others to have nothing to say. Even if what others say is reasonable, he will make it absurd.

As the saying goes, "rationality is not high." It is annoying for a person to silence others with his voice. If a group of people talk together, if you start talking like this, others will slip away and stay away from you, leaving you to speak loudly and plausibly. If two people are chatting together and you talk like this, others will be silent, pretend not to hear, or politely answer a few words of "hmm, ah, ok", but in fact he is perfunctory.

You "cut in" when others are talking.

Once at a meeting in our unit, the boss was talking about communication skills with customers. Colleague Ling Zhou immediately grabbed the topic and said, "When I communicate with customers, I always choose a good environment and send some information to customers in advance, so that they can know about our company and cooperation first ..." Ling Zhou spoke for five or six minutes in one breath, and suddenly stopped talking, because everyone looked at her with strange eyes, and the leaders were all black-faced.

Interrupting the topic is not giving others face at all, but arguing irrationally. Maybe you mean no harm, but others will think that you are uneducated and deliberately sabotaging. Smart people, listen to other people's opinions before expressing their opinions. Even if you have heard what others say once, you should respect others and don't interrupt casually.

3. Tell what you don't know, pretend to know, and mislead others.

Some people, who still have a little knowledge of a thing, begin to comment and pretend to know it very well. He is partial to faith and partial to hearing, taking what he hears from hearsay as true and what others say casually as truth. Sometimes, talking like this will hurt others.

My classmate Li Jun is engaged in the passenger transport industry. One day, when he was running a bus, he met a bus that broke down. He stopped the car and asked the bus master kindly, "What's the matter? Let me see. " The coach said, "It never catches fire." Li Jun said, "I will work hard. This problem is usually a circuit problem. " He opened the hood of the bus, pulled out several pipes, and accidentally pulled out the oil pipe, which almost caused a fire. In fact, Lijun only learned to drive and never knew how to repair a car. He doesn't pretend to understand, and he really does bad things with good intentions.

4. I like to expose others' background, but I don't want to say it.

Some people like to expose the old story of others, poke the scars of others, and let the pain of others reappear in front of them. He used it to amuse himself, dig at others and feel like a winner.

My classmate Li Ju got divorced last month. Several students got together and wanted to take the opportunity to enlighten Li Ju. At the party, classmate Wang Ming said to Li Ju, "You woman, divorce is also a good thing. Think about how bad he used to be to you. Not only does he not work hard, he doesn't earn much money, but he often beats you and scolds you. Look at the scar on your hand. It's all from him. Poor thing. If I get divorced, I will go to his trouble and make him feel uncomfortable for a lifetime. " Originally, it was to comfort Li Ju and bypass the topic of divorce, but Wang Ming deliberately mentioned divorce and exposed other people's pain, which was undoubtedly adding salt to other people's wounds.

5. Tell others about your pain and show your pity.

No matter how sad a person is, don't complain to anyone, let alone pretend to be pathetic. When you pretend to be pathetic, you are actually acting for others. When others see it, they will not sympathize with you, but will laugh at you. After that, your words will become the talk of others.

My cousin Zhang Weiwei works in an electronics factory. Once, because of his work mistakes, a batch of products appeared, and the boss deducted his salary. He felt wronged and complained everywhere. As a result, his words were later regarded as jokes by colleagues and used to make fun of him. Someone said: "Zhang Weiwei, the level of work is not high, and the level of crying is ok." Zhang Weiwei listen, very anxious to find a disappear.

6. Say something jealous of others and deliberately "pick holes".

Some people like to "find a bone in an egg". For example, when someone else did a good job in the unit and won the excellent employee award, he said that someone else had won the wrong award, and he also satirized others by telling all the bad things about others at work.

Jealous of others means that you can't see the excellent qualities of others and don't want to learn from their strengths. Such people are also narrow-minded, dark-hearted, and will never see the sun. Even if summer comes, his heart is gloomy. When you find fault with others, you actually have a thorn in your eye and a knife in your heart.

7. You don't know how to play it by ear.

I once read a philosophical story. A mouse wanted to climb to the top of the building to see the scenery, so he climbed up along a water pipe on the outer wall. When the mouse climbed halfway, it found that the water pipe suddenly became smaller and could not pass, but the mouse didn't want to give up, so it got stuck there. After a day and a night, the sky suddenly began to rain heavily, and the rain flowed down the water pipe, choking the mouse alive.

A dead-end person is a rat who doesn't know how to advance and retreat. He won't turn to talk without thinking. Even if he is wrong, he will keep talking. As a result, he could not justify himself and was forced into a dead end.

8. If you say that you are not filial to your parents, you don't know how to be grateful.

When you keep saying how bad your parents are, people around you think you are a hopeless person, and even your parents can slander you. Who else deserves your gratitude? Even if you meet a kind person, others will walk away silently after listening to your words and will never help you again.

A person worthy of communication always says that his parents are very good and know how to be filial to them. No matter what your parents did, at least you were raised by your parents, and your life was given by your parents. All virtues: filial piety comes first. People who are not filial are certainly not kind. Anyone who meets them will make a detour.