It is said that "raising children to prevent old age", why don't parents expect their daughters to support the elderly?

Speaking of filial piety, in fact, most sons are not as filial as their daughters. My daughter was very considerate and sensible when she was a child. When she is a little older, she can help her parents with housework. When she grows up, she can buy clothes, cook and chat for her parents. After the marriage, she went back to her parents' house every three to five times and gave them big bags of gifts. When parents are old and sick, it is mostly their daughters who serve in front of the bed. But even so, people still say "raising children to prevent old age." Why don't parents expect their daughters to provide for the elderly? The reason is too realistic. How can a daughter support her parents if she has a hard time?

Many old people around us said: "We also want to count on our daughter to support the elderly, but our daughter can only support us if she leads a good life by herself." Indeed, the reality is that if many daughters don't listen to their parents' advice when they get married and go their own way, they will either marry poor boys with no money or marry far away. They lead a hard life and their parents have to worry about it. How can parents expect them to provide for the aged?

Even though my daughter got married well, she gave birth to a child after marriage and was busy all day, and she didn't have much energy to share with her parents. How can she be filial to her parents if she doesn't go to work or her salary is lower than that of her son-in-law? It is said, but unlike those who used to be poor together, if her daughter lives in poverty, her small family is still busy, and her parents can't count on her to support the elderly even if they want to.

The daughter is not the head of the family and cannot be the head of the family who supports her parents. Besides, a daughter can become the head of the family and support her parents only after marriage. Since ancient times, men have been the head of the family. As a daughter, she is not the head of the family after marriage, so naturally she can't support her parents at will. Otherwise, why should a woman marry her in-laws and be filial to them, instead of letting the man come to her house and be filial to her in-laws?

Therefore, it is more realistic to consider it from this aspect. The old man feels that it is still up to his son to provide for the aged. After all, it is natural for a son to be unfilial and should live in his son's house. But if parents are old and live in their daughter's house, they are actually son-in-law's house, and parents will feel more or less dependent. Therefore, most parents are still unwilling to expect their daughters to support the elderly from the face and psychology.

If the in-laws do not support their daughters to support their parents, it will easily lead to family conflicts. A classmate of mine, whose parents don't agree with her brother and sister-in-law, wants to take her parents to live in her own house after marriage, and she provides for her parents. In-laws, on the other hand, implicitly disapprove, not saying that "your parents will be uncomfortable when they come", that is to say, "our family has few rooms and it is uncomfortable to live in", or that "your brother and sister-in-law will give you an idea that your parents have given you all the money to take care of the children", in short, they just don't support her to support her parents. To this end, she always quarrels with her in-laws, and the relationship is very stiff.

Indeed, as a daughter-in-law, if a daughter wants to support the elderly, she must get the support of her husband's family, so that the family can be harmonious and parents can live in peace of mind in their later years. Even if she doesn't live together, her in-laws support her to serve her parents, and then her daughter's life can be better with her in-laws and help take care of the small family. It is realistic to support her parents.