Why do men just want to play mobile phones as soon as they get home from work? Finally know the answer

I have observed that many married male friends have various versions of "Ge You Lie" after returning home, and they only have mobile phones in their hands and can't see anything else. Many wives complain about this scene, and many families are either endless quarrels or all kinds of cold violence.

But in the face of women's incomprehension, men don't want to spend more time explaining. One cries, the other runs, the other chases and the other hides. This situation makes the marriage relationship worse. Why are men like this now? In the family, either silence or inaction, once a friend joked and finally understood the meaning of "a father loves a mountain". The father of a child is like a mountain.

Why do men generally have the above reaction? The book "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" was popular all over the world 20 years ago. It has partly revealed the answer for us, because men and women come from "different planets", further revealing the biological and psychological code of men.

It turns out that genes determine the different ways for men and women to relieve stress, which can be traced back thousands of years. For example, Dr. John Gray said in his book that in ancient times, men and women lived very different lives. In most parts of the world, men are responsible for dangerous hunting and foraging. After hunting at night, men either sit or squat in front of the fire. Few people talk, perhaps polishing tools, or just staring blankly at sparks. He didn't do anything but sleep. This combination of calmness, listening and alertness makes men regain their self-awareness, make men reconnect with themselves, concentrate again and meet the challenges of life.

Women are completely different. Most of them are engaged in non-dangerous jobs. Although they can do a lot of things by themselves during the day, when the work during the day is over, they often talk and laugh with the same sex, talk about what happened during the day and rub their shoulders and feet against each other. A relaxed and casual relationship helps to release the stress of one day and allows women to devote all their love to their families and communities the next day.

Look at the way men and women decompress in ancient times, and it is still so similar to the way men and women decompress in modern times. Women relieve stress by talking and accompanying, while men tend to be quiet and silent.

In addition, biological research shows that men and women have different brain structures, women prefer to talk and express, and men prefer to respond silently. The brain structure of men and women is different, which is mainly reflected in the different width of corpus callosum. According to popular science, human brain is divided into left brain and right brain, and the bridge connecting left brain and right brain is called corpus callosum. A woman's corpus callosum should be wide, and a man's corpus callosum should be narrow. This width and narrowness are like a highway. You can understand that the female corpus callosum is two-way and eight lanes, and the male corpus callosum is two-way and four lanes. This means that the information exchange between women's left and right brains is much faster than that of men, so women habitually think about it when they see it and say it when they think about it. This is also the biological reason why women are more talkative, talkative and expressive than men in general.

Back to our original topic, modern men consciously choose to achieve themselves and live a wonderful life. However, as soon as the work is over, I have to face big and small things at home. His nervous system can't adapt to the ever-changing lifestyle. In order to get rid of all kinds of responsibilities during the day, he needs some personal space to find himself again in loneliness and peace.

Many men say that this pull is especially strong when they come home from work. They are fed up with other people's demands and the dazzling and upset real world. A person works outside for a day, talks for a day, and goes home with a day's brain. He really doesn't want to talk, he really doesn't want to use his head, he just wants to be quiet. When a woman finally waits at home for her husband to come back, she just wants to chat and have fun.

The man "Ge You" plays with his mobile phone, but he actually wants to be quiet. Men have had a "cave complex" since ancient times. He really needs some cave time. During this period, he will relax himself and try to find his responsibility for family and emotion. So don't interpret men's short-term retreat and loneliness as not loving you and not being responsible for the family. On the contrary, so that he can continue to love you.

The world is changing rapidly, but the evolution of human nature is extremely slow. When a woman finally understands a man's "traditional" way of life, then don't bother him, understand him, let him go, and create a perfect lonely cave for him. When he comes out of the cave, he will give more care to his family in a more grateful and responsible state.