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Love at the age of 20 years apart , what should we pay attention to in real life?

He is 20 years older than me. What should I pay attention to to make him feel happier without being too childish?

He is divorced. The child is 7 years younger than me and will go abroad soon. Before going abroad, he stayed with her mother. The reason for their divorce was that his ex-wife didn't know how to take care of him, and he was a career-oriented man. He also loves calligraphy, piano, and flowers. I like it too, but I don't understand it, and I'm afraid I don't have the same language as him.

I love him very much and don’t want to give up the opportunity given by God’s favor. I admit that I have some Electra feelings, but I can distinguish between love and admiration. I really love him. Although I am only 22 years old, I have experienced some things and my mental age is much older than my actual age. I long for a family, and I will cherish it all.

Now we are just afraid of two things. One is how my parents will accept it, and the other is that we won’t have the same language when we get married in the future.

Please help me think about what I should pay attention to, and what should I say when I think of it?

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You don’t have to worry, as long as you truly love each other , if you are a good wife, there will definitely be no problem. You don't need to learn those hobbies specifically. You don't object to interfering with his hobbies, just give him some space and freedom. While he was writing or playing the piano, wouldn't it be nice for you to watch and listen to him, to be a spectator and a listener? When he waters the flowers, you go with him, and gradually you will understand some of these hobbies. Whether the husband likes to come home or not has a lot to do with whether the wife is a good wife. I think there shouldn’t be much of a problem with your parents. The reason why they can’t accept it is because they’re afraid that you won’t be happy. You can marry him first. Your parents will see that you are cooking rice and you are very happy. Gradually, they won’t object anymore. Just go to your parents a few more times and say nice things, and that'll be all. If you don’t believe it, just try it and see, it will definitely work! Finally I wish you happiness!