Will future parents of multiple-child families do better than the previous generation?

How to answer this question? Parental education is very important. Four types are listed respectively. Which one does it belong to?

1. Authoritative type

Authoritative parents have a reasonable balance between restraint and autonomy. While giving their children opportunities to develop self-care and self-reliance, they also provide opportunities for them to develop their own abilities. The child's development provides the required standards, necessary limits, and guiding principles.

Family characteristics: caring and listening to children, giving considerate help to children, making children feel warmth and care; at the same time, setting clear requirements for children, which are necessary for a person to adapt to society, and Inform your child of the reasons for these requests and encourage your child to communicate with you.

Family atmosphere: Parents and children are very close, and there is full exchange of emotions and ideas. Children feel that their parents are approachable and respectable, trust them, and are open and accepting of their parents’ education. Parents have high prestige in their children’s minds

Advantages of authoritative parents:

< p>The authoritative type educates children to grow more independent; and sets self-disciplined behavioral rules for themselves; is confident and has amazing problem-solving abilities; creatively decides and completes certain tasks; is more confident, friendly, sincere, and cooperative; is stronger Self-control ability; good social adaptability; ability to learn happily and confidently; ability to think independently

2. Authoritarian type

Authoritarian parents require their children to obey their own opinions absolutely. They obey their own decisions and design the future development direction for their children. Their relationship with their children is unequal and they cannot communicate effectively.

Characteristics of parents: strict control over their children, requiring their children to obey their various demands unconditionally, and severely punishing them if they violate them. Compared with authoritative parents, their requests are based more on their own preferences and rarely explain why they do so, making it impossible for children to independently choose what they should and should not do, and making children unable to feel warmth and support. .

Family atmosphere: Parents and children are not close and their relationship is not harmonious. They even have a "cat-and-mouse" relationship. They rarely communicate and work cautiously. Because their needs are often not met and timely help is provided, the children Emotions cannot be effectively vented.

The adverse effects of authoritarian parenting style:

It is easy to form two-sided behavior; anxiety, withdrawal, dissatisfaction, lack of trust in people; lack of self-confidence, unhappy mood; easy to form Produces revengeful and aggressive behaviors; cannot do it on their own and relies on being told what to do; lacks creative problem-solving skills; is not good at expressing;

3. Democratic type

Democratic parent Rarely set rules for children, or even set no limits, tolerate children's impulsive behavior, let children get used to it, and give them as much freedom as possible while ensuring physical safety.

Characteristics of parents: Rarely make requests to their children, give their children maximum freedom of movement, always put respect for their children’s wishes first, and lack communication with their children. Loving and accepting children unconditionally, over-indulging or even indulging, or not insisting that children do what they ask for.

Family atmosphere: Parents hang around their children all day long, and the relationship seems to be harmonious. In fact, it depends on the child's face. The child is a "little emperor". When the child is happy and the whole family is harmonious, the parents are angry. They are all willing to cut it down.

The adverse effects of democratic parenting style: not knowing whether something should be done and whether it is right or wrong; often feeling anxious; immature psychological development; poor self-control ability; lack of exploration and enterprising spirit; difficulty in adapting society etc.

Parents usually have very low or even no requirements for their children, and of course they are not aware of their children's needs. Among the four parenting styles, children in neglectful families are the most harmed.

Family atmosphere: The family has low requirements, low response, and only raises children but does not teach them. Parents believe that children can manage themselves. The relationship between parents and children is very subtle. There is a familiar "stranger" feeling to the children. Don’t know what to do, and don’t know who to ask for help when encountering problems

4. The adverse effects of the neglectful parenting style: it can easily lead to children’s indifferent personalities, passiveness and autism; sensitive interpersonal relationships and difficulty in making friends ; Be hostile to family and society; be easily tempted by unscrupulous gangs in society; may become a problem teenager, etc.

Summary: It is easy to see from the above four types that if you want your children to communicate more smoothly, have better mental development, better social adaptability, stronger adaptability and creativity, different choices will make your children better. There will be different futures. Parents are asked to make rational choices and create a free, healthy and happy growth atmosphere for their children.